[SIZE="3"][FONT="Arial Narrow"] well my boyfirend and i been together for almost two years and we have been sexually active for over an a year.we're very happy with each other and usually we're connected and have a great sex life but for the past couple months theres been a few problems...
for almost three months if not more,almost everytime we tried to have sex,neither one of us can no longer feel it! at the beginning its great but then about half way through either me,him or both of us loses the feeling,like going numb almost. and its causing some stress on our sex life since we cant enjoy being with each other sexually.
so has any one else went through this before or understand what im talking about? i would really like some advice or really anything! thank you [/FONT][/SIZE]
Are you using some lube which may be causing "numbness" or one of the clitoral gels? Also, do you have issues in your relationship (not the sexual part)?
we never use any kind lubes or gels,and yea we have problems just like any couple but we usually work through them,eventhough we have been going through a rough patch the last month but we always had problem but they never effected us in this kind of way before
Most likely you are becoming tense, you stop breathing deeply, and you lose focus. More than most likely you both are also not properly hydrated before you start and have not taken your vitamins or gotten your exercise. Your bodies are just not up to having sex and they're letting you know it.
Take a 30 minute walk and then slowly drink cool but not chilled water, take your vitamins at this time. Then take a shower together where you wash him and he washes you. Relax wearing bathrobes on the deck or balcony sipping red wine - just the one glass - and mildly chat telling eachother what you enjoy about him/her. Then go to bed and both of you try to body worship the other at the same time. After this - there should be no problems.
[FONT="Impact">[COLOR="Magenta">First off, foreplay a little longer than usual. The more aroused you are the wetter you get. Try some lubricant and try going for a shorter time... after a while a women can become less wet which can be part of the 'numbing' feeling. so b4 you run over to his house for a little bedroom fun, make a wuick stop at a CVS or something and pick up a little bottle of KY... you really dont need a lot cuz the little goes along way. Good Luck! :) [/COLOR][/FONT]
Please change your font to something legible, Steff - thank you.
I agree. Color should be used for accenting. That font looks like an extended bar code!
As for the o/p's question, I would like clarification. When and where is the numbing happening?
> almost every time we tried to have sex,neither one of us can no longer feel it! at the beginning its great but then about half way through either me,him or both of us loses the feeling,like going numb almost.
Answering my own question, it would seem that the two of you are prolonging intercourse. Would I be correct in guessing that the two of you go on for longer than ten minutes or so? If so, then the two of you need to adopt another strategy.
There is nothing wrong with staying "coupled" for an extended length of time; however, if your boyfriend is trying and trying to reach a climax from lots and lots of stroking then you've got the proverbial cart before the horse. Most women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired. Ideally, intercourse should begin when one or the other of you (especially him) is at the brink of a climax. Stroking should maintain that level of arousal, then thrusting soon after will trigger the climax.
If the two of you wish to extend intercourse out for a while and perhaps also enjoy additional orgasms, my recommendation is to pull out every so often, return to the basics of hand and/or oral, rebuild his level of arousal, and re-engage. This will work for both of you. As for you, I'd suggest having an orgasm or two before intercourse, and after, if it is your desire.
Only a few positions make it possible for the woman to receive the required amount of stimulation, I suggest that if the two of you are not already doing this, that he reach around and finger your clitoris while stroking away. The key to your success seems to me to be with when along your respective response curves you begin intercourse. WAIT, and don't start until you both are on the raw edge of loosing control, yet not so close that he'll loose it when moving around and getting into position. Later, if "the feeling" goes away, pull out, return to the basics of hand and/or oral stimulation, then re-engage.
I hope this is of help. If I happen to be off base with what you are asking, please give more information.