:eek:I have a huge problem that i need help with. PORNOGRAPHY!!!! I personally have no problem with a little soft porn. The type made by women for women.
The problem is i suspect that my long term boyfriend is into really hardcore porn. The type that leaves me feeling sick and depressed.
He says the disc wasnt his, and a friend made it for him years ago. But he forgot to throw it out. I find this hard to believe as it was in a desk drawer next to the computer. The disc had many degrading movies. Women choking and vomiting while being forced into a bj. 1 woman with her head in a toilet bowl, being held down and done from behind. DROWNING!!
This has set off major red flags for me. We have been together 15 years, and have 4 children. But i feel like i dont know him anymore. We rarely have sex anymore.
This has worried me for over a year, but i just blocked it out, and carried on with life. Until yesterday that is.
I wondered if he had any more filth hidden away, so i had a look, to put my mind at rest!!!!
I found and old hd backup from 10 yrs ago. It contained alot of teenage porn, best young teen underage, and a title big brother fucks sister. Im absolutly disgusted. My head is spinning!!!!
Can you please all let me know your views on porn. And should i be worried?????? It may be 10 yrs old, but i feel it is still relevant
Wed, 03/28/2012 - 00:44
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If he does not exhibit any signs of violence in every day life then I wouldn't worry about the disc. Even in the hypothetical that he did watch it regularly, it's fake/fantasies.
As for the HD; It depends on his age. When I was younger I craved to watch others my age have sex in regards to porn, I didn't want to watch people that were way older than me have sex. So I searched out that genre at the time. Also note, consensual age varies dependent on state and country. So as in legality, you maybe should worry. As in natural cravings for porn it can be natural depending on how young we're talking about. There's also A LOT of porns that people pretend to be that young or related merely for the fantasy of it. If they are videos that appeared to be home made then that's probably not the case though.
I would make sure to monitor his behaviour. There's a chance that this is all based off of fantasies, but there is a chance that he is a sexual predator.
A functional definition of an addiction is "anything that becomes such a compulsion that it interferes with normal relationships." Perhaps he needs some help. Uou, too, could benefit through talking this out with an objective listener.