birth control quander

[the_moth]

well, its been awhile since my last visit, i am now, not a virgin and have been having steady sex with my gf for the past months and we seem to have good sex, so my question is;
We have good sex, but she's not on birth control pills and doesnt plan on going on them,says she was on them for a while but didnt like they way they make her feel, and i dont want to force her either, we use a condom every time, so i have to ask, is there other ways to well...be sure we wont get pregnant?
And once again this question has probably been asked, so apologies if i double posted, any and all advice woul be appreciated

[dancingdoc2]

Oh! man, this topic has been discussed over and over. I urge that you go to the Index and read the information on contraceptives--there are a few.

We recommend that both of you look out for A#1--you. She should use some form of highly reliable contraceptive in order to protect her future. You must wear a condom, and, the two of you need a backup and that is a vaginal spermicide. If you do not do this you are trying to fool Mother Nature and I can pretty much guarantee she will bless you with a pregnancy sooner or later.

I urge that you encourage her to talk with her gyn. There are BC pills and there are BC pills. They are not all the same and while one may not work well for a particular woman, others will. She needs to discuss this with her doctor and find one that is compatible with her. If she is adamant about not using the pill then she should be using some other contraceptive for which, once again, she needs to have a discussion with her doc. in order to learn which one is best in her situation. If she is not willing to do this--STOP! having intercourse. Making love is a partnership and if she is not willing to hold up her end of the responsible behavior, then it is no different that taking all precautions most of the time and sometimes not using any protection. What's the point. Do you understand that contraception is for a reason? Does she, or is she avoiding the subject?

So, there are many different pill formulations and several other types of contraceptives that she should investigate. If you proceed just using a condom and statistics catch up with you, you have no one to blame but you. I can't put this any stronger. If you are going to practice adult games, you have to be adult about how you go about it.

[Brandye]

Using a condom properly plus vaginal spermicide (jelly, foam, film) gives about the same pregnancy protection as a hormonal system such as the pill.

The decision about medication going into her body is hers and hers alone. When she and her doctor discuss the alternatives, she will make a decision but the pill is not the only approach to hod up her side of the responsibility. The spermicide is.

Until and unless she goes to an IUD or ring or pill, use both the condom and spermicide.

[the_moth]

me and my gf have talked about our little worries and have decided that we should, and can hold off on vaginal sex and enjoy the alternatives. Also the comments were much appreciated