well i have been seeing this girl for quite sometime now, and we had a pretty good time the other night at a friends house. After a LOOOONNNGGG make out (approx. 3 hrs) i decided to pay attention to her breasts. First off she is very shy of hers, she says they are very ugly. I think quite the opposite, i think they are beautiful. She liked that i thought this way. So i began softly touching them, moving in closer and closer. after about 5 minutes, she just didn't seem to be enjoying it as much as I thought she could.
So my plight is....how can i please her breasts better? any tips or insights will be VERY helpful, thanx.
Tue, 07/13/2004 - 21:38
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Breast help
it is not about pleasing her breasts that's the thing. She is self concious and i think she really is. Just keep complimenting her on them... and say no matter how you feel about them i think they are beautiful and just feel pleasure.. don't worry about what you look like cuz i think ur perfect... and just butter it up like that and tell her how you feel. But if it is ur technique being off try licking around them then on them slowly... then ask her when to go fast... or put ur hands on them and slowly go in the middle and do things with ur finger... there must be a poll on here soemwhere on that... but just do things to her and experiment with her and ask her what she likes... and if what u do turns her on...
Her breasts may not be as sensitive as you would hope.
Light touches are usually the best way to go, though. Often men are too rough with our breasts (tune in Tokyo ring a bell anyone? lol)
Ooops I double posted!!
A woman's sexual response is so tied into her self image. She thinks they are ugly and that makes her shy. So it doesn't really matter what you do because she is going to hold on to that mental image until she decides to let it go.
To help her get over this I suggest you be very gentle with her. Don't belittle her feelings on it. You can say that you understand that she feels that way but you don't. It will take you saying this over and over until she is able to except it.
When you do play with them again be very gentle, perhaps do it in the dark where she won't feel as shy about you touching them. You need to show her that you care for her and except her as she is.
I would say be very careful not to get impatient with her. It won't help her to feel good about her body or to feel good about receiving pleasure from you.