Just thought I'd add my personal experience to this topic. My b/f also loves to have his prostate stimulated but recently we have found that (if you aren't grossed out by it) licking the area around the anus is very sensitive, in fact flicking the tissue that bunches up there drives him absolutely wild and he's been cumming harder than he says he ever has before. If you're both comfortable with the idea it's a great addition to going down on your guy.
Personally,I enjoy slow sucking in the beginning and faster as I get excited especially on the head. fondaling by hand with the sucking is fantastic. and yes I enjoy it if my partner swallows and milks my penis after ejaculation. As a courtesy I also trim my pubic hairs (not shave)so as to prevent one in the mouth and having a gag effect.And last but not least let us not forget anal stimulation - no penetration just stimulus around the anus with some ky.
My man likes it when I make him lie on the bed with me between his legs.. his thighs on mine and spread.. I use allot of lube (I just use baby oil gel and baby oil mixed).. I smother his cock and my hands with the oil.. I use both hands on him (which he loves) than I use one hand to rub his crack and anal area (he loves it) While Im doing that I start giving him head, I pump him with one hand while sucking his tip and the "v" spot on the back side of the penis I rub with my tongue (Mmmm) He has great stamina but he can't even stand this... being between his legs is also a great position to give a boob job (wink) just my 2ç :-)
I think the women are there but not comfortable describing what they do. I will add a possible irrelevancy. Many years ago with a girlfriend I discovered that fresh lipstick felt good sucking on my nipples. I do that with a penis, too. No man has ever mentioned it but I like to think a creamy lipstick enhances things.
right..
only been with my new boyfriend for 5 months now, he is 31 & i am 18 (in a week).
we waited till we were both ready to have sex, it is the most amazing sex ive ever had, he is the best, he is good, but loving too, it makes all the difference to love the man its with.
i know he enjoys the sex, but i am wondering if any of u out there have any tips for the sex, or for a mind blowing blow job. he sed he hasnt had to many blow jobs, but i love doing it, and wonder if there is anything i can do to guarantee he cums!?!?
plz help
Once you have your prostate stimulated while you are getting head, you'll never want it any other way...
The first time I had this done to me, I was in bliss for
30 mins after the orgasm... couldn't even lift my arm for a smoke ;P
i think the sad truth is that not enough women out there really know what they are doing...
a couple of things I like are...
during this part:
"Once in my mouth, I keep a light suction and do things with my tongue - round and round. I try to keep pressure of my lips right around the corona with the head in my mouth And play with the shaft."
if you spin to the left and the right your head, the feeling of your lips rubbing against the head can be phenomenol.
using your tongue is def key, and the more creative it gets the better it is...
since i was "open" to the idea, hehe, it didn't require more then a little lube... though using condoms helps to not have dirty fingers... the prostate gland, from my understanding is kind of in the same place as a gsot, but obviously in the guys anus...
I spanked it while she sucked on my nuts and fingered me... a simple clockwise in and out with focus on the gland...
when my nut finally came, oh my god... couldn't move for 30 mins... couldn't even reach over for a smoke... all I have to say is wow...
to think so much pleasure from something so simple... makes me laugh at the guys who are too naive/immature to try it..
girlygirl! your technique sounds fantastic from a males point of view. let him enjoy as long as he reciprocates. eating pussy is an art! sucking a guy off is also! glad to see your an active user of this board. you appear to know what you are doing. i hope this board helps you as you have helped others. brandye is a super consultant in many areas if you need help rely on her
OK, I have done my share. I always make them progressive. Start with scrotum (kissing and licking), then up the shaft (flicking and licking) and eventually take him in. If you are sucking the head and back up to the others, some intensity seems to be lost.
Once in my mouth, I keep a light suction and do things with my tongue - round and round. I try to keep pressure of my lips right around the corona with the head in my mouth And play with the shaft.
Now, a girl trick: I always keep a finger against the perineum, just behind the scrotum. This is where the orgasm starts and I can feel that first squirt coming and press my tongue against my hard palate to keep it from triggering (usually) the gag reflex. When the ejaculation begins, I keep the skin of the shaft lightly stretched and stop all other movement except to press the perineum in rhythm with the ejaculation. Maybe end up with milking if he is not overly sensitive.
I like to have a girl on her knees in front of me while I stand,
two hands is critical and slow steady motion is the best. Licking the shaft and softly kissing and sucking on the head.
I don't do anal licking and feel that its is too unclean to be worth it.
I am a crossdresser so I know what I like and I try to do that to the men that I am with. I have only been with a man a couple times, but find that when dressed I feel like a women not a man. Theres a big difference I think.
Absolute false, men do not know how to give oral worth a dang!! Sorry but thats the truth. Women, have a arora about them that sitimulates the males visual senses. Their soft hair resting on my inner thighs, soft hands and seductive looks are more incrediable then any man can provide. Men think thats its more about up and down and its not, its more about the atmosphere and the wetness. Slow steady hands and a wet mouth will take any man to orgasm.
These are the things that I try to bring when I give oral. My crossdressing helps me be feminine when giving oral dispite being very masculine any other time.
For me, personally, one huge killer of a bj or hj is friction. I'm not sure about other guys, but the skin on the shaft of my penis is stretchy and freely mobile even when my penis is erect. When I masturbate, I never move the skin of my hand over the skin of my penis. Instead, I use the skin of my penis to massage the underlying tissue.
Girls don't seem to do that when they're using their hands - they seem to move their hand up and down over the penile skin. Not only is this minimally stimulating*, it actually hurts when done without lube. Using this method also allows more circumferential pressure to be applied to the shaft, which is always good.
If my explanation wasn't good enough, you might understand better with an example. Extend your left index finger straight out (it will be the penis in the example). Now, with the tip of your right index finger, wiggle the skin above the left finger's middle knuckle. See how you can move the skin without moving the bone underneath? Basically, you're rubbing your left finger bone with the underside of the skin on your left finger. Meanwhile, the skin of your left finger never moves in relation to the skin on your right finger.
The skin on the penis is much more mobile than that on the knuckle, and moving it up and down (rather than moving your hand up and down over it) should really reduce the friction and increase the pleasure of using your hand.
* There is one caveat to my statement that playing with the skin of the shaft is minimally stimulating. When very close to orgasm, squeezing or stretching the small mass of skin just below the head on the ventral (scrotal) side of the penis (almost like you'd squeeze or stretch an ear lobe) can put me over the top.
I seem to be pretty good at that. This is unfortunate, because I don't really like doing it. Maybe I should start "accidentally" using my teeth or something.
While first getting started, you can get him really excited by gently licking his penis all over. Sometimes, to keep him from getting too spoiled, I'll just do that and then switch to a hand job or let him finish himself. If you move onto the real deal, it's good to mix it up a little. Some good techniques are: a very quick up and down motion; flicking under the head with the tongue; sucking just the head very hard; and of course, the big winner, DT. Throughout all of this most guys will like it if you play with or even suck on their balls (only problem there is that there's no way I know of to protect from STDs).
From a guys point of view the best thing females can do to a guy when it comes to oral is use a lot of tounge. The best thing is to take a mans penis into your mouth and close ur lips and just use ur tounge to do everything and when you have had enough remove the penis from inside of your mouth slowly while massaging with your lips. Also, hand and lip motion is always good. Also, the balls are a very good spot to trigger when doing oral. 1 more, try to suck, use one hand to jerk at the same time, and the other hand to play with his balls.....U WILL HAVE HIM MOANING 4 DAYS!
My hubby likes it when i play the gspot game with him too. The spot is accessible in the area between the bottom of scrotum and the anal opening. there is a little "open" v spot that when lightly pushed causes an orgasmic feeling without the actual spilling of semen. It can be done numerous times in one session and ALWAYS leads to an orgasm inlike any other
hey Traci, i have a question, since you have some experience giving oral. Do you think man give oral better than woman to an other man?, you know what women say about woman getting better oral from another woman than a man, i wonder if it is the same for man.
From a mans point of view, BJ's are the best one of the best feelings in the world. Tip, when I'm gettin ready to cum I like my lady to keep doin what she's doin, with her mouth or hand and keep doin it till I'm done cumin. You do that and you'll have a satistified man.
i agree whole heartedly with lazer, when you can feel your about to cum, the only thing you want is whats is already being done, to have a variation at that point ( can extend the lasting time,) but it can more improitantly be SO very annoying, especially as its feeling so good, that you just want them to keep going and going, until your juices are filling their mouths, stopping desensitizes, and means u gotta staret from square 2 again.
Personally, I think you have to enjoy what you are doing and not send off any negative vibes to your partner. If you show him or even tell him you are enjoying pleasuring him, all the better.
What I like to do is slowly work my way down to his penis. Sucking on his nipples and kissing/licking my way down. While kissing his chest I like positioning the penis between my breasts and gently squeezing. When reaching the pelvic area, I kiss and lick everywhere BUT his penis. Licking and gently nibbling on the inner thighs. When I see that he has had enough of the teasing I gently run the tip of my tongue from the bottom of his shaft all the way to the tip. And slowly build up the intensity. I like to insert just the very tip of the head into my mouth and little by little take more of it in. At this point I like to keep the rythym soft and slow. I like to build up the pressure by tightening my lips and my hand(s) around the shaft while still keeping a slow rythym. As my hand strokes the shaft I like running my tongue over the scrotum and softly (!) sucking on his testicles. I also like to alternate between hard and slow strokes with quick and soft strokes. I also like applying pressure to the perineum with my finger or my tongue. And I always makes sure that my lips are secured tightly around my teeth.
I think some of the key things to remember (at least from my experience it might not be for all men)are:
a) saliva, saliva, saliva..it keeps the penis well lubricated
b) alternating your speed/pressure, alternating between using just your lips and tongue, to just using your hand, to using both, it keeps him guessing and makes the experience less "boring"
c) work that tongue, always keep it moving, circle the head, make figure 8's, spell out your name...just keep it moving.
d) and last but not least, Enjoy yourself!
This is just what works for me, haven't had many complaints as of yet. I could go into more detail, but I think I've detailed enough. Every guy is different, therefor they like different things, get your partner to tell you what he likes. Don't be affraid to speak up, you'll both be happier campers!
Everyone is different, not every guy likes it the same way, the advice that I can give to you is be careful of your teeth, it hurts them a lot, try to keep them away, you can put your tongue in front to avoid that. Do variety, some guys like their balls licked sucked, some like the tip of their penis sucked played with, licked, Do variety and by his reaction you will know what he likes. Or you can just ask him what he likes.
It sounds great! But I don't think it is recomended leaving a penis ring on for more than 20 or 30 minutes at a time. I guess it could be different with different ones, so check the intructions. Wouldn't want anyone to get hurt out there.
I'm curious what others think of a technique I have used on my last bf and now my husband. They seem to love it. I enjoy it too but it's designed primarily for his pleasure.
This only works if you have an entire afternoon or evening
with nothing planned. It's also best to plan ahead.
First, a couple of days prior, stop having sex.
Second, talk about sex alot and what your going to do to him
at the specified day/time. Get him excited.
Third, when the day arrives, have a couple adult videos available, a penis ring, any kind of vibrating device, and get comfortable in a private place in front of the TV. Start watching the videos and fooling around. Put the penis ring on him. Keep him hard but let the focus be on you. Intercourse is not allowed. Only hand play and oral. Let him bring you to orgasm...several times if you want. By this time an hour or so should have passed and he will be desperate for relief. Don't give it to him. Make him agree not to touch himself and to tell you if he feels close to cumming. For the next 2 hours you need to stimulate and then ignore him, off and on about every 5 minutes. You can suck him awhile and the go do a load of laundry. Vibrate his balls for a few minutes and then make a quick phone call. The adult videos will keep him hard even when your not in the room. I like to keep my man in a constant state of peak arousal for about 3 hours. It may sound like torture for him but both guys I've done this with have wanted to do it again.
Fourth, turn off the video, and remove the penis ring.
Let him decide how he wants to cum. In my experience,
they want you to see how much cum they have produced
and opt for a bj. It should take about 30 seconds and will be extremely messy. I'm a good sport and let them cum anywhere they want. It kinda drips all over anyway. My husband say's he sleeps great after one of these sessions.
i dont really like that long of a blowjob because then i get out of the mood after a while i like a blowjob to be not to long and not too short i love watching the girl give me head it gets me into it more.
While my boyfriend and I were having sex, he squeezed the base of his penis, which I guess delayed cumming. Do you think it will work if the girl does it to the guy during oral sex?
Hi Ouch, The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that produces the seminal fluid which mixes with the sperm in the testicles to make SEMEN.
Now, that glad is also a source of INCREDIBLE SEXUAL PLEASURE when stimulated.
Where is it? Ok, have you man lay on his back..and bring his knees to his chest. Now, using ALOT OF LUBE on your fingers, gently insert either your pointer finger or your middle finger, slowly into his anus.
Once you are fully inserted, feel UPwards for a walnut size protrusion on the upper part of his anus. Move your finger around - using the "come here" technique. You know, how you use your finger to tell someone to "come here?" Well..if you put your finger all the way in...keeping it at the very top of the anus and do the "come here" technique, you'll feel a "bump" and that is his PROSTATE.
When you hit it, you'll know...most likley he'll tell you because his first feelings will be the tightness of your finger in his anus, but when you hit his prostate, he'll feel almost an initial need to "pee" but its actually just him getting used to it.
Prostate massage, in conjunction with oral sex will provide your lover with a feeling not many men have the guts to even try..but once he does, he'll always want it!
Personaly, I use all that I can. My hands, tongue, lips, face...you name it. I dp too, but my husband in particular doesnt like it every time. Its like a special treat. Anyway, I think my biggest blow job asset it the aim to please:):)
Live life.
I just got my tongue pierced and I was wondering if anyone had any techniques for me giving head with it in?
Also... what is the best position to give head in. I often do it with my boyfriend laying down legs apart and me either on one side of him or inbetween his legs. I find that holding myelf up gets tiring and I can't use both hands as much as I'd like because I have to use one to support myself. Any techniques?
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i dont know about tongue rings but in response to best position my b/f says his favorite is when he's standing up and im on my knees. that way you have 2 free hands.
Probably too late to add anything.
But when you are giving the big BJ make sure you use your hand , rotating it as you go up and down.
My hubby loves that.
I get in here and read these posts once in a while. The thing you gotta remember is all us men love our women to give us BJ's. I have never met a straight man who didn't love a woman going down on him. I admit I have had really good BJ's, and I have had a few not so good ones. The women I knew I was going to see for a while, I'd do my best to try to improve their techniques. Women will listen to what you want most of the time. (Unless you want something really wacko when you're just startin out together). When I was going out with my wife a few years back before we got married, it was obvious to me she had no clue what to do or how to do it. Today is a much different story. She got there by me telling her what felt good, what I wanted, and by me earning her trust. The other side of that is you got to be patient, and willing to give her a little time. It don't hurt to amaze her with your oral skills either, makes her want to do a better job. Do what you feel, and do it like you mean it. In the end, you'll be happy.
I havn't had much experience with BJ's but I do give them to my boyfriend sometimes...
What I do with him is I like to tease him before hand... he really likes it when I nibble on his ears and stick my tongue in, also rubbing his back and chest works, then I work my way down his chest gently kissing stopping briefly to stimulate his nipples, and I gently kiss down until I reach his crotch then I rub his legs between his penis and leg (he really loves that) and I tease him by rubbing my hands everwhere but the penis
Then I get him to move his legs so that I'm between them, give him a sexy grin then I gently lick around the tip of his penis and run my tongue gently down his shaft... after running my tongue down his shaft a few times. Then I slowly insert his penis into my mouth slowly little by little while sucking, not too gently but not too strongly I found the thing he likes the best is when I suck on it, create ALOT of saliva... his most sensitive spot on his penis seems to be the back of the head so I position my tongue in such a spot that as I'm going up and down on him that spot is being stimulated by my tongue...
also what I also do is while he's still in my mouth and I'm moving up and down on him, I a) like to vary the speed so and depth that I put him in, and also move my tongue alover the shaft but mostly around the edge of the head. Unfortunately I don't have very good stamina at the moment so I've found when my jaw starts to ache unbearably I switch from bj to hand job to give my jaw a break, the hand job works really well since he's always well lubricated from my saliva, when my jaw recovers I go back to the b/j again.
One of the things my GF will do after I’ve cum in her mouth is to look down at me really sensually, spit some of the cum into her hand and then lick it up again, extra bonus eroticism if the cum leads a string from her mouth to her hand!
Hey~ I'm a lurker, and have to say, after reading about how to give the best head, I have completed the task with an A+. I really wasn't all that good at it and after reading all these tips I implemented them and apparently did awesome. My husband came in the shortest time -EVER. Plus, prior to him coming was a whole lot of squirming and moaning, I took him to another planet and must say it was fun, for the first time in my life I can say that I was so satisfied at the prospect of "having all the control" in giving him pleasure. The fact remains he initiated this in a 69 and as I went off on him, he left me hanging but I was self satisfied by my delivery nonetheless. I implemented Brandyes advice on licking and sucking every where but the head (till later) and also massaging his perinium, some tongue swirling on the head and then some entire shaft sucking, didn't ignore the balls either, took them right in my mouth. As he came I rubbed in time with him his perinium. I blew his mind! But what was I supposed to say "That's great hun but what about me?" Anywho, thanks for all the info guys!
I love to start by very deep french kissing...I ask him to stick out his tongue and I suck it like I would suck a penis. This usually gets their penis harder faster. I then make my way down to their genitalia by kissing the nipples,chest and belly button. They don't know where you will go next after that. Then I go to the thighs and lick up to the scrotum. I then take the scrotum in my hand and do the same. Since the most sensitive part of the penis is the underside at the split, it lick it for a few minutes then take the whole penis in my mouth and suck for 5-10 minutes and use may hand and suck the entire thing until orgasm occurs.
I got over being nervous, and I finally went down on my boyfriend. It was great, he absolutely loved it.
I've never given a blow job before, and I tried to DT, and I got almost all of it in-mind you, he's pretty big-a good 9 inches or more. He really liked that.
I also let him cum in my mouth and I swallowed it, and it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
He loved the whole thing. He came for a really long time, and he even blacked out for a second. He said he hasn't had such a great orgasm in a long time.
Thanks for all your help, I really appreciated it!
le voila - my first ever post on here.
The topic has been covered pretty thoroughly, I have just two things to add: my current guy goes nuts when I manually work the shaft (totally ignoring the tip) while kissing and licking my way down from his oh-so-sensitive ears. it takes time, and i usually stop en route to play with his nipple ring and maybe put pressure on his pelvic bone (press, HARD, deep into his skin with your tongue. sucking helps too.) This whole deal can go on for half an hour or more. the shaftwork ought to be slow, firm and rhythmic, and the tip gets more and more red as you go. when i finally get to the blowjob part, I start at the base and lick my way slowly up, dragging my tongue up the underside of the shaft. usually there's a lot of moaning at this point because he knows what's coming - I suction my lips just beneath the tip and suck in. Sometimes that's all there is to it. Otherwise, I'll keep my focus there for a while before suddenly sliding back down. from there, the territory is pretty familiar. Something about the variation in stimulation zones drives him absolutely wild.
The other thing I have to say is about attitude - blowjobs are not about steps and planning and military-esque execution. The absolute best advice I can give to anyone giving head is to imagine their favourite food, and then imagine trying to get every last bit of enjoyment out of it. there is something so incredibly stimulating about watching and hearing and feeling the guy you're sucking off as he hits the astronomical levels of pleasure...Be receptive and above all enjoy yourself! Remember what they told you about Christmas? "'tis better to give than to recieve." In this case, it's at least all square.
Read the Fellatio tips that i gave you in your other thread, first of all. And maybe practice on something? Just so you know that your teeth won't get in the way or anything. Otherwise, just remember that it is something that should be fun, not intimidating. Ask him what he likes.
I read the tips, and they're very helpful. I'm just a shy person, and I'm kind of nervous about how I'll do. But he's a great person, and he understands that I'm nervous. I think with his support, I'll be able to get over being nervous and be able to do it.
I'm new here, and new to sex. I really love my boyfriend, and I really want to make him feel good. I'm nervous about giving a blowjob, though. I'm afraid that I'll do it wrong or that I won't be any good at it. He's gone down on me and it was great. I know he's not new to any of this, and that kind of intimidates me, too. I was just wondering if anybody had any advice on how to get over this nervousness.
Hey all!
I'm really new to this whole thing. I gave head for the first time (which is something that i NEVER thought I'd do) but i love my b/f and I want him to feel as good as he makes me feel. I've been reading all these tips and ideas and was wondering if there were any suggestions that you all had for me so that the next time I do it I can make him climax. And oh yea, is swallowing cum bad for you-health wise? Thanx!
My boyfriend likes it when he lays down & I sit on my knees with my back facing him when I go down on him. He says that the sensations of my tongue ring on that side of his penis are wonderful. I try to take it all in every once in a while because he REALLY reacts to that but I keep it to a minimum so he won't get it in his brain that I can do it all the time
Just a little hint my wife uses. She can get it all down her throat by putting her head on my stomach and sucking me. Some way it all goes in her mouth (7 inch) . she says its the angle . ? I dont know, but we been married 30 years and she just keeps getting better..
Lick him under the balls upward, stimulate until he has an erection. Then lick his balls in one motion, moving your tongue upwards in between both testes from the base of the penis to the tip underneath the frenulem, then licking to the side, then the other side, then from under the tip over the top to the base. Then deep throat him, sucking on the balls for a while. Pull back without taking your tonge off, go back doen the bottom side of his penis down the middle of his testes, licking and sucking on his balls from one side to the other, then do this from the beginning to the end.
No I'm not gay. I'm just happy to see you ladies knowing what you're doing.
Just thought I'd add my personal experience to this topic. My b/f also loves to have his prostate stimulated but recently we have found that (if you aren't grossed out by it) licking the area around the anus is very sensitive, in fact flicking the tissue that bunches up there drives him absolutely wild and he's been cumming harder than he says he ever has before. If you're both comfortable with the idea it's a great addition to going down on your guy.
Personally,I enjoy slow sucking in the beginning and faster as I get excited especially on the head. fondaling by hand with the sucking is fantastic. and yes I enjoy it if my partner swallows and milks my penis after ejaculation. As a courtesy I also trim my pubic hairs (not shave)so as to prevent one in the mouth and having a gag effect.And last but not least let us not forget anal stimulation - no penetration just stimulus around the anus with some ky.
My man likes it when I make him lie on the bed with me between his legs.. his thighs on mine and spread.. I use allot of lube (I just use baby oil gel and baby oil mixed).. I smother his cock and my hands with the oil.. I use both hands on him (which he loves) than I use one hand to rub his crack and anal area (he loves it) While Im doing that I start giving him head, I pump him with one hand while sucking his tip and the "v" spot on the back side of the penis I rub with my tongue (Mmmm) He has great stamina but he can't even stand this... being between his legs is also a great position to give a boob job (wink) just my 2ç :-)
I think the women are there but not comfortable describing what they do. I will add a possible irrelevancy. Many years ago with a girlfriend I discovered that fresh lipstick felt good sucking on my nipples. I do that with a penis, too. No man has ever mentioned it but I like to think a creamy lipstick enhances things.
Ideas guys?
right..
only been with my new boyfriend for 5 months now, he is 31 & i am 18 (in a week).
we waited till we were both ready to have sex, it is the most amazing sex ive ever had, he is the best, he is good, but loving too, it makes all the difference to love the man its with.
i know he enjoys the sex, but i am wondering if any of u out there have any tips for the sex, or for a mind blowing blow job. he sed he hasnt had to many blow jobs, but i love doing it, and wonder if there is anything i can do to guarantee he cums!?!?
plz help
looks like you have some experimenting left...
Once you have your prostate stimulated while you are getting head, you'll never want it any other way...
The first time I had this done to me, I was in bliss for
30 mins after the orgasm... couldn't even lift my arm for a smoke ;P
i think the sad truth is that not enough women out there really know what they are doing...
a couple of things I like are...
during this part:
"Once in my mouth, I keep a light suction and do things with my tongue - round and round. I try to keep pressure of my lips right around the corona with the head in my mouth And play with the shaft."
if you spin to the left and the right your head, the feeling of your lips rubbing against the head can be phenomenol.
using your tongue is def key, and the more creative it gets the better it is...
COOLMACS, CARE TO SHARE YOUR PARTNERS TECHNIQUE. i AM SUR THE BOARD WOULD APPRECIATE IT. I KNOW I WOULD-VETTE
pretty simple really...
since i was "open" to the idea, hehe, it didn't require more then a little lube... though using condoms helps to not have dirty fingers... the prostate gland, from my understanding is kind of in the same place as a gsot, but obviously in the guys anus...
I spanked it while she sucked on my nuts and fingered me... a simple clockwise in and out with focus on the gland...
when my nut finally came, oh my god... couldn't move for 30 mins... couldn't even reach over for a smoke... all I have to say is wow...
to think so much pleasure from something so simple... makes me laugh at the guys who are too naive/immature to try it..
girlygirl! your technique sounds fantastic from a males point of view. let him enjoy as long as he reciprocates. eating pussy is an art! sucking a guy off is also! glad to see your an active user of this board. you appear to know what you are doing. i hope this board helps you as you have helped others. brandye is a super consultant in many areas if you need help rely on her
OK, I have done my share. I always make them progressive. Start with scrotum (kissing and licking), then up the shaft (flicking and licking) and eventually take him in. If you are sucking the head and back up to the others, some intensity seems to be lost.
Once in my mouth, I keep a light suction and do things with my tongue - round and round. I try to keep pressure of my lips right around the corona with the head in my mouth And play with the shaft.
Now, a girl trick: I always keep a finger against the perineum, just behind the scrotum. This is where the orgasm starts and I can feel that first squirt coming and press my tongue against my hard palate to keep it from triggering (usually) the gag reflex. When the ejaculation begins, I keep the skin of the shaft lightly stretched and stop all other movement except to press the perineum in rhythm with the ejaculation. Maybe end up with milking if he is not overly sensitive.
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(Edited by WannaBKinky at 5:48 pm on Sep. 5, 2002)
I like to have a girl on her knees in front of me while I stand,
two hands is critical and slow steady motion is the best. Licking the shaft and softly kissing and sucking on the head.
I don't do anal licking and feel that its is too unclean to be worth it.
I am a crossdresser so I know what I like and I try to do that to the men that I am with. I have only been with a man a couple times, but find that when dressed I feel like a women not a man. Theres a big difference I think.
Tjdude,
Interesting question,
Absolute false, men do not know how to give oral worth a dang!! Sorry but thats the truth. Women, have a arora about them that sitimulates the males visual senses. Their soft hair resting on my inner thighs, soft hands and seductive looks are more incrediable then any man can provide. Men think thats its more about up and down and its not, its more about the atmosphere and the wetness. Slow steady hands and a wet mouth will take any man to orgasm.
These are the things that I try to bring when I give oral. My crossdressing helps me be feminine when giving oral dispite being very masculine any other time.
For me, personally, one huge killer of a bj or hj is friction. I'm not sure about other guys, but the skin on the shaft of my penis is stretchy and freely mobile even when my penis is erect. When I masturbate, I never move the skin of my hand over the skin of my penis. Instead, I use the skin of my penis to massage the underlying tissue.
Girls don't seem to do that when they're using their hands - they seem to move their hand up and down over the penile skin. Not only is this minimally stimulating*, it actually hurts when done without lube. Using this method also allows more circumferential pressure to be applied to the shaft, which is always good.
If my explanation wasn't good enough, you might understand better with an example. Extend your left index finger straight out (it will be the penis in the example). Now, with the tip of your right index finger, wiggle the skin above the left finger's middle knuckle. See how you can move the skin without moving the bone underneath? Basically, you're rubbing your left finger bone with the underside of the skin on your left finger. Meanwhile, the skin of your left finger never moves in relation to the skin on your right finger.
The skin on the penis is much more mobile than that on the knuckle, and moving it up and down (rather than moving your hand up and down over it) should really reduce the friction and increase the pleasure of using your hand.
* There is one caveat to my statement that playing with the skin of the shaft is minimally stimulating. When very close to orgasm, squeezing or stretching the small mass of skin just below the head on the ventral (scrotal) side of the penis (almost like you'd squeeze or stretch an ear lobe) can put me over the top.
I seem to be pretty good at that. This is unfortunate, because I don't really like doing it. Maybe I should start "accidentally" using my teeth or something.
While first getting started, you can get him really excited by gently licking his penis all over. Sometimes, to keep him from getting too spoiled, I'll just do that and then switch to a hand job or let him finish himself. If you move onto the real deal, it's good to mix it up a little. Some good techniques are: a very quick up and down motion; flicking under the head with the tongue; sucking just the head very hard; and of course, the big winner, DT. Throughout all of this most guys will like it if you play with or even suck on their balls (only problem there is that there's no way I know of to protect from STDs).
From a guys point of view the best thing females can do to a guy when it comes to oral is use a lot of tounge. The best thing is to take a mans penis into your mouth and close ur lips and just use ur tounge to do everything and when you have had enough remove the penis from inside of your mouth slowly while massaging with your lips. Also, hand and lip motion is always good. Also, the balls are a very good spot to trigger when doing oral. 1 more, try to suck, use one hand to jerk at the same time, and the other hand to play with his balls.....U WILL HAVE HIM MOANING 4 DAYS!
HOPE THIS HELPED YOU GIRLS!
My hubby likes it when i play the gspot game with him too. The spot is accessible in the area between the bottom of scrotum and the anal opening. there is a little "open" v spot that when lightly pushed causes an orgasmic feeling without the actual spilling of semen. It can be done numerous times in one session and ALWAYS leads to an orgasm inlike any other
hey Traci, i have a question, since you have some experience giving oral. Do you think man give oral better than woman to an other man?, you know what women say about woman getting better oral from another woman than a man, i wonder if it is the same for man.
From a mans point of view, BJ's are the best one of the best feelings in the world. Tip, when I'm gettin ready to cum I like my lady to keep doin what she's doin, with her mouth or hand and keep doin it till I'm done cumin. You do that and you'll have a satistified man.
i agree whole heartedly with lazer, when you can feel your about to cum, the only thing you want is whats is already being done, to have a variation at that point ( can extend the lasting time,) but it can more improitantly be SO very annoying, especially as its feeling so good, that you just want them to keep going and going, until your juices are filling their mouths, stopping desensitizes, and means u gotta staret from square 2 again.
Personally, I think you have to enjoy what you are doing and not send off any negative vibes to your partner. If you show him or even tell him you are enjoying pleasuring him, all the better.
What I like to do is slowly work my way down to his penis. Sucking on his nipples and kissing/licking my way down. While kissing his chest I like positioning the penis between my breasts and gently squeezing. When reaching the pelvic area, I kiss and lick everywhere BUT his penis. Licking and gently nibbling on the inner thighs. When I see that he has had enough of the teasing I gently run the tip of my tongue from the bottom of his shaft all the way to the tip. And slowly build up the intensity. I like to insert just the very tip of the head into my mouth and little by little take more of it in. At this point I like to keep the rythym soft and slow. I like to build up the pressure by tightening my lips and my hand(s) around the shaft while still keeping a slow rythym. As my hand strokes the shaft I like running my tongue over the scrotum and softly (!) sucking on his testicles. I also like to alternate between hard and slow strokes with quick and soft strokes. I also like applying pressure to the perineum with my finger or my tongue. And I always makes sure that my lips are secured tightly around my teeth.
I think some of the key things to remember (at least from my experience it might not be for all men)are:
a) saliva, saliva, saliva..it keeps the penis well lubricated
b) alternating your speed/pressure, alternating between using just your lips and tongue, to just using your hand, to using both, it keeps him guessing and makes the experience less "boring"
c) work that tongue, always keep it moving, circle the head, make figure 8's, spell out your name...just keep it moving.
d) and last but not least, Enjoy yourself!
This is just what works for me, haven't had many complaints as of yet. I could go into more detail, but I think I've detailed enough. Every guy is different, therefor they like different things, get your partner to tell you what he likes. Don't be affraid to speak up, you'll both be happier campers!
Everyone is different, not every guy likes it the same way, the advice that I can give to you is be careful of your teeth, it hurts them a lot, try to keep them away, you can put your tongue in front to avoid that. Do variety, some guys like their balls licked sucked, some like the tip of their penis sucked played with, licked, Do variety and by his reaction you will know what he likes. Or you can just ask him what he likes.
It sounds great! But I don't think it is recomended leaving a penis ring on for more than 20 or 30 minutes at a time. I guess it could be different with different ones, so check the intructions. Wouldn't want anyone to get hurt out there.
I'm curious what others think of a technique I have used on my last bf and now my husband. They seem to love it. I enjoy it too but it's designed primarily for his pleasure.
This only works if you have an entire afternoon or evening
with nothing planned. It's also best to plan ahead.
First, a couple of days prior, stop having sex.
Second, talk about sex alot and what your going to do to him
at the specified day/time. Get him excited.
Third, when the day arrives, have a couple adult videos available, a penis ring, any kind of vibrating device, and get comfortable in a private place in front of the TV. Start watching the videos and fooling around. Put the penis ring on him. Keep him hard but let the focus be on you. Intercourse is not allowed. Only hand play and oral. Let him bring you to orgasm...several times if you want. By this time an hour or so should have passed and he will be desperate for relief. Don't give it to him. Make him agree not to touch himself and to tell you if he feels close to cumming. For the next 2 hours you need to stimulate and then ignore him, off and on about every 5 minutes. You can suck him awhile and the go do a load of laundry. Vibrate his balls for a few minutes and then make a quick phone call. The adult videos will keep him hard even when your not in the room. I like to keep my man in a constant state of peak arousal for about 3 hours. It may sound like torture for him but both guys I've done this with have wanted to do it again.
Fourth, turn off the video, and remove the penis ring.
Let him decide how he wants to cum. In my experience,
they want you to see how much cum they have produced
and opt for a bj. It should take about 30 seconds and will be extremely messy. I'm a good sport and let them cum anywhere they want. It kinda drips all over anyway. My husband say's he sleeps great after one of these sessions.
I like keeping my boyfriend waiting and wanting more, it sounds like a great idea, How did you ever come up with this, any other ideas, let me know.
i dont really like that long of a blowjob because then i get out of the mood after a while i like a blowjob to be not to long and not too short i love watching the girl give me head it gets me into it more.
While my boyfriend and I were having sex, he squeezed the base of his penis, which I guess delayed cumming. Do you think it will work if the girl does it to the guy during oral sex?
I may sounds ridiculous asking this but I am not good at words, what is the prostate? lol I am lost with that one.
Hi Ouch, The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that produces the seminal fluid which mixes with the sperm in the testicles to make SEMEN.
Now, that glad is also a source of INCREDIBLE SEXUAL PLEASURE when stimulated.
Where is it? Ok, have you man lay on his back..and bring his knees to his chest. Now, using ALOT OF LUBE on your fingers, gently insert either your pointer finger or your middle finger, slowly into his anus.
Once you are fully inserted, feel UPwards for a walnut size protrusion on the upper part of his anus. Move your finger around - using the "come here" technique. You know, how you use your finger to tell someone to "come here?" Well..if you put your finger all the way in...keeping it at the very top of the anus and do the "come here" technique, you'll feel a "bump" and that is his PROSTATE.
When you hit it, you'll know...most likley he'll tell you because his first feelings will be the tightness of your finger in his anus, but when you hit his prostate, he'll feel almost an initial need to "pee" but its actually just him getting used to it.
Prostate massage, in conjunction with oral sex will provide your lover with a feeling not many men have the guts to even try..but once he does, he'll always want it!
Personaly, I use all that I can. My hands, tongue, lips, face...you name it. I dp too, but my husband in particular doesnt like it every time. Its like a special treat. Anyway, I think my biggest blow job asset it the aim to please:):)
Live life.
I just got my tongue pierced and I was wondering if anyone had any techniques for me giving head with it in?
Also... what is the best position to give head in. I often do it with my boyfriend laying down legs apart and me either on one side of him or inbetween his legs. I find that holding myelf up gets tiring and I can't use both hands as much as I'd like because I have to use one to support myself. Any techniques?
pinky
i dont know about tongue rings but in response to best position my b/f says his favorite is when he's standing up and im on my knees. that way you have 2 free hands.
Thanks! We've only done that a once but I do remember him telling me that he had to have me right then!
Guys- Is this just a domination thing?
As long as it's my boyfriend and it doesn't involve any pain towards me, bring on the domination, sweetie :P
Probably too late to add anything.
But when you are giving the big BJ make sure you use your hand , rotating it as you go up and down.
My hubby loves that.
I get in here and read these posts once in a while. The thing you gotta remember is all us men love our women to give us BJ's. I have never met a straight man who didn't love a woman going down on him. I admit I have had really good BJ's, and I have had a few not so good ones. The women I knew I was going to see for a while, I'd do my best to try to improve their techniques. Women will listen to what you want most of the time. (Unless you want something really wacko when you're just startin out together). When I was going out with my wife a few years back before we got married, it was obvious to me she had no clue what to do or how to do it. Today is a much different story. She got there by me telling her what felt good, what I wanted, and by me earning her trust. The other side of that is you got to be patient, and willing to give her a little time. It don't hurt to amaze her with your oral skills either, makes her want to do a better job. Do what you feel, and do it like you mean it. In the end, you'll be happy.
I havn't had much experience with BJ's but I do give them to my boyfriend sometimes...
What I do with him is I like to tease him before hand... he really likes it when I nibble on his ears and stick my tongue in, also rubbing his back and chest works, then I work my way down his chest gently kissing stopping briefly to stimulate his nipples, and I gently kiss down until I reach his crotch then I rub his legs between his penis and leg (he really loves that) and I tease him by rubbing my hands everwhere but the penis
Then I get him to move his legs so that I'm between them, give him a sexy grin then I gently lick around the tip of his penis and run my tongue gently down his shaft... after running my tongue down his shaft a few times. Then I slowly insert his penis into my mouth slowly little by little while sucking, not too gently but not too strongly I found the thing he likes the best is when I suck on it, create ALOT of saliva... his most sensitive spot on his penis seems to be the back of the head so I position my tongue in such a spot that as I'm going up and down on him that spot is being stimulated by my tongue...
also what I also do is while he's still in my mouth and I'm moving up and down on him, I a) like to vary the speed so and depth that I put him in, and also move my tongue alover the shaft but mostly around the edge of the head. Unfortunately I don't have very good stamina at the moment so I've found when my jaw starts to ache unbearably I switch from bj to hand job to give my jaw a break, the hand job works really well since he's always well lubricated from my saliva, when my jaw recovers I go back to the b/j again.
Hi everyone,
My first post as well.
One of the things my GF will do after I’ve cum in her mouth is to look down at me really sensually, spit some of the cum into her hand and then lick it up again, extra bonus eroticism if the cum leads a string from her mouth to her hand!
I almost regain my hard on when she does that.
Great site!
Brett
Hey~ I'm a lurker, and have to say, after reading about how to give the best head, I have completed the task with an A+. I really wasn't all that good at it and after reading all these tips I implemented them and apparently did awesome. My husband came in the shortest time -EVER. Plus, prior to him coming was a whole lot of squirming and moaning, I took him to another planet and must say it was fun, for the first time in my life I can say that I was so satisfied at the prospect of "having all the control" in giving him pleasure. The fact remains he initiated this in a 69 and as I went off on him, he left me hanging
but I was self satisfied by my delivery nonetheless. I implemented Brandyes advice on licking and sucking every where but the head (till later) and also massaging his perinium, some tongue swirling on the head and then some entire shaft sucking, didn't ignore the balls either, took them right in my mouth. As he came I rubbed in time with him his perinium. I blew his mind! But what was I supposed to say "That's great hun but what about me?" Anywho, thanks for all the info guys!
I love to start by very deep french kissing...I ask him to stick out his tongue and I suck it like I would suck a penis. This usually gets their penis harder faster. I then make my way down to their genitalia by kissing the nipples,chest and belly button. They don't know where you will go next after that. Then I go to the thighs and lick up to the scrotum. I then take the scrotum in my hand and do the same. Since the most sensitive part of the penis is the underside at the split, it lick it for a few minutes then take the whole penis in my mouth and suck for 5-10 minutes and use may hand and suck the entire thing until orgasm occurs.
Just an update:
I got over being nervous, and I finally went down on my boyfriend. It was great, he absolutely loved it.
I've never given a blow job before, and I tried to DT, and I got almost all of it in-mind you, he's pretty big-a good 9 inches or more. He really liked that.
I also let him cum in my mouth and I swallowed it, and it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
He loved the whole thing. He came for a really long time, and he even blacked out for a second. He said he hasn't had such a great orgasm in a long time.
Thanks for all your help, I really appreciated it!
Gil
le voila - my first ever post on here.
The topic has been covered pretty thoroughly, I have just two things to add: my current guy goes nuts when I manually work the shaft (totally ignoring the tip) while kissing and licking my way down from his oh-so-sensitive ears. it takes time, and i usually stop en route to play with his nipple ring and maybe put pressure on his pelvic bone (press, HARD, deep into his skin with your tongue. sucking helps too.) This whole deal can go on for half an hour or more. the shaftwork ought to be slow, firm and rhythmic, and the tip gets more and more red as you go. when i finally get to the blowjob part, I start at the base and lick my way slowly up, dragging my tongue up the underside of the shaft. usually there's a lot of moaning at this point because he knows what's coming - I suction my lips just beneath the tip and suck in. Sometimes that's all there is to it. Otherwise, I'll keep my focus there for a while before suddenly sliding back down. from there, the territory is pretty familiar. Something about the variation in stimulation zones drives him absolutely wild.
The other thing I have to say is about attitude - blowjobs are not about steps and planning and military-esque execution. The absolute best advice I can give to anyone giving head is to imagine their favourite food, and then imagine trying to get every last bit of enjoyment out of it. there is something so incredibly stimulating about watching and hearing and feeling the guy you're sucking off as he hits the astronomical levels of pleasure...Be receptive and above all enjoy yourself! Remember what they told you about Christmas? "'tis better to give than to recieve." In this case, it's at least all square.
GilliganQ
Read the Fellatio tips that i gave you in your other thread, first of all. And maybe practice on something? Just so you know that your teeth won't get in the way or anything. Otherwise, just remember that it is something that should be fun, not intimidating. Ask him what he likes.
-Mariah
I read the tips, and they're very helpful. I'm just a shy person, and I'm kind of nervous about how I'll do. But he's a great person, and he understands that I'm nervous. I think with his support, I'll be able to get over being nervous and be able to do it.
I'm new here, and new to sex. I really love my boyfriend, and I really want to make him feel good. I'm nervous about giving a blowjob, though. I'm afraid that I'll do it wrong or that I won't be any good at it. He's gone down on me and it was great. I know he's not new to any of this, and that kind of intimidates me, too. I was just wondering if anybody had any advice on how to get over this nervousness.
Thanks!
Gil
Swallowing cum is not bad but it isn't good but it does have protien and nucleic acids.
When I masturbate I eat my cum because otherwise it is just wasted protien.
Does that answer your question?
Hey all!
I'm really new to this whole thing. I gave head for the first time (which is something that i NEVER thought I'd do) but i love my b/f and I want him to feel as good as he makes me feel. I've been reading all these tips and ideas and was wondering if there were any suggestions that you all had for me so that the next time I do it I can make him climax. And oh yea, is swallowing cum bad for you-health wise? Thanx!
My boyfriend likes it when he lays down & I sit on my knees with my back facing him when I go down on him. He says that the sensations of my tongue ring on that side of his penis are wonderful. I try to take it all in every once in a while because he REALLY reacts to that but I keep it to a minimum so he won't get it in his brain that I can do it all the time
Just a little hint my wife uses. She can get it all down her throat by putting her head on my stomach and sucking me. Some way it all goes in her mouth (7 inch) . she says its the angle . ? I dont know, but we been married 30 years and she just keeps getting better..
Lick him under the balls upward, stimulate until he has an erection. Then lick his balls in one motion, moving your tongue upwards in between both testes from the base of the penis to the tip underneath the frenulem, then licking to the side, then the other side, then from under the tip over the top to the base. Then deep throat him, sucking on the balls for a while. Pull back without taking your tonge off, go back doen the bottom side of his penis down the middle of his testes, licking and sucking on his balls from one side to the other, then do this from the beginning to the end.
No I'm not gay. I'm just happy to see you ladies knowing what you're doing.
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