Different people get off in different ways. Bondage (or bindage) is not for everyone, but I happen to enjoy it very much-so I'll share some thoughts.

There are different restraint systems: metal, leather restraints, cages and stocks,and then rope and other tyable materials.

Most people begin with tying (many find their kinky niche right there) and most begin with tying or being tied to a bed. A common question is-I have my partner tied, now what do I do?

Tying a person on her back, legs apart, allows the tier to fondle and caress, lick and suck and of course penetrate the tied person. The "victim" is at the mercy of her partner. You do it once, you do it again, you wonder -is that all?

Many people enjoy adding role play to their bondage. There is a style of bondage called DID ,Damsel or Dude) In Distress. These are role play scenarios in which one partner has been taken prisoner or hostage by a robber, rival gang member, vikings/pirates/bad cowboy etc. and the other partner is either the "bad guy" or the hero who saves her. The prisoner can be "tortured" and taken advantage of sexually. If the partner is playing the hero role he can discover her bound, set her free and save her and then receive his "reward" from her.

Another approach to rope bondage is making an extended love making session using rope. This requires no role playing, only two people who want to share. Rope comes in different materials and textures. Probably the easiest to find will be the white soft polypropelene at your local Super Store or cotton rope if you can find it. For people who decide to explore farther there are silk, bamboo (very soft actually), flax, jute,hemp (my favorite) and other materials in a variety of colors.

Let the tying become foreplay. It doesn't have to be spread eagle on the bed. You can tie a person to a chair, table leg, a sturdy coffee table, any secure post or pillar like structure or rather than tying the person to something simply tie her in a position. While in DID bondage the tying process can be sort of playfully rough in this type of bondage the rope should be applied playfully and sensually. There can be lots of caressing and hugging and teasing as the rope goes around the limbs and torso (never around the neck!) and many rope enthusiasts enjoy the feel of the rope being pulled gently across their skin. It is a bonding not only of a body, but a bonding of minds and souls that many of us feel. After the copulation or what have you, the love making continues as the ropes are removed. More gentleness, talk of how hot or beautiful she looks with rope, using the rope to continue stimulating the skin, more caresses and hugs as are inevitable while removing rope from a torso.

some positions

Tying a persons wrists to her ankles makes her feel "vulnerable" and "controlled" and also leaves her open to sexual stimulation while on her back, side or even knees with face down for vaginal or anal penetration. In this last position the partner doing the tying and penetrating should be sure that his "victim" has a pillow for support, can be comfortable (unless discomfort is your thing) and is in no danger of suffocation. Also in this position the tied person can be on her knees and apply oral sex to the seated or standing partner.

Tied over a sturdy object: a banister (if it is solid), a couch, a large trunk (good if you are playing pirate and wench) an ottoman, or fancy dungeon furniture if you really get into this!

Arms under breasts. This is good if your guy is a breast man as it pushes the breasts together and lifts them. You will be helpless to fend him off as he gropes, mouths and slides his penis between your breasts!

Decorative Erotic Rope

The situations described above are all about functional bondage. There is another approach which consists of decorating one's partner's body with rope. Movement might be restricted, but often as not she is free to walk around, using the "bondage" like rope lingerie. Many people find that it looks and feels sexy. When you look and feel sexy you want to have sex! I make, brassieres, corsets, leggings and gauntlets, dresses and bikinis from rope.

Before you get Started

The above is an overview of approaches to bondage. There are much more advanced things that I did not mention.

Bondage can be very dangerous. Never do bondage when a person does not feel well, is under the influence of any substance, suffers epilepsy, or does not consent to this sort of activity.

Always have safety scissors-EMT shears are best- at hand. At hand means the person responsible for tying can reach them within 1 second and cut the rope off in case of an emergency.

Never tie a person or allow yourself to be tied to something that could fall over. Always give objects a serious stress test before using them as a hard point.

Some people are allergic to certain fibers. If you are unsure about whether a certain rope might cause a reaction wear a piece around a wrist or ankle for a few minutes to see if there is a reaction. Better that than wait until you are completely wrapped up and helpless.

Many people will tell you "have a safe word." Read the sticky and decide whether you need one or not.
What is a "Safe Word"? Choosing & Using...

Now some links to give you some ideas about how rope bondage can be done.

Basic tying instructions
http://www.twistedmonk.com/video.htm

and some useful pretty stuff

http://www.japanrope.com/tutorial.html

and some decorative stuff

http://www.ropefashions.com/index.php

If you want to try metal or leather restraints or cages and stocks and pillories I suggest you look up BDSM equipment or bondage equipment or supplies. There are many stores online.

If there is anything else you would like to know feel free to ask.

Have fun!

Please be advised that there are some issues involved with this bondage thing.

1. Safe word. Get one and use it.
2. No more than 45 minutes restrained at any one time.
a. after that it is felony kidnapping
b. any longer can cause psychologial damage in some
3. Never leave a restrained person alone
see psych damage note above

If you're going to do this, do it right, and safely. Be a responsible person.

I'd also counsel you to bear in mind the concept "fair is fair".

BTW I use leather cuffs and straps all with quick release catches. Less set-up time = more play time.

For many people under the bed velcro straps are kinky enough. Your local sex shop probably even sells sheets with velcro attachments. I started out tying my girlfriend to a dorm bed with a couple of neckties and the belt from my bath robe. You don't need fancy equipment-just imagination.

ANY restraint requires a SAFE WORD. Consider it for a moment. There you are velcro'd down and you have to go to the bathroom or react badly to the seafood you had for dinner - without a "Release me Immediately", i.e. SAFE WORD, you can end up with a mess. So, YES, a SAFE WORD is mandatory.

There are lots of threads on this subject in this forum - check them out.

I began with 4 dog leashes and collars from PetSmart and 4 cuffs from the local kinky sex shop. Of course, males require heavier materials and I had to get the larger sizes. Otherwise they do not look right in their collars.

wrap around leg of bed, put the end through the loop, pull tight, attach end to cuff, repeat for all other legs of bed, attach person to cuffs, enjoy.

Well when I started out they were the only neckties I had with me at college, so they were pretty good. I don't recommend that. I have four old silk ties that I use now, sometimes for sex, but often as not when giving bondage demos so people can see how there are lots of materials that can be used. Ties and other around the house items add a touch of spontaneity.
For instructions on how to tie someone to an object with a necktie just use the "one column tie" as shown at this link
[url=http://www.twistedmonk.com/video.htm]TwistedMonk.com
Just do the wrap and tie no need to double the necktie the way they double the rope there-and it takes about 5 seconds to do. Silk wrapped around the arms and legs feels so sexy!
For leashes, yeah you can start out with the ones from your work. I recommend a cloth collar. The leather collars my wife wears are very soft leather which doesn't damage her skin. Many people who do a lot of B&D and S&M get most of their toys and props from places like Walmart or the local hardware or pet store anyway.

I know some people in CA and there is a big scene around SD so I am sure there many places to get supplies. Quick search turned up the following.

[url=http://www.cryptleather.com/sdonpark/]CryptLeather.com :: The Crypt :: Sexy Stuff for Sexy People :: Leathers, fashions, videos and bedroom toys for adults from CryptLeather.com

F Street Adult Gifts & Books, Little Italy, Downtown
Gaslamp
San Diego, CA 92101
(619) 236-0841

and finally an online store based in LA. It's one of the largest adult stores in the country and a lot of people in the scene (what the BDSM community calls itself) shop there. They deliver in discreet packaging
[url=http://www.stockroom.com/]Bondage Gear, BDSM Equipment, Sex Toys, BDSM Toys from Jt's Stockroom

You can read the sticky on safe words
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new-sex/26588-what-safe-word-choosing-us...

Well I don't know about anything where you're from, like stores/ where to get things or whatever, but I LOVED when we used just regular ropes. Tied on one short rope to one top le of the bed and the same on the other side... Make sure it's short enough for little movement, but long enough to securely tie hers (or your) hands without tooooo much pain. Pain is good, but not that much. like if your wrists start to burn or bleed, that's obviously bad and you don't have enough slack on the rope. I loved tying him his as I went down on him, it was great. Especially since he gets to this point where he pushes me off because it's too good and he starts giggling =) I love it and it was great to torture him with pleasure. He then did the same to me in addition to other things, but yeah haha ropes to restrain your partner is reallly hot- for both people!

Hey - any pet store has what I need.

It doesn't get much simpler than that!

Plus there's quick release in case of emergencies!

[QUOTE=Blaze in time;248636]Thanks for the tipps I like the idea for using pet store supplies... Would the cat toys that are made of like feathers and stuff be good teasing items?[/QUOTE]
Hell yes! feathers, fur, silk, your own body hair, your hands and other textures besides the soft and fuzzy are fun too. Feathers are a fave. I go to a craft store and buy peacock feathers-so versatile, nothing like them.