I'm not a doctor but if you're cramping, I'm guessing it's simply a muscular inability to do the action. Assuming that's correct, as the muscles get stronger from repetition it should get easier.

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Riding a man is just like riding a horse using an English saddle.

Kneel astride him, sit upright, and using your knees as a fulcrum move up and forward then down and back (there's where you bounce), using the bedsprings to help sustain the motion. Beware - the bed may not be up to par. If the springs are too rigid, you'll have to work more. No, you don't lay on top of him - you sit on him.

Forget this put your feet flat on the bed nonsense - your legs aren't that short and his penis isn't that long plus it is damn hard on your knees - try doing deep knee bends for 15 minutes straight, guys, then we'll talk.

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practice! ;)

i used to find this really awkward and i was so self concious and embarrassed about having a guy see all of me while i was on top of him.But like EEK said it's just like being a jockey on a horse.I had the most amazing experience with this a little while ago.I rarely orgasm through vaginal penetration,but when i did cowgirl on two ocassions i came and it was so nice

Booty bounce? Booty clap? OK I learned some new terms today or new ways of saying basic woman on top "cowgirl position"...I think. Int1103 is absolutely correct. You are not accustomed to this position or activity and your muscles lack the necessary strength and above all elasticity to do it for very long. I recommend a bit of yoga or even better your basic stretching exercises used by runner and practitioners of martial arts such as karate, kungfu and taekwondo.
Here are some stretch videos. Not all of these will apply to what you want to do, but all of the leg and hip stretches will probably help with your booty bouncing. Frankly when I was less experienced I thought that woud be really cool anmd exciting, but I found that having the woman on top and grinding rather than bouncing was much better for me. Still you need to have a certain flexibility to do this well. My experience has been that more flexible women are always more fun in bed, or wherever:)

[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-iY5V0xiiKw&feature]YouTube - Free Flexibility Video: 5-Minute Stretch Routine

[url=http://www.ehow.com/video_4774772_basic-stretches-karate_.html]What Are Some Basic Stretches for Karate?: Martial Arts & Ninjutsu | eHow.com

i think simple body weight exercises such as squats, lunges, and some pushups will do the trick

As you describe it, this could not be done by an Olympic gymnast! No one's legs are that strong and supple. Kneel astride him and take him into you. Then, leaning forward and supporting yourself on the mattress or his chest, rock to and fro. Intersperse the rocking with some grinding to get yourself stimulated. And, it is not a speed event.

I think I know what it is she is talking about, and I think I found a link, but sadly its to a adult porn site that shows what it is she wants and I think thats against the rules of the board to post?

Normally I don't do this, but unless there is visual imagery we could all be wrong in guessing what it is she wants.

[QUOTE=shinji;262324]I think I know what it is she is talking about, and I think I found a link, but sadly its to a adult porn site that shows what it is she wants and I think thats against the rules of the board to post?

Normally I don't do this, but unless there is visual imagery we could all be wrong in guessing what it is she wants.[/QUOTE]

I've seen a link to youporn on this site before. I think the criterium is that such links should contribute to the discussion. I see no harm in it, especially when you make it explicit in the post that the link will go to a pornsite. Images can truly explain more than a 1000 words can! (this thread is probably already close to that amount while guessing... ;))

Based on a Google search for the phrase "booty clap" I think I found it too, shinji. From what I saw, the girl is on all 4's as if to receive doggy, and she rotates her hips and bounces her butt to make the cheeks "clap".

I don't think it's possible to add a booty clap to cowgirl. There's no way he'd be inside, because the angle of her body is all wrong in relation to his. Only position I can see adding it to is doggy.

Rishell, if you're trying to be on top with your upper body parallel to his, no wonder your hips are cramping!! If your faces are within kissing distance, the position will fail you. You need to be way more upright. Your BF is right that rotating your hips will help, but the booty clap thing isn't the way to add it in.

Have you ever had your hips involuntarily roll forward and back when he's fingering you? Mimic that.

Thing is, my first ex did it and it felt good, but only for a limited time. The person I am currently dating can do it as well, but for an extended period of time, and they are the same body type. So this is kind of tricky because there are different variations out there and we don't know which one the OP wants.

I google first booty bounce and got a video of a woman lying down and jiggling her buttocks similar to the tyechnique usually seen by woman standing or slightly hunched in hip hop and reggaeton videos. Booty clap got me the following definition from the Urban Dictionary (not found in Webster or Oxford dictionaries): 1.Booty clap When a woman makes a clapping sound with her booty. Shaking her butt and making the cheeks slap together, making a clapping sound.
Make your booty clap for me girl! She wanted to show him that she was a pro, so she made her booty clap.
2.Booty clap The act of shaking ones glutes to music, ie. R&B, Hip hop, in order to demonstrate superior feminine sex characteristics.
See Jenny Jones
3. Booty clap The term was created by pirates in the late 13th century, BC. Booty refers to a Pirate's "treasure" such as gold, chains, penor's etc. The clapping refers to an action that occurs after the "booty" was discovered. Pirates tend to clap in joy when a booty is found. Booty clap.
Bobby the Pirate Booty Clap near the Atlantic Ocean when he found a golden pimp cup at the bottom of the ocean.

BUT!!!!! for booty bounce the Urban Dictionary says the following:
1. Booty bounce
While doing a girl dogie style, you pay particular attention to making a girls ass cheeks bounce and clap together.
While fucking Lauren I mad her Booty Bounce.

Lauren: What are you doing?
Kyle: Making your booty bounce!

Poor spelling and choice of vocabulary may be attributed to the Urban Dictionary. I only copied and pasted.

This last definition seems to come closer to what Rishell wants to achieve but it says "dogie style" (sic) and not woman on top. After rereading the original post I agree that is she is on top leaning over him she is more likely to get tired and perhaps less likely to perform the act which she wishes to perform.

This whole concept is completely outside my realm of awareness, knowledge and experience, but on Yahoo! Answers of all places I found the following instructions
[url=http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060910132518AA3AR1k]Booty clap?...how does that work? - Yahoo! Answers

I can see how it would be amusing to some people the way I enjoy having my face slapped with very large breasts or the way my wife enjoys seeing and hearing me shake my hips so my penis slaps against them.

You're best bet is likely to read the threads on this site regarding "woman on top", "girl on top", "how to ride".

The vast majority of ways people can do a "booty clap", where one moves in a way to have a larger than average buttocks smack together through movement of the thighs and torso, are not ideal for sex with you on top. The leg positioning and movement are all wrong and/or impossible for good sex. It might look attractive to some from a certain angle, but will be detrimental to the actual goal of strong stimulation happening inside.

Probably the easiest thing for you to start with is simply to do whatever feels best for YOU. The closer my partners have come to orgasm the more they begin clench and twist around inside involuntarily, and that alone feels great for me. The more you're into it, the more he will be, and since sex is mostly in the brain you can get away with a lot less technical expertise simply by making sure the other person really wants it in the first place.

And that would mean that your rump (about which few women are happy) has to be 'loose' not tight or muscular but just kind of hanging there and...wobbly, like the underarm skin of an aged woman. WOBBLY.

About as attractive one would have thought as asking a larger male to do a Belly Bounce.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;262333]And that would mean that your rump (about which few women are happy) has to be 'loose' not tight or muscular but just kind of hanging there and...wobbly, like the underarm skin of an aged woman. WOBBLY.[/QUOTE]
loose , not tight rump...wobblylike the underarm skin of an aged woman. EvilEvilKitten you win first place in the unsightly analogy division for this month. While you and I might be on the same side of the human aesthetics fence believe it or not some men find what you are describing to be tremendously arousing and desireable and there are women who are proud to have such assets!!!

[QUOTE=dlb;262353]loose , not tight rump...wobblylike the underarm skin of an aged woman. EvilEvilKitten you win first place in the unsightly analogy division for this month. While you and I might be on the same side of the human aesthetics fence believe it or not some men find what you are describing to be tremendously arousing and desireable and there are women who are proud to have such assets!!![/QUOTE]

agreed. im more of a fan of muscular rumps myself

Thank you, thank you. *bows*.

Yes, I am aware of the endless variety of what people find attractive.

But wobbly and floppy doesn't do it for me and I'd be willing to wager that MOST men don't want to hear themselves referred to as being either.

There is an entire sexual subculture devoted to the huge booty in the USA. To each his or her own. What works for me is DD or larger breasts that the owner can make spin or swing in opposite directions at the same time:D

Good luck with that, dlb.

As for me give me a quick mind and a lively non-malicious sense of humor!

Personally; I think the beauty lies in the confidence with which a woman moves her body and let's herself go.

When you let a woman confidently parade the beach; most guys only saw a beautiful woman. While most girls think the boys are crazy to gaze while she passes by and the girl must be out of her mind cause her butt is too big, her tummy is too wobbly to wear a bikini and the cellulite way too obvious.

Each healthy body has it's beauty, whether skinny, big, tall, small, etc. And each has advantages. Bouncing your booty only works when there's some meat there. Now let's clap that booty while singing out loud: Big girls, you are beautiful! :) A little tune provided here: [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDSK91mUNLU]YouTube - MIKA - Big Girl You Are Beautiful Or get some Latin American Music like they play at the carnaval; great for booty-clapping, hips twirling and shaking every part of your body :D

Maybe Mika is not the sexiest music, but it's fun! :) I remember hearing this first time while at my job together with one of my colleagues (both big girls) We walked around smiling for the rest of the day!

i love that song RR Mika is the bomb not to mention his song about one of my favourite actresses Grace Kelly but thats another story.I'm not big as in obese but solid with wide hips,and a nice cushiony rear.I wear a size16-18 clothes,thats Australian sizing and i do need to lose a little weight.I want to get down to a 12-14 clothing size if i can.I will never be the size 8-10 i was in my teens and early 20's.But i want to look sexy for when i get another partner.When i do cowgirl i try to be as upright as i can be,grinding and moving my hips.The sensation is fantastic and the guy loves it when i lean forward and tease him by putting my breasts close to his face,and whispering do you want me in his ear.It drives him crazy.