Alright everyone. I'm 21... lost my virginity to a friend, well one i had feelings for of course, about a week ago. That turned out not well, he freaked out afterwards about how much I was going to hate him for it... I wanted it to happen!! He stopped talking to me... then i went through some kind of emotional freakout where i felt unwanted and disgusting (he didn't even hug me afterwards, no support from him) Anyhow, i'm much better... however i have these friends, a couple (male and female who have been dating a while) I haven't known them but for a little over 6 months... And they recently propositioned me... I think... To have sex with them... or at least with the male... they begged me to spend the night and I took it all jokingly until he came into my room and laid on my bed and got serious with it... then I told him I would just rather go to sleep, I'm sure he knew i was uncomfortable... He then asked me if I was sure that i didn't want to get into bed with them and i declined. OKAY... so here's the deal, i find myself curious and really wanting to do this now... but i've only had sex once..... any comments or advice... PLEASE??
Sun, 07/03/2005 - 23:01
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Brand New but already crazy
I have decided that maybe just having a conversation with the woman in the relationship would be the best thing for me to do!! THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP... would it be taboo to let you know if its amazing or not afterwards??
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yeah deffinatly find out the rules, maybe go out with your girlfriend for coffee or something and as oberon said, make sure that you ae okay with the fact that you are just their for fun... can you deal with a sexual relationship without becoming attched?
I recently lost my virginity as well, and I would have to advise you not to do it. If your first time didn't go well, which it seems that it didn't then I would suggest that you get some experience before jumping into boyfriend sharing or a threesome.
But this is just my opinion, which I will admit is a bit conservative, so if you really want to do it then listen to everyone here. Ask questions, get the rules, and above all be safe, use a condom and any other birth control you can.
That is what i'm thinking, but i want to ask them more questions about it and am not sure how too... i want to know about their relationship, because I am extremley close to the female in the relationship, i like her a whole lot and it might be strange to do anything with her boyfriend, I'm not even sure if she's planning on joining in, or if its just a... "here... borrow my boyfriend" type thing.... hmmm....
Well, the first thing you should do is to make SURE of the rules before joining in someone else's relationship. Make sure the couple is secure enough to deal with a third. Also, for yourself, make sure that YOU are secure enough to know that this is THEIR relationship and you are just there for fun.
You should also discuss safety precautions such as condoms and a spermicide- gel or foam, not the kind already on the condom.
After that, and assuming all is well, if you want to do it, then go for it.
I would say if you want then give it a go, I mean there is only one way to learn right?