I don't know how to start giving my boyfriend a blowjob :confused: How would I start it?
If I start trying to undress him etc... he says no, he prefers it when he is able to initiate, but finding the right moment to go down on him is hard.
I was thinking of making the first one special and getting some handcuff's so that i'm in complete control, and putting on a blindfold (on him) so that he doesn't know what is coming :eek:
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated :)
The first one will be special; no special devices or tricks are needed. Any time his penis exposed it is available for you to go down. Do not get stuck on your back to make it easier. Few men will resist after you get them in a lip-lock.
Rather than making it special for him (it will be), make it special for you. Most women find that first mouthful to be a shock. The taste and consistency are not pleasant and, often, are real surprises. Too many of us (myself included) end up counghing, gagging and making fools of ourselves. One technique is to use a non-lubed condom, preferably polyurethane, while learning the mechanics. The other big issue is to protect your gag reflex. Keep a thumb gently presing the underside of his penis. You will be able to feel the ejaculate moving through the urethra - and it moves FAST! As soon as you feel it, press the back of your tongue against your hard palate to keep the first hard shot from hitting the back of your throat. Some women place the penis under their tingues. I prefer the pressing technique.
The point I am trying to make is that the blow job will be good for him; you are more likely to affect it by actions after his ejaculation than before.
I'm not too worried about the gag reflex as mine isn't a high reactor.
Whats the best position for me to do my first BJ?
And what movement should I use?
Is it a gentle suck that we do?
Lie to your guys side facing his penis, him being flat. Pretend you are sucking on a lollipop or a dripping ice cream cone, work the top and take the shaft in more, use your tongue on his head when your mouth is on it, and use your hand one the shaft to keep a rythm.:D
as a guy who has been blessed with a girlfriend who gives oral frequently, i can say the MOST important part of any blowjob is to just relax and enjoy yourself. if you're all nervous and treating it like a chore, it really does send out a negative vibe that's a real turn off. on the other hand, if you just relax and let yourself enjoy it, it'll blow his mind (no pun intended). take the time to make eye contact, smile, even tell him flat out that you enjoy sucking his cock and feeling it in your mouth. you don't need an gimmicks like handcuffs or blindfolds or anything to do a good blowjob (though they can be fun;) ). just lick softly to start, get it good and hard, and pop the head in your mouth and stroke the shaft with your hand.
bottom line: if it's good for you, it'll probably be good for him
just watch the teeth
if you don't have much of a gag reflex take advantage of that... big bonus for you as most women do.... read up on deep throating as you get more confidence and if you can slide that into the program you will blow his mind for sure.
well as far as positioning goes...i like to have my guy lying on his back while i crouch in between his legs on the bed. that way i can use the bed and my body weight to create a bounce/rythm rather than move my head....if that makes any sense lol
the only drawback is that i can't look up at him as easily while giving him a blowjob.
Okay so suck like a lolly pop :P
The only problem is that I will feel very self conscious when doing it for the first time, so do you think it will be a turn off for him if I ask him not to look at me when I'm doing it for him.
Eminatic, that position sounds great, but I was thinking angle wise, the penis would be hitting the top of my mouth when doing it that way wouldn't it?
[quote=LoveGems;191414]Okay so suck like a lolly pop :P
The only problem is that I will feel very self conscious when doing it for the first time, so do you think it will be a turn off for him if I ask him not to look at me when I'm doing it for him.
Eminatic, that position sounds great, but I was thinking angle wise, the penis would be hitting the top of my mouth when doing it that way wouldn't it?[/quote]
If you are self conscious....try the side thing. That way you can use your hair and look at hime when you want. Lollipop, icecream running down a cone, makes me laugh. Think of this...you have a soft icecream cone which is melting. You put your mouth over it and put some suction to get the super soft part off. Then you lick around...much like a BJ!
If you are on your side & on his; if he strokes your hair it feels good! Dim the lights! No biggie with this! Trust me...he will just be VERY happy!
Cool thanks everyone, I will be posting how it went :P I've been wanting to do it to him for so long, but I just don't have the courage, and it just always seems at the wrong moments.
Hopefully I will work up the courage soon though *nods*
[QUOTE=LoveGems;191414]Okay so suck like a lolly pop :P
The only problem is that I will feel very self conscious when doing it for the first time, so do you think it will be a turn off for him if I ask him not to look at me when I'm doing it for him.
Eminatic, that position sounds great, but I was thinking angle wise, the penis would be hitting the top of my mouth when doing it that way wouldn't it?[/QUOTE]
haha well you kind of have to angle your head over it just right (making it harder for him to see lol) my first time i was paranoid and didn't want my guy to look either....now i can't get turned on unless we make eye contact during it lol
It won't be a turn off for him if you ask him not to look at you, believe me. He'll just be glad that you are doing it!