> I'm 20 and think I am an pretty ok looking girl but I don't know If I am percieved as sexy because of my breast size or the whole package......

"Sexy" is more than "the whole package", sexy is the entire package, mind, body, and, soul.

Girls come equipped with breasts ranging from nearly flat to very large (and heavy). Guys come equipped with a penis generally in a range of 4" to perhaps 8" give or take.

Our body types can be curvacious, straight, wide, petite, or as the song says in the "Sound of Music" musical: a broad should be broad where a broad should be broad--or lyrics to that effect. Guys: scrawny, fat, or anywhere in between.

When we fall for a person we tend to be attracted to personalities and a particular range of body types. We also accept a person for who s/he is including the pieces-parts as yet unseen. So, if you want to attract a boy, dress nicely and appropriately for the occasion, sport a smile, and have a pleasant demeanor, and personality. Show self confidence. If this attracts a fella, you do not have to worry much about physical attributes. Remember: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

Also understand that every one of us, male and female, have issues with some part of our anatomy. Fix what you can and get along with the rest.

> What is the best way to tell if a guy want's to "do" you or try a relationship with you??

As for the former: Because he shows above average interest in a person; because he falls all over himself in an attempt to make an impression; because he will make overt and rude comments about his wishes, your appearance, etc.

As for the latter: In a perfect scenario, he will ask you to go on a proper date to some event. He will ask you if you want to be gf/bf?

Question: "Do you?" If he does, before any extended dating, then he has little care and concern for the real you, he's probably only interested in getting his proverbial rocks off at your expense any way he can talk or coerce you into it.

> I seem to have issues telling the difference....

A great guy will respect you, look out for your well being, be interested in you and your activities, support you emotionally, show concern in all that you do, not take advantage of you, not disrespect you, not place you in harm's way, will want to place you at the top of his priorities.

A great guy will not monopolize your time, not be in your face, not put you on a pedestal, not talk down to you or about you to others.

Lastly, as for "doing you", please do not be in a rush to "be done". Have more respect for yourself.

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In some cases it might just be the boobs, the butt, the gams, the mug, the hair.... in many cases it's the whole package. I wouldn't go on a 2nd date with someone I didn't enjoy talking with, and being around. My wife and I had been hanging out together for two weeks when a guy friend mentioned her amazing pair of breasts. I had'nt even noticed!

well I am in HS but from my experiance its where the guys looking. Most guys just stare at my reasts or my ass and alot of guys my legs. Guys like that generaly just want a body and saddly girls become interchangable to them. But some guys transend that and look into my eyes they listen to my words and I like that.

I guess I expect guys to look at my body cause I know they will. It does not bother me when they do I kinda like it. But the guys that can only look at my body...not at me those are the guys I wont ever date. The guys that can look past the body and see the person and genuinly want to know me, There the guys I will date or get to know better. So I guess what I am saying is look for the balance.

There are those men who are hung up on one aspect rt another of our perceived "beauty." You get accustomed to having your boobs checked out - by men an women - because they are the most noticeable bit of our sexual development. You will also learn what dressing appropriately means, thereby reducing the problem somewhat.

But remember we can be confusing. When I am dressed in blouse slacks and lab coat, I object men trying to look down my blouse; whilst wearing a sexy evening dress with a platform bra, they damned well better notice. Watch out for sending mixed messages - and men seem to get better at checking you out as they age, even to the point that it is not as noticeable.

Some Hollywood star of decades ago was famous for her statement, "I dress for other women; I undress for men." Not bad advice.

Loopy, I think you're lucky that you can start this thread with some self confidence, knowing you're "pretty OK looking". Breast size I can't comment on and wouldn't wish to, as there's no sweeping generalisation I can make on behalf of men-kind's approach to boobs.

What I do need to say is, self confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a man can see in a woman. No matter how you're built, how you dress, how you photograph, any man you're in a relationship with will not appreciate vanity, insecurity, self depreciation. I used to date an ex-model. She looked amazing, in and out of clothes. It was a joy that so many friends and passersby would compliment her on her appearance. Unfortunately it was also infuriating that she couldn't see it herself. She'd spend ages worrying about what to wear, applying and reapplying her make up, thinking her bum looked big in this........... etc.

Once she got quite upset and complained her thighs has grown by an inch. I went on a mini light-hearted rant saying, "look, you're a 5'7" beautiful woman, with a great set of legs and cleavage out to here!! You're hair flows in the wind, your eyes sparkle and your smile lights up a room!! You make me laugh and challenge me. You got soul, spark and intelligence. You think I'm going to see that inch?!"

If a guy is interested in you for the right reasons, he'll let you know there's lots of reasons to be interested.

My wife and I had been hanging out together for two weeks when a guy friend mentioned her amazing pair of breasts. I had'nt even noticed!

Its the whole deal! Boobs and other part of the body can be sexy but if you partner does not attract from a mental point of view then whats the point? I met my wife over 20 odd years ago and I was attracted to her because she was so full of life (she was learning to tap dance for a hobby). That was far more sexy then her boobs (until we got in the bedroom)

Not really sure I understand the correlation between your first sentence and your 2nd.

Guys want sex regardless of what their intentions are as far as starting a relationship or not. And if you've got large breasts, they like that. A lot. It's going to get you attention and going to make guys want to do things with them. If they're a good asset, use 'em to your advantage.