My partner and I both enjoy a rough sex life, and enjoy chains, and sharp objects. I wanted to know what peoples opinions on a male dominating a woman. I love it when he is violent and ties me up and gives me a couple of slaps. we both have cuts and bruises under our cloths. our friends say we are too rough. :D but we love it. we are also interested in going for the hard core things, whips, and such. so do people think we are going to far? and what are your suggestions?
Mon, 01/23/2006 - 05:22
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Bondage
If you are both having fun and nobody is getting hurt, I don't see what the problem is. Just be careful that it doesn't grow to be a fetish where you keep causing more and more "injuries" to each other.
Nothing wrong with it as long as you are both having fun. What you are doing is classified as BDSM which incorporates all sorts of play like you described. My only advice is to be very careful. Saftey has to be the most important part of rough sex, especially if you are doing bondage or using whips and such. There are some really good websites out there that deal with this and where you can really learn alot. If you are intersted in the links feel free to PM me for them.
Yep so long as you guys keep the lines of communication open then you're fine. Have a key word that definitively means STOP though eg. Red or Red Light. That's just to make sure that neither of you is missing any signals, particularly when cuts and bruises are involved. If you guys are having safe fun though, then keep on exploring each other. You're a very lucky couple.
I agree with everyone else. So long as you're safe and communicating it's all good. If you want you could check out a book called "Screw the rose, send me the thorns." It just teaches about creating saftey while doing all the BDSM stuff.