Allow me to add one thing - don't try venturing into deep throat territory until you're fairly clued up on what to do with the basics.

And rule #1: keep your teeth away! It really is not nice. (Without wanting to sound sick, realise this: homosexuals in prisons used to bash each others' teeth out.)

Cheers,

Ringo

so you read everything under BJ techniques 101?
it might be helpful to say what parts you don't understand.
theres full explanations on a lot of those posts.
also read this from this site
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[QUOTE=LadyBug94;264033][COLOR="blue">So my boyfriend is 5 years older than me and hes had sex with numerous partners, but im not ready to have sex yet. [/COLOR]

I recommend that the two of you read all of the articles listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen, together or independently, discuss what you have leaned, and add the information to what each of you already knows. Please pay particular attention to this article:

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

[COLOR="blue">He said he is willing to wait but i still want to make him feel good, hes went down on me and it felt really really really good. How do i return the favor? [/COLOR]

Please read the articles on making out and giving oral and hand stimulation. All will be revealed.

[COLOR="blue">If i do decide to give him head how do i get out of swallowing.
Thanks loads[/COLOR] :)[/QUOTE]

Every person has the option to or not to. First, and because knowledge is empowering, I would read how to do this correctly, whether or not you later decide to indulge or not.

Next, please understand that relationships are partnerships including the sexual aspect. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other, together. Key to this is communication and also providing feedback on how we are responding to our partner's caresses and for what we need now/next. Inform your boyfriend that for the time being swallowing is not an option. Explain why, yet leave the option open for the future, perhaps. Do not give in to his whining, whimpering, begging, or cajoling. Your decision is final and he must understand this!

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

So my boyfriend is 5 years older than me and hes had sex with numerous partners, but im not ready to have sex yet. He said he is willing to wait but i still want to make him feel good, hes went down on me and it felt really really really good. How do i return the favor? If i do decide to give him head how do i get out of swallowing.
Thanks loads :)

[QUOTE=kelstar;112832]hey...im new at blowjobs and stuff...and i wanted to know how to give a good one....i dont understand the stuff already posted...so you'll have to explain it all...any help will be greatly appreciated!! thanks so much![/QUOTE]

What points do you not understand? Please clarify so we can answer specific concerns.

Also, have you familiarized yourself with the Index found at the top of the screen. It contains a detailed article on the topic.

I used to be able to masturbate have an orgasm and cum, but now, it's just I have an orgasm. No cum. What's happening?!!

Blowjobs 101
I did not write the following. I pasted it from another forum I am on. There is no copyright infringement involved. It is simply a post from a group called I Love Blowjobs. I have the OP's permission. She really should write a book because she truly is an expert. These are the first and only instructions for blowjobs that I have ever read that I agree with 100%.

Some may argue that other than our brain our mouth is the most versatile and erotic sex organ we have. If that’s true then it seems only right that we cultivate it to the best of our ability.
So what, you may well ask, makes me an expert? After all there are no colleges with courses of study, no degrees to be earned. I have however, in my approximately 12 years of sexual activity, sucked around two thousand cocks and had the majority of them say I was the best or among the best they ever had. If those men’s accolades mean anything then yes, I’m an expert, as much an expert as a few others of you in here at any rate. I have been told dozens of times that I should write a book but I have other interests that take up my time and desire. After some prodding however I have decided to write this as a beginners guide for those of you who may gain some benefit from it.

101A:
It’s important to remember that sucking cock is not just something to do to get him hard enough to fuck. It can and should be a stand-alone activity but more than that it should be a pleasurable experience for both of you. If you are not enjoying sucking cock then the man will feel/sense that and his enjoyment will suffer as well. A man’s cock and balls are a marvel of anatomy, a pleasure package that we should never ignore and do our best to give pleasure as much and as often as we can.

The first thing we learned was to take the cock in our mouth and bob our head up and down as our lips slid on his cock. WHEEEEE! How fun………for the first minute. So much for sucking 101. But wait! Don’t stop there, there’s much more to learn! Too many of you thought, “Heck easy, there’s nothing to it”. Of course not if you don’t mind being the most boring cock sucker in the world. But if you want to be more than that then you should continue by varying your mouth pressure and the timing of your sucking and listen and watch for the reactions of your partner. If his sounds indicate that he’s enjoying what you’re doing then you’re on the right track. Now change up your head motion too. Simple things like turning your head from side to side in rhythm are elementary and will make him enjoy your efforts more.

The tongue:
Now that you’re getting the hang of sucking lets toss in another element, or should I say appendage? Now at first blush it may seem like your tongue is just in the way but discard that idea right now. It is very important to what you are doing. Now sucking is fine but lets inject a little teasing OK? Using your tongue run the tip of it up and down the shaft then do the same with the flat of your tongue as if licking a nice lollipop. (You remember those don’t you?) Now with the tip of your tongue again run it around the rim of the head and through the slit/cleft, wiggle it a little there and move on. (Give the head a little special suck with your lips now and then too)

When the shaft is deep in your mouth wiggle your tongue against it, flex the tip on it and as you move your mouth back up his cock swirl your tongue around the shaft leaving it in your mouth. With the head still in your mouth swirl your tongue around the head. Combine all these moves in a dance of mouth and tongue. (More with your tongue later).

Your hands:
Don’t just leave them at your sides as if you didn’t know what to do with them. If they aren’t handcuffed/tied behind you put them to good use but don’t pump and suck! I.e., don’t wank him off while you suck the head. You can cup his balls I n your hands and caress them or use one hand on his balls and the other through his legs and on his ass squeezing or pulling him into you. Remember to treat his balls gently they are tender.
If he is too long to take fully in your mouth then a hand around the base can keep it from going too deep. You can also run your hands up and down his legs, over his ass, play with and squeeze his nipples perhaps and so on.
About his balls, don’t be afraid to caress them, lick them and take them I n your mouth and lightly suck them and release. The small area just behind his ball sac is usually very sensitive to massage too. Teasing the area with your tongue is better.

A couple more tips before moving on.
Make a little noise, hum while you suck, the vibration does wonderful things. Also making sucking and slobbering, slurping noises usually make it much more enjoyable for him. If you have hot coffee, tea or some other hot beverage take some in your mouth, hold it there for maybe 10 seconds then swallow and take his cock in your mouth. He will have a very positive reaction you will love!
Some women seem to take a kind of strange pride in how fast they can get a man off. It isn’t a contest or competition, take your time, enjoy it and help him enjoy it.
Don’t be afraid at least once to tell him how wonderful you think his cock is and how much you adore sucking it and how good he tastes.

Deep throat:
One common mistake for newbies to deep throat is to be so afraid of gagging, choking or hurling that their throat tenses up and they end up gagging anyway. Relax and breathe normally. Inhale as the cock goes in until it stops you and you are less likely to gag.
It’s important to remember that unless the cock is too thick you can do it, take it all the way down no matter how long it is. It will take some practice though. Have you ever seen a sword swallower? I know, you think they use a collapsible sword but that’s wrong. There is no trick, the sword is the real deal and as rigid as a steel bar. They simply relax, open their throat and down it goes. If one of those people gagged they’d be in deep Kimchi.

Do not try to overcome your gag reflex you’ll just make it worse. Instead use it to your advantage so it works for you and not against you. When the cock first touches the back of your throat your normal reaction will be to try to swallow it. Just as quickly when the cock doesn’t go down your body will try to reject it and try to push it back out. This is known as the “gag reflex” and is perfectly normal. Some worry that they will choke on the buildup of saliva, don’t worry just let it flow out. Use it as a lubricant on the shaft.

The trick is when you have the urge to swallow then swallow just like when you have to swallow a huge pill or large bite of food. I know it doesn’t seem the same but your body will think so. After some practice it will get easier and easier and soon you will be taking it all down with no problem. Once you can take it all easily try swabbing his balls with your tongue as his cock is all the way down your throat.
A last tip for first timers is this, lay across a bed on your back with your head hanging over the edge. This puts your throat at the optimum angle to let the cock slide down with ease.

Cum, should you spit or swallow?
Oh I just know I’m going to get a lot of argument on this one but here goes.
Firstly, cum is made up of water, proteins, and sugars. There are of course many other components, such as minerals, vitamins, and various other micro-nutrients. Pretty much the same as you get from eating 3 meals a day. Still many are afraid of the taste and fearful they may gag or worse. (For me I love the taste but to each their own.)

Are you ready for the truth? By spitting it out you will get more of the taste than if you just swallow because in the act of spitting you are allowing it to pass once again across your taste buds for yet another coating. So as soon as he begins to cum start to swallow and keep swallowing until he’s finished. If you keep the tip of his cock near the back of your throat it is past 95% of your taste buds and you will hardly taste a thing.

Believe it or not you can convince yourself that cum tastes bad, that it’s nasty and it will be. It’s a psychological fact that if you tell yourself something enough times you will believe it’s true. So if you convince yourself that cum tastes wonderful then it will and you will enjoy it much more.
In any event if you’re going to spit it out then use a little tact will you? Don’t spit it out like a mouthful of bile, just let it flow out and make a mess.

Last words:
So now you may be wondering, ‘If I do everything Julie says here will I be an expert?’ Sorry no. Here I have merely given you the platform on which to build a lifetime of joyous cock sucking. A starting point that by adding some willingness and desire along with some passion and lots of practice you will be well on your way to cocksucking fulfillment.
There is more to learn, much more but if you have the desire and the passion to do your best and to get the most from it, your curiosity and willingness will take you down the road of learning all the wonderful things you can do to him with your mouth.

You are free of course to ignore all that I said here and go on your merry way. But if I have given even a few of you the desire to do more and do it better then my time isn’t wasted. Remember, you aren’t a good cocksucker because you say you are but because he does.