Scared...please give me some advice..

[zanzar]

ok. I don't want to take that long to describe this.

I am 16 years old. Last night I got drunk. Had unprotected sex with a girl. She is denying EVERYTHING that goes along with her being infected with anything.

She has little lesions all over her arms. I don't want to make this sound bad. So I am going to try and put this the most mature way I can. When I was fingering her. I felt a few hard spots in her I have never felt on any girl before. It was right inside. I didn't think of it and I didn't know of the lesions on her at the time.

She said she was taking birth control. She lied. She is not. I think it is medicine for her leasons. I think it is medicine for HIV or something related. I don't know much about the virus but right now im balling my eyes out im so scared of what is going to happened. A good friend of mines mom told me after seeing this girl and pictures of the leasons she is almost 100% sure it is from a type of HIV or aids.

Please someone help me. I am going to go get tested in 2 weeks. I am so scared...im only 16...

[madeye]

dude this is a part of growing up and having sex.

its called a consenquence.

your paranioa and fear of all of these things is related to your age and inexperience.

your not a doctor you cant diagnose yourself for anything based on an unprofessional diagnose by a drunk 16 y/o

this situation is very very simple...

no matter what lesions, hard things, pills, or any other random reasons you can consider a person to have an std the fact remains!!!! IF YOU HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX YOU NEED TO GET TESTED FOR STDS.

welcome to the adult life of being sexually active.

you get drunk you bare back with a women you dont know or dont trust get to the doctor or in your case plan parenthood and get a complete bacterial and blood test!!!!

I hate to be giving you such a guilt trip about this, but this is life bro your health is a valuable asset, stop looking for us to tell you everything is ok and get a freakin test by a professional doctor right AWAY!!!

the only evidence or reason to get an std test is so that you 100% know your healthy, its science not judgement. so cut the imature act and actively solve this problem like an adult

[demonbuttercup]

Umm if she has some sort of lesions on her.. then you went to finger her...and she had some sort of funky stuff going on inside her... no matter how drunk you are... a lightbulb should have went on!!!

Why didn't you know about any of this before hand??
Did you just find her in a dark room and have no idea what she looked like before you had sex w/ her??? Did you see her just take some random medicine? and think it was for her disease??

Mad's right... there is nothing anyone of us can say for sure... we have no idea what these symptoms look like. The only way to know for sure is to get to a DR.

I would say that someone that young probably wouldn't have AIDS that has progressed to the level of having physical symptoms.
Yes I know kids can get HIV from their moms, but I've met kids like this and they are VERY responsible and educated when it comes to their disease. They know how to protect themselves and others who come in contact them... when it comes to sex and when it comes to everyday things such as if they were to fall or cut themselves...to let people know if they are bleeding to use certain procedures.

[zanzar]

Ok, first lets get one thing straight. I am not on here for sympathy. I know I f'ed up. I don't need yall tellin me that and I don't need yall "o im sorry its gonna be ok"

What I need is advice on what to do in this situation. There are a few pics I have of her. For her protection I can edit them so that all you can see is her arms and you will see what they look like.

as of feeling the hard thing. I didn't pay attention to it. And I don't know why. Maybe it was cuss I was intoxicated. But this was not even close to my first time having sex. Nor being drunk and I should have known better. I know this is my fault so don't think I am trying to blame it on alcohol or anything else.

I knew this girl but never knew of any disease that she has or had. I honestly never have seen her in anything but long sieves now that a friend points out thats all she wears. For obvious reasons. Her best friend showed me a picture of her and it was the only pic she has when she was not covering her arms up. You can clearly see something on her arms. I can't be sure if it is just a pigment change like some people have or not. But regardless it is something.

So to help me out more clearly if you want me to phtoshop this pic so you can see her arm's and hopefully give me some good news then tell me. And I am planning on getting tested but I thought I had to wait 2 weeks for it to show up?

Thanks guys...
I am just praying I didn't screw my entire life up....in a short 20 min period....

[sera300]

An HIV test is useless at this time, it will only establish the baseline of if you have already been infected prior to this contact. It takes time to convert to seropositive it's not immediate. And you need to be tested over YEARS!

Lesions on the arms? sounds more like track marks from shooting up. Or geez, it could any host of infections or any sort of skin condition. Some people have severe cases of psoriasis for example and this in it's self looks nasty on the skin.

If you seriously believe you came in contact with someone w/HIV you need to see a doc within HOURS to assess the risks. Based on this, a doctor can prescribe a med regime. There are "levels" of risk and only this can be decided by a doc.

This makes no sense, she said she was taking BCP's but you found out she was not? How do you know? You have no idea what meds she is or is not taking.

There are only a limited amount of meds used for HIV and it's not commonly "just one", they are used in combination known as a "cocktail".

Stop guessing and make an appointment to see a doctor TODAY even if you have to go to an emergency room. You have no clue what you have caught or have not caught.

[zanzar]

O, and as of for the medicine. I asked her about it before we did anything. She swore it was BC. Idk why but I believed her. I now know for a fact it wasn't. And she promised me that she had been tested within the last 2 weeks and had not had any sexual activity within that time.

But I really am scared she was lieing out her ass too me. But for her sake...and mine I hope she isn't!

[demonbuttercup]

She was taking medicine before you guys had sex??
Did you see it?

She could have been lying...or telling the truth... you never know.. that is why you have to take care of #1.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by zanzar

O, and as of for the medicine. I asked her about it before we did anything. She swore it was BC. Idk why but I believed her. I now know for a fact it wasn't. And she promised me that she had been tested within the last 2 weeks and had not had any sexual activity within that time.

But I really am scared she was lieing out her ass too me. But for her sake...and mine I hope she isn't!

First, a negative test means NOTHING based upon certain risk factors. If you picked up with someone, get yourself to a doctor. You need to get tested for a whole host of STD's and potentially be treated.

Don't believe people!

[zanzar]

Originally Posted by sera300

An HIV test is useless at this time, it will only establish the baseline of if you have already been infected prior to this contact. It takes time to convert to seropositive it's not immediate. And you need to be tested over YEARS!

Lesions on the arms? sounds more like track marks from shooting up. Or geez, it could any host of infections or any sort of skin condition. Some people have severe cases of psoriasis for example and this in it's self looks nasty on the skin.

If you seriously believe you came in contact with someone w/HIV you need to see a doc within HOURS to assess the risks. Based on this, a doctor can prescribe a med regime. There are "levels" of risk and only this can be decided by a doc.

This makes no sense, she said she was taking BCP's but you found out she was not? How do you know? You have no idea what meds she is or is not taking.

There are only a limited amount of meds used for HIV and it's not commonly "just one", they are used in combination known as a "cocktail".

Stop guessing and make an appointment to see a doctor TODAY even if you have to go to an emergency room. You have no clue what you have caught or have not caught.

Ok well I will go out and talk to a doctor asap. I know for a fact I am not positive for anything...or was not up to this night.

And the reasons I know that she is not taking birth control is because A close friends mom asked her parents about it upon me talking to them about this. She did not bring up anything other than she heard that she was on BC and was asking about it cuss she was going to put her daughter on it. Her parents denied ever having her on it.

[demonbuttercup]

Ok so you talking to your friend's parents about this incident..and then those parents approached her parents?!? bringing up BC? that's weird
And I am sure there are PLENTY of girls who are on BC pills and there parents don't know.
There is at least one post a week about it... girls asking where they can get the pill w/out an adult... we usually refer to planned parenthood or a similar health clinic.

What did your friends parents say to you about the situation??