Perhaps he thought it was a turn on to you (it is for some women) or it was a turn on for him.

I'm with you on that one...I think being slapped is def. a turn off and demeaning. I would just tell him you don't like it--that would solve the problem.

YOu should definitely NOT be insulted by it, on the contrary, if he just (out of the blue) slapped your arse during sex he was probably carried away in the moment and slapped it more out of his personal point of view then yours.

If it felt degrading the correct thing to do is to talk about it, tell him how you feel or better still, get him to explain his reasoning for it!

I know when I am doing doggy with my wife I sometimes get the urge to slap her butt, dont always do it but have and tis is in no way to demean her....its just a beautiful sight, the soft rounding of a females buttocks......makes me want to "punish" her for having something so beautiful which I get access to very (too) seldom.

Talk about it and after getting his reasoning, if you are still of the same opinion regarding it, tell him. Maybe he is slightly into S&M?!

NO! Not at all! It's just another element in the sex act. Many women love being slapped (not too much of course) in the butt. My wife does, a lot.

So by no means take this as being an insult. And please, PLEASE!, don't take it as if thinks he's with a prostitute and / or porn star. Not the point. Don't let any tabus or misinterpretations lead to discussions or bad feelings.

Sex, as you said, should be adventurous. The slapping bit is such a tiny part of being adventurous that, and don't be offended by my words, you should think what exactly "adventurous" means to you related to sex.

I love being spanked.. Not too hard.. but enough to were i can feel it.

It would certainly be reasonnable to say that most women like their partner to grab their buttocks. i.e. while kissing, etc.

There is a thin line between such behavior and a gentle slap.

Spanking is another thing though. There's a world of difference between the two.

Please do not spank me in an way, shape, or form.

I am not a good little wifey getting you beer ala the 50's.
I am not a good ol' hoss you give a salutory slap to for a good ride.

Men will however persist in giving me a slap on the rump. Even after having the point discussed. Not being a small woman, I promptly flip around, get behind them, and spank their ass for them. Then I ask how much they enjoyed it.

Sometimes one just has to demonstrate things before the issue becomes clear.

Being spanked TOTALLY destroys all sexual desire in me and brings out the aggression.

hey, never meant spanking here. slapping the butt is not spanking, come on.
EEKitten, never imagined you would like it, you're a dominatrix for crying out loud :D
And FYI, my wife sometimes slaps my butt when I'm on top. I like it, don't feel bad for it.

Thanks Cat! I will probably need it--but if I have any questions, I will come to you!

i slap my girls ass all the time even when we are not having sex, like when we are out for a walk. we both find it a turn on

When my wife is on top I like to grab her ass and continue to pump away on her. There are times she likes some light spanking and it is fun for me and turns her on even more. But it is generally very light and doesn't leave any red marks.

Some do like it, and some do not and, yes, there are degrees.
However it is best to NOT automatically assume that she will enjoy it.
And it is best to take her word for it if she says No.

I don't know why some women think it's degrading to get slapped on the butt during sex, but to each her own. Personally, especially in doggy style, I love a little tap on the behind. Nothing too hard of course but it's how I know my man is enjoying himself.

I believe it's the famous Porn Movie Syndrome (PMS). Anything related to or that men might have seen in them and actually thought it's a good idea makes some women think we want to treat them as whores.

But hey, tastes are always different... I guess...

The only time I ever do that do my gf is if I've picked her up and she wraps her legs around my waist (forgotten what that position is called....) At that point, it seems to enhance the orgasm for her, although it's not particularly reliable.

Very interesting read here.... Amazing how different people are.

My ex frequently asked me to spank her, and even told me I didn't do it hard enough when I acceded to her requests. She also wanted me to "ravage" her from time to time (in the bodice ripper fashion, not jumping her in the underground parking garage). I didn't do that enough for her either....

Just putting this out there as a difference of experience and more proof positive that everyone likes it different.

Figure it out for yourself I guess, but don't be offended right off the hop. After all, you can't think of everything to discuss ahead of time, so there's an element of venturing forth with a little something from time to time and see how it works. Makes for a bit of surprise I suppose... :-)

Just don't be too crazy out of the chute like mutual erotoasphyxiation or some such (sorry I know I butchered that word...)

The Wet One

[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;181389] She also wanted me to "ravage" her from time to time (in the bodice ripper fashion, not jumping her in the underground parking garage). I didn't do that enough for her either....

The Wet One[/QUOTE]

That is fu-cking hot lol.

Anyways, my fiance and I grab or playfully smack each other's bums all the time. Its more playfully sexy then lustfully. He grabs my ass really tight when we do it doggy-style though...and I love it, but I like it rough ;). I grab his when I'm on my back with my legs wrapped around his waist, he seems to love it and it makes him go deeper lol :P