Me and my girlfriend have been togeather over 2 years, and we have a very healthy sex life.
But, although she will give me blowjobs, she will never let me climax which can be very frustrating. I am always understanding and we talk about it alot, and I try not too put pressure on her too do it! However she says she never wants too do it, as the only time we tried it, she hated it.
But being male, it is my favourite too climax through oral. Is it unfair of me too ask her too let me during oral? Or is it unfair of her not letting me?
Help, because I dont know where I stand! :confused:
some gals just dont like the taste of sperm. it is ultimatly her decision just be glad she still gives head. its unfair for you to try and pressure her into it. if she says no then just leave it at that the continual ask wont help out much.
Although you do not come right out and say it, I'm guessing that you want to ejaculate in her mouth, is this correct? Or, are you saying that she teases you by bringing to the brink of an orgasm and then stops short of an orgasm?
The latter can be quite frustrating and even cause Blue Balls if relief in some manner does not follow suit. If the former, then you must know that not every woman wants semen in their mouth, whether they swallow or spit it out, discretely, later. If this is what is happening, then encourage her to bring you to orgasm with a combination of manual and oral stimulation. Your job is to give sufficient warning of your climax so that she has time to remove her mouth. She can then finish you off by manually by hand.
Yeah, I mean she does not let me ejaculate in her mouth. She will occasionally finish me off by hand, but she prefers too have full on sex, rather than foreplay.
I on the other hand prefer foreplay, and like too reach orgasm in other ways rather than sex, and she will only allow it roughly twice a month which isn't enough for me.
Thank you for the advice, and although I will try hard not too ask, its very difficult!
> she will never let me climax which can be very frustrating. I am always understanding and we talk about it alot, and I try not too put pressure on her too do it!
Had I to guess, I'd say more women than not stop short of having their man ejaculate inside the mouth. It is her mouth so you will have to abide by her decision. Don't hound her or whine, therefore, like the rest of us, be happy with what she will do for you.
> she says she never wants too do it, as the only time we tried it, she hated it.
Do you know what aspect of the act she hated? If so, what is it?
> it is my favourite too climax through oral. Is it unfair of me too ask her too let me during oral? Or is it unfair of her not letting me?
Most of us thoroughly enjoy oral stimulation. As you have written the sentence, above, of course it is not unfair to expect to reach a climax during oral sex; however, your desire and longing for having a climax inside her mouth is unfair if it goes against her wishes. Be happy with the orgasms she helps you achieve by hand and/or mouth outside as they are sure to be much more intense than those from actual intercourse.
> I on the other hand prefer foreplay, and like too reach orgasm in other ways rather than sex, and she will only allow it roughly twice a month which isn't enough for me.
All things are open for negotiation; learn how to find a compromise that the two of you can live with and be excited about.