nuttychick - That's a good point being made

jon1138 - I think it boils down to interpretation. We have different interpretations of the meaning, and inclusivity, of a word and we will never agree on this one particular point. But, hell, it's good to know what others think 'cos it opens your mind...

I still want to start a poll on this as I think people will have a strong opinion one way or the other. Tried on the weekend but, being an idiot, I couldn't work out how to add the actuall poll in a "tick all that apply" style..

It shouldn't much matter; fingers go inside, come out, then get licked. What's so different?

I don't mind at all! I love giving him a bj before lovemaking as a bit of a tease, so I'll get to enjoy him 'fully'. It's also a great way to end a lovemakingsession with a combined bj/hj. Allthough it was a bit weird the first time I did, cause I hadn't tasted my own stuff (still surprised he hasn't tasted his own stuff till this day, but that's another story ;)) Also it's funny for me to notice how the taste changes over my cycle. Thing I haven't tried so far, is giving him oral after he's been inside me while I'm menstruating. It's said it doesn't taste much different, it's just the look of it that makes it less appealing...

Thing I hate: the way it smells after he's been wearing a condom. Even when he takes it of, the smell lingers... also with the supposed fruity-tasty ones. It makes me feel a little sick... :( Luckily, I don't have to worry about STD's since we're both tested and exclusive to eachother. So I don't give him bj's with or after he's worn a condom. Hardly a problem, cause he wears it to be able to come inside me. Whenever possible: we wait until my fertile period is over (by carefull calculation, using NFP!), so he can simply come inside me and give me all that's rightfully mine! :D

In short: I love the natural smell and taste of his and mine! :)

Just for the record a blow job is sex. It is classified as oral sex which means one partner is sexually stimulates the other with his/her mouth and possibly brings the other to orgasm by this means. Oral stimulation of the female genitalia is called cunnilingus and oral stimulation of the male genitalia, especially the penis, is called fellatio.

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A true word, dlb! Sex has many definitions and comes in so many varieties :)
Considering ABRH explaned his question by mentioning in his post 'It's been in you', I think it was clear that he meant intercourse. No further explanation needed...

my wife has problems with that....me going down on her after i've penetrated her or her giving me a bj after i've been in her.....me personally, i don't see the problem wit it...it's the same as me eating her out and then kissing her afterwards....same as her giving me a bj and i cum and she kisses me afterwards

she just sees it as dirty right now.....but more and more we have sex, she loosens up more.....i guess it's one of those things that will happen over a period of time....just like her recently performing deep throat on me....at first, she barely performed oral on me and now she can't get enough of that and has started doing deep throat and loving it.....she already knows i'm down for anything, so now she's starting to become that way

[QUOTE=RedRoses;257014]A true word, dlb! Sex has many definitions and comes in so many varieties :)
Considering ABRH explaned his question by mentioning in his post 'It's been in you', I think it was clear that he meant intercourse. No further explanation needed...[/QUOTE]
Call me a stickler for terminology RedRoses. Let's say he meant copulation.

[quote]Call me a stickler for terminology RedRoses. Let's say he meant copulation.[/quote]
Probably due to a lack of subtlety in my language, the words intercourse and copulation mean the same in my dictionary :confused: Anyways; if this is the better term for a penis being inside a vagina, I will believe you on your word. I'll immediately admit I'm not the one with the best knowledge of the English language here...

Anyways, back to the subject of the thread: Perhaps there is a subtle difference in whether the male comes or not? I'd guess that would make a difference to some women, cause than you'd get both his and your flavor all at once from the start. Intriguing... I've never tried a bj after he's come inside me. Wondering if it would make a difference... We end our lovemaking-sessions with an orgasm on his behalf, after I've had many many more :o My bf most of the time does not want me to touch his penis afterwards and usually falls asleep. But if he'd ask me for oral, I wouldn't object, unless I'm totally exhausted myself ;)

Personally, I don't mind. But then again, oral sex is not something that my boyfriend and I participate in very often.

I think oral sex - blowjobs and/or head for her is good at anytime. Before, during penis-in-vagina sex or as the finale, I love it.

Sometimes going start to end with just penis-in-vagina (I'm a bit dissappointed I have to be so specific with my terminology in this thread, when most would understand the jist of the message) sex is fine. Sometimes you want to start out with a bit of oral for both parties, YAY!!. And sometimes you are both really into the carnal-ness of the act, or you want to delay the end, or you want to finish orally (mostly for him, which I get a kick out of too;)) and so mix it up with some oral in the middle of the penis-in-vagina sex.

I think the absolute normal sexual routine is maybe oral at the start, then penetration sex, then finish. So you could say it's a little unusual to go from penetration to oral, but that's why it's good:D. Pushing boundries is exciting!!

Well, it's annoying to me when someone wants to preach their personal opinion of terminology as a fact. I'm a two-time published author, so thanks but I'll put my definition of words above yours.

Sex in common language means exactly that -- sexual intercourse. A blowjob is not sex. It's a blowjob. Nobody would call it sex unless they were trying specifically to confuse other people. It is a *sexual activity* but it is NOT sex. Sex is sex. An apple is an apple. It's really not hard to understand.

And with my ex, she used to finish me off with a BJ on a frequent basis, because it was easier for me to finish that way and just hotter to be honest. It depended, maybe it was like 55-45.

I love giving oral sex after!!! becausse rite before he bust i stick his penis in my mouth and let his nut go down my throat while he playin with my pearl. no its not wierd if have something in your mouth thats been in your click!

[QUOTE]Well, it's annoying to me when someone wants to preach their personal opinion of terminology as a fact. I'm a two-time published author, so thanks but I'll put my definition of words above yours.[/QUOTE]

My dad's bigger than your's...

[QUOTE]Sex in common language means exactly that -- sexual intercourse. A blowjob is not sex. It's a blowjob. Nobody would call it sex unless they were trying specifically to confuse other people. It is a *sexual activity* but it is NOT sex. Sex is sex. An apple is an apple. It's really not hard to understand.[/QUOTE]

So, Bill Clinton has now been proved categorically, unquestionably correct by a 2-time published author in his initial statements about his dalliance with Ms. Lewinski...?

[QUOTE]An apple is an apple. It's really not hard to understand.[/QUOTE]

So, if you want to be extra technical and labour the point what is the Adam's Apple? An apple or part of the voicebox?

[QUOTE]Well, it's annoying to me when someone wants to preach their personal opinion of terminology as a fact[/QUOTE]

But you've just done exactly that...!

Try Googling "what is sex". The millions of advisors - and "sex advisors" - describe it as a wide range of sexual activities and not just intercourse. I would therefore surmise that the meaning of sex in "common language" (which you could also read as "common interpretation") is far broader than what you believe it to be.

Being a published author does not qualify anyone to assume their interpretation of words is fact.

I'm with dlb on this.

I know, perhaps I will start a poll on this subject..

That's just silly, nobody is arguing about it being a SEXUAL ACTIVITY, and "part of sex," i.e. part of the wider range of sexual activities people engage in. That is not up for question.

But if someone says, "Yeah, we had sex," do you think they are being honest if they just got head from a girl? NOBODY would say that. NOBODY. You couldn't find a single person here who would agree with you. In fact, a lot of girls would be really ticked off if they gave a guy a handjob or something and he said, "Yeah we had sex," because under your definition that is sex right? A blowjob is sex, a handjob is sex? So if a girl gave me a handjob, we had sex? No, we didn't, and you're an idiot if you think that. Nobody is going to say in regular dialogue, "Yeah Cindy and I had sexual intercourse," because if they say, "Cindy and I had sex," everyone knows what that means -- sex. There is only ONE meaning of just the word "sex." If someone means blow job, they say blowjob, if someone means anal sex, they say anal sex. They don't say "sex."

What you're saying makes absolutely no sense. The reason people were annoyed and angry at Bill Clinton is because he said he did not have sex with that woman, and that's incredibly tongue-in-cheek because he did everything BUT have sex with her. It's like if I went into a store and broke a bunch of things, then someone picks up a broken store display and says, "Did you break this?!" and I say, "Well, no, I didn't break THAT!" Which may be true, but I broke everything else, so it's kind of dishonest. An error of omission.

[QUOTE=Jon1138;257417] If someone means blow job, they say blowjob, /QUOTE]

No most people class a BlowJob as ORAL SEX....

I give BJs before, as a break during and after intercourse. I love the taste of my body...

I do it both, before and after and sometimes pull it out and and suck him. I want to see what he tastes when he goes down on me.

Some of the women mentioned finishing off their guys with oral. So are you letting him cum in your vagina and then trying to get him hard again with oral? Recovery time? Or are you getting him to pull out before he cums and shoot it into your mouth instead? And if he has a condom on that thing?

[QUOTE=Justsomebody;259103]Some of the women mentioned finishing off their guys with oral. So are you letting him cum in your vagina and then trying to get him hard again with oral? Recovery time? Or are you getting him to pull out before he cums and shoot it into your mouth instead? And if he has a condom on that thing?[/QUOTE]
I meant out before he cums. If wearing a condom, off please, since I hate the smell and taste of condoms... But remember: I'm in an exclusive relationship; he's my first and he's tested for HIV&STD's, so no risk on that. In any other situation; no oral without a condom! Personally; that would probably come down to no oral, but he'd welcome to enjoy my hands that work miracles ;)

I don't find it to be weird at all personally. I see nothing wrong with giving a man fellatio either before or after sex.

Before and after baby! lol

I love blowjob too much.
Both times before and after sex.

to be perfectly honest, it finishes off sex with a bang (literally...)
i think its the best way to make u both happy, well if your like me and like give BJ's :)

LOL - as part of foreplay, certainly. But afterwards, he's usually far too tired.

I'm with EEK before sex as part of foreplay,but after sex,the guys i've been with can't even get it up again,not for a few hours anyway.

A blowjob anytime is very much appreciated - thankyou very much:)

On a few occasions we did start out with BJ then a little bit of penetration, back and forth a few times to mix it up and penetration finishing up.

But lately, not so much. I think she thinks it's 'dirty' down there somehow, but I can't get her to talk about it. I don't get it. If she's fresh, she tastes wonderfully slightly salty, and I'm a salty rather than a sweets kinda guy, so works or me.

I don't mind giving him head at he has been inside of me. I like the way I taste...and it really turns him on that I'm tasting myself:):):)

Um - isn't anytime a good time for fellatio and cunnilingus?

any time is good especially if after having sex for a while even thow its hard its not rock hard you lip it back to shape and because the different sensations get him out of balance the more into it you get every action is rougher and deeper and the him knowing you are tasting your self is like (dam she has a little lesbo inside of her) i like it thats why its called getting dirty

I like the way you think :)

[QUOTE=CumShotGodess;261276]to be perfectly honest, it finishes off sex with a bang (literally...)
i think its the best way to make u both happy, well if your like me and like give BJ's :)[/QUOTE]

ha if you like them so much, why not start giving one as foreplay, maybe even in a 69, and then near the end switch back to bj?

thatts what i do do! hahaha.

[QUOTE=hornydevil85;268881]ha if you like them so much, why not start giving one as foreplay, maybe even in a 69, and then near the end switch back to bj?[/QUOTE]

Thats what i do, do! haha

What do you mean after sex, after penetration or after he has finished? I like doing it before as foreplay, in the the middle after I orgasm, so I can take time to build up to another orgasm, and sometimes I get off him and finish him off with a blowjob. As far as giving him a bj after he has finished seems kinda pointless, he wouldnt be able to finish again.

I did find it weird to taste myself on him at first, but now I find it completely normal. I would agree with RR. I like to know what he tastes when he goes down on me, and how I taste different depending on my cycle.

I have no issues with that. Its him and me mixed together. and even if its just me I don't mind. I do have issues with men or women who are turned off by their own "fluids" That would be a deal breaker for me.

No, I don't really think it's weird, tough I've never done it...

Usually, I give my BF blowjobs before sex, that way when we do it, he last longer. x)

We normaly use condoms while doing it, so if I had to go at it after sex, I wouldn't mind. Since, y'know, there was something on it so it's not all THAT full of... "Juices"

Anyway, I think it's all up to the girl to decide if it's gross or not.
And talk about it w/ you man also. It might, surprisingly, disturb him too. Tough I don't think it's really common, you knever know!!

I'd love nothing better than to get a blowjob after sex

Me and my boyfriend do it before, during, and after sex. I've done it during the start of my cycle (i didn't know it had started) and the tate is just more acidic. I think if you won't taste yourself you can't expect someone else to want to

I love it with I'm on top, she pushes me off starts blowing me. Sometimes when she knows I'm about to cum, she'll finish me off with a BJ as well.

Sadly I normally have mine as part of the foreplay but on the odd occasion afterwards.