[QUOTE=Miss Hardt;181560]I don't know if this is normal, or who is to say what is normal, but my boyfriend and I have been together for 11 years and live together. Last week I getting the video camera out and a video tape was in the camera, and I didn't know what was on the tape so I decided to check it, and to my surprise it was my boyfriend masterbating. There were several different times on the tape. I decided to check a couple of other tapes that were unlabled in the entertainment center. I found 2 more tapes. Just him masterbating. Nothing else. Is this normal??? I asked him about the tape and why he tapes himself, and he said he didn't know. Should I be concerned??? Any insight would be appreciated. I don't know if I should just let it go and accept that he does that when I'm not home. (I work during the day and he works graveyard shift)[/QUOTE]

Maybe he likes to look at his facial expressions, his paterns, and overall actions while being aroused to improve upon his actions while with you. Like a football team going over game tape.

Just an idea

haha, maybe he is looking for better form and technique? I used to video tape myself throwing for shotput/discus, and used to watch for that.

I dont think you should be concerned about himself masterbating and recording it, although I would ask him to keep them in a private place(entertainment center sound like anyone could stumble on them), and maybe find out if he ever posted any online. But overall, I dont see any problems with it.

Personally? I think it's odd but maybe he is one of those who are more interested/turned on by watching himself then other's What makes me think it's so odd? The quantity of tapes he has!

Maybe he's in love with himself.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Granted, it seems a little odd, but harmless. (Although like someone previously mentioned, you probably do want to request that he put them somewhere private.)

If you wanted to surprise him, you could always give him a tape with you on it. But that's a different topic entirely...

This is a non-issue.

Males are visually oriented and they like sex. This is normal. They also like to videotape themselves making love. Also normal.

and it is masturbation - with a U, not an e

Maybe this is some form of exhibitionism?

I know some guys get turned on by being caught masturbating. I've heard of some guys renting a motel room and then timing things so they are "caught" masturbating by the maid when she comes in to clean. Personally I wouldn't do this but I ALMOST accidentally got caught a few times... it made me very *very* excited though I don't know why because I'm not an exhibitionist.

Maybe your bf was kind of going for a "light" version of this by taping himself masturbating and then leaving the tapes lying around so people might find them.

For exhibitionists, even the possibility of getting caught turns them on!

I would offer to hold the camera!!;)

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;181686]This is a non-issue.

Males are visually oriented and they like sex. This is normal. They also like to videotape themselves making love. Also normal.

and it is masturbation - with a U, not an e[/QUOTE]

Thank you, EvilEvilKitten. I'm always disappointed when other women can't connect the dots on understanding something as simple as the male sex drive.

I don't see a problem. I videotape myself jacking off alot. I like to see myself cum and shoot my load. It doesn't detract from my relationship with my wife.:)