Alright, I'm fourteen and I have been with my boyfriend for about three months. Recently we started making out but every time we do, he uses teeth. I tried putting my tongue under his instead of his under mine and a few other things to get him to stop. After these didn't work, I tried hinting at it and finally I just decided to talk about it after none of it worked. He said he knows he's doing it and he got the hints but he still doesn't stop. I asked him why and he said he didn't know. I know that practice helps and I have been trying to teach him, but nothing I do seems to work. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. :D
Edit: Okay, he's been biting anything that touches his mouth. I don't really understand it, I've asked him a lot but he just won't explain.. or rather, he says he doesn't know why. I can't tell any difference in how he's kissing me since I told him, so I don't really know if he is actually trying or just trying to get me to stop nagging.
Try this line:
"Stop biting!!!!"
Never heard of this problem.
Hm.
Well, if he can't stop then you're just going to have to suspend him from kissing until he can behave himself.
Where is he biting? Lip or lips? Tongue? Someplace on the skin? Vulva and one of its pieces-parts.
It would help us to help you if we knew specifically where he is doing this and when. That said, command him to stop, emphatically! as Brandye has stated, above. Geez, this kid is an inconsiderate insensitive, jerk.
Doc, judging by the context, I don't think the kid's doing it on purpose.
I think he's just really uncoordinated.
Very likely, and I hope you are correct; however, I do know that some boys like being controlling wanting what they want when they want it regardless, and, there could be a bit of Sadism going on in his mind. If true, he doesn't care that his biting/scraping irritates his girlfriend.
Jaidyn, what do you think is happening?
Okay when he bites you SMACK HIM HARD - then smile shyly and say
"Oops! I'm sorry, I can't control it."
The point being that even at age 14, you can have control over what you will and what you will not accept from your partners.
Yes, he can control biting. He just doesn't think that you will sort him out. 'She'll buy my story and go along with me because she's nice and sweet and doesn't want to hurt my feelings.'
Alternatively, if the rough stuff isn't your style. Just stop, walk away, and don't look back. If he asks you out again, say No. If he asks why - tell him why. Because you will not stop biting me although I have asked you too many times. I am tired of being ignored. Goodbye.
Biting is a part of my sexual life in my relationship also... i am close to your age i am 15 and when me and my girlfriend start to get into the mood and start making out harder she starts to bite my bottom lip but sense she likes it rough i understand i guess but i know how it can get annoying it kinda feels like a chapped lip type of burn idk how 2 explain it...but ive learned to like it and maybe you will too. just keep working with him and if you think he is worth it it will work out i promise.
You're 15 - sorry, but it does not 'work out'. You do NOT have to endure something 'in order to get to like it' - NO because there is so much more that you might like but if you get hurt and have your wishes ignored from the outset - you're not going to move beyond that and the relationship will get warped, twisted, and die.
Sex is supposed to be FUN for BOTH. If it isn't, then you or your partner are doing it wrong.
with me and my girlfriend it started out as a minor prob but has gotten A LOT better and i actually am enjoying it...but its all a personal opinion and if u don't enjoy it stop it
It's one thing to playfully bite and nibble... but bite somewhere else.... not what I eat w/! lol
[QUOTE=iGlory15;233043]Biting is a part of my sexual life in my relationship also... i am close to your age i am 15 and when me and my girlfriend start to get into the mood and start making out harder she starts to bite my bottom lip but sense she likes it rough i understand i guess but i know how it can get annoying it kinda feels like a chapped lip type of burn idk how 2 explain it...but ive learned to like it and maybe you will too. just keep working with him and if you think he is worth it it will work out i promise.[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't mind him if he were biting my lip, or rather just lightly using his teeth. He is just about biting my tongue, though. I can't really work through it because every time he bites I pull back without thinking about it.
I really wouldn't care if, like you said, we were in the heat of the moment but we're still rather new. :p I'm open to it rough and seriously would enjoy it if he wouldn't bite my tongue, or at least, not as hard.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;233113]It's one thing to playfully bite and nibble... but bite somewhere else.... not what I eat w/! lol[/QUOTE]
I totally agree! :D
[QUOTE=Jaidyn;233291]I'm open to it rough and seriously would enjoy it if he wouldn't bite my tongue, or at least, not as hard.[/QUOTE]
Communication is key to any relationship! If he's hurting you, tell him! I put up with similar for a year, knowing full well that she enjoyed it and that I didn't. Finally I told her and then we compromised. Our lives got better rather quickly after this.
[QUOTE=spaced;233316]Communication is key to any relationship! If he's hurting you, tell him! I put up with similar for a year, knowing full well that she enjoyed it and that I didn't. Finally I told her and then we compromised. Our lives got better rather quickly after this.[/QUOTE]
:rolleyes: I've told him already. He said he doesn't know why he does it. We have amazing communication for how shy he is. That's my problem, he doesn't know how to stop apparently.
[quote=Jaidyn;233318]That's my problem, he doesn't know how to stop apparently.[/quote]
I had that problem too with scratching her back. I simply put my hands down and scratched the sheets instead. Try giving him something to chew on :)
Biting is a big part of my sex life now. I all ways liked getting bit. Then my latest ex started to play fully bite me which I like and then she started to bite down on my neck as hard as she can and I get turned on really badly and start shacking and then it gets worse when she works her way from my neck down.
try telling him to part his lips just enough to get his tounge through tell to only use tounge when u guys makeout or whatever see if that helps if not try some other techniques if you don't know any I would be happy to share some with you just message me :)