Did you try the hand and mouth combo? Stroke him with one or two hands up and down and suck up and down on his head. Lick the frenulum, that is the skin on the underside of the penis behind the head. Caress his balls while sucking and at times suck his balls softly. That should be good and you have to pay attention to his cues just like he would going down on you. Ask him what he likes and if he won't tell you then he has no one to blame but himself. He should feel very greatful that he has a gf that wants to give him bjs regularly.

Find someone more appreciative of your efforts. It sounds to me like he is already headeed out of the relationship, and is trying to start a fight to break up. I mean honestly, what guy in his right mind would get pissed that his gf is trying her best to give him head?

"I believe what we have here is a failure to communicate."

[QUOTE=Nevaeha;271166][COLOR="blue">So I have been with my BF for three years and lately are sex life has gone away. I am still giving him blowjobs to please him and keep him happy, but every time i do it he is getting aggravated and frustrated because he says i dont try hard enough or put enough effort into, i do want to do, but i don;t know if he likes my techniques or whats going on,[/COLOR]

Making love is not about what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. As part of the equation, we must each provide our partner with feedback (verbally and/or non-verbally) on how we are responding to his/her caresses and for what we need now/next. While each of us may understand the basics for how to stimulate the other person physically, there are always going to be sufficient variations to the theme to make having sex with one person somewhat different from the next (and all others).

This being the case, I have always counseled people to demonstrate to a partner how we masturbate, then, to take his/her hand and move it as if it was our own in order for them to learn to mimic what we do when masturbating. Do this over a few sessions until your partner can do this with your feedback.

[COLOR="blue">im worried he will cheat because im not good enough,[/COLOR]

Perhaps he will, perhaps not. If he should decide to stray, then this is more a matter of disconnecting emotionally from the other person. And, especially with young(er) guys, it is a matter of not wanting or understanding that relationships are partnerships and that it requires that each of you explore and learn together. No one is a mind reader when it comes to knowing what or how to accomplish something for the other. We need information!
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i do not have alot of experience either he is my first, but i try all the techniques and tips i read on here, and still he gets mad,[/COLOR]

Please read these two articles:

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Next: If you are new & have no experience (Pt. 2 of HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED!:
If you are a guy who happens to be shy or uncertain about making the first move, know that this is OK. My suggestion is:
(Part 2 of Chapter 5)

[COLOR="blue">i am really lost on what to do or what will happen so please and advice will help especially from guys, Thanks in advanced[/COLOR] :confused:[/QUOTE]

I recommend that the two of you read each and every article listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen, either together or separately, discuss what you have learned, then add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about.

Encourage your boyfriend to plug-in to the relationship, again, so that the two of you can explore and learn together in partnership. Appeal to his ego, that being his desire to become a world class lover. (Shucks, why not let him read this thread?)

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

> I am still giving him blowjobs to please him and keep him happy, but every time i do it he is getting aggravated and frustrated because he says i dont try hard enough or put enough effort into,

Making love should not be particularly difficult or hard. That he believes you are not putting forth sufficient effort demonstrates his lack of understanding. In this, he is his own worst enemy, not you, as discussed, above. Both of you need to know and understand that this is not necessarily a bad thing; however, if you know more, you do better.

Well, if he doesn't want to tell you how to improve, AND reciprocates, you should think about if you really want to be with him.

Just my 0.2.

The sex has gone away. You try to please him sexually using fellatio but you're doing it all wrong - according to him. Yet he's not willing to help you out by showing you what works for him.

Have I got that correctly?

If so DROP KICK HIM TO THE CURB NOW.

Stop trying to please someone who is making pleasing him impossible and is subjecting/grooming you for abuse by treating you with such disrespect esp if he is not even attempting to please you.

Grow a spine girl and show him the door. You've wasted three years of your life with this #%%^ do not waste any more time by spending it with him.

And don't be so quick 'to please' the next guy.

[QUOTE=Ducy;271170]Find someone more appreciative of your efforts. It sounds to me like he is already headeed out of the relationship, and is trying to start a fight to break up. I mean honestly, what guy in his right mind would get pissed that his gf is trying her best to give him head?[/QUOTE]

[color=blue]exactly!! :cool:

don't change yourself for some douche bag that doesn't appreciate you trying......he should be grateful that he has a woman that would want to give him blowjobs[/color]

Well, you have two schools of thought, either one or both may be correct.

First, that he is migrating away from the relationship.

Second, that he simply does not understand either the interpersonal dynamics involved in a relationship nor how to work together to show and tell how best to stimulate and arouse each other.

Of course, he could be an oaf and immature. Of course he could simply be working up courage or reason to end the relationship. If, on the other hand, he is well meaning yet clueless about such matters, then I've given the two of you an action plan.

Best of luck. If you do end up breaking up, please realize that these are common occurrences, as dating is all about finding Ms. or Mr. Right and we do this by getting to know a lot of different people. I've written about this so if interested look for the article in the Index.

sex is just a bonus?!?!

EGAD!

Keeping the spark alive with such a guy is going to be difficult.