A starter kit would be a good idea. Something that gives you graduated sizes. So many toys, be they butt plugs or dildos tend to be really "big", which visually might be a turn on but unless you're a little experienced at anal play are not user friendly at first. You need to know how to relax the muscles down there and get accustomed to the feeling of something inside before taking on bigger challenges.

It depends on if you've done any butt play. Didn't you say in one of your other posts that you had already used some objects? If you have then AVERAGE penis size and width would probably be okay. You might also want to think about the Aneros prostate massager . . . . it's expensive but does a nice job of getting your ass to relax. Feels good too.

The small or medium Silk from Tantus is a great starter for anal play. The aneros is very nice, but I don't know how well it works for women, as it is designed for prostate massage. I know that Vixen just came out with a new toy called Luna which is supposed to be the "best new thing for anal beginners." Looks interesting!

Starter would be a small and medium SILICONE butt plug.

Then read this:

Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..

The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.
Anal play for beginners

Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.

First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!

Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.

Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!

The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.

so what did you end up buying and how was it ??

massee gone? hows your first toy?

you must try Mastomatic as well its a great tools.

I would agree that it's important to start out smaller when it comes to these types of toys, then work your way up as you become more confident in using them :)

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you must try Mastomatic as well its a great tools.

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"I would agree that it's important to start out smaller when it comes to these types of toys, then work your way up as you become more confident in using them"

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Speaking about the glass ones (I mean Dildos) I'm usually using my sensiglass dildos after I carefully immerged them in boiled water, gentely caressing it with a soft cotton tissue, and adjusting the tips with lube. I've heard that some girls even put these fascinating objects in refrigerators. Isn't that dangerous for the dildo? I mean for the glass stability as shape and size? Wonder how it feels inside if so cold?? Brrruuwm! Must be something incredible! Frankly I think I'm not yet enough cheeky'n'bitchy to try that. All My Love for you DOC! and All The Best For You All!!!!
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I have bought myself this kit http://www.sextoylisting.com/products/cp_anal-juli-ashton-anal-beginner-...

and it's nice that you can test the different sizes.

[QUOTE=Emily69;205399]I have bought myself this kit http://www.sextoylisting.com/products/cp_anal-juli-ashton-anal-beginner-...

and it's nice that you can test the different sizes.[/QUOTE]

:p:):) WOW! Hey! they are realy impressive Emily!! especialy the Clasic Junior. Speaking on a slight estetical side I would prefere the black one, even if only for contrast reasons ( I have a medium size mirror in my bedroom - 20 x 50 inches- revers side of the bed ). I have to admit that I don't consider my self ready for over medium sizes, at least not yet ( one of the reasons for the quarells with my Ex). For now I just dicoverd a Mr.Shinning glass dildo i.e. - http://www.sensiglass.ca/en/products/anal_glass_dildos/ - but who knows?!