first of all, hi. ive been lurking around here for about a week and finally decided

[hadla]

to post. ok to stop my worries. (sorry if this is the wrong topic room) i am 21, just lost my virginity to a guy on march 9. we did it the first time with a condom. i was able to relax enough so it didnt hurt much and luckily when the hymen stretched, it didnt bleed at all. he lost his virginity to one person before me so im not very worried about stds, only pregnancy because the morning after we both wanted to see what it felt like without a condom and i kinda regret it because of going through the whole pregnancy scare which is why we both agreed it will only happen with a condom until i figure out if i want to take birth control pills or what. so my period(which really relieved me) started 2 days after it happened, which was a little earlier than it has been. usually it comes around the 15th or 16th. so i guess my question is that since i had my full period, that means im not pregnant right? the way i see about the whole birth control thing is that i dont want to have to take pills or get injections or anything. its natural for women to go through their period each month so i dont want to mess that up. i already take 50 mgs of zoloft a day to help with depression and panic attacks and id love to gradually give up taking them since now ive finally found someone and i have the feeling of being loved and having someone to love. woo so thats me in a nutshell. thanks for listening and thanks in advance for feedback. -heather

oh and ps: ive only been to a gyno a few times in 2005 because my labia minora were bothering me by rubbing against my underwear so i had a minor surgery to make them smaller. he never gave me a full exam that all females should have had by now, but im going back to louisiana(lived there all my life until a year ago cause i moved to california with my dad and his fiance) for my moms wedding in about a month so im scheduling a full exam for then just so i can make sure everythings ok with me especially now that ill most likely be sexually active or something lol, but seriously i still feel a tongue is better down there than anything else :P

oh and i forgot to say i also admire you brandye :P

[sera300]

Be certain to get a full Gyn exam ASAP, keep you appointment!

If you had your period, I would not worry about being pregnant. It is possible to be pregnant and still have a period, but that is very rare. I would not concern yourself about it, if you think you may obsess over it get a OTC test to ease your mind.

If you are not certain you want hormonal birth control until you see the doctor go out and by a spermicide, I like the VCF's, they are easy to use, and don't foam out the way others can...some of the other methods make you feel/look like a volcano has erupted. BUT keep using condoms with the other method.

When you see the doctor, discuss hormonal & non-hormonal birth control. With BCP's you will get a period each month. If you don't like the pills discuss the "ring". Other forms which work nicely are diaphragms, personally I prefer the cervical cap. They are somewhat obsolete these days but many doctors still can fit you for one and can still get them.

Either way, you should be using a condom and if you are not going to he should be checked and cleared for any STD since he had a partner before you.

[NizeGie]

Highly non-medical answer (for the people who know what they're talking about to correct, as appropriate):

You're not pregnant, but that's because you're lucky!

I've known a number of women who really don't like to take birth control pills because of side-effects or for whatever reason. Other methods work, and condoms (in particular) have some other benefits. However (and I don't mean to be insulting here), but given your track record with this guy (you've done it, what, twice, and already have failed to use a condom consistently?), you should probably go with something you're not going to throw aside in the heat of the moment (plus a condom, if you can manage it). Unfortunately, all the barrier methods require some degree of attention and commitment.

[hadla]

thanks. we are going to use condoms until i have my appointment and figure out some other birth control thing. im trying to get him to go get checked at the moment, but i think its going to take some pushing cause i think hes embarrassed like i am at the thought of it.

[hadla]

Originally Posted by NizeGie

Highly non-medical answer (for the people who know what they're talking about to correct, as appropriate):

You're not pregnant, but that's because you're lucky!

I've known a number of women who really don't like to take birth control pills because of side-effects or for whatever reason. Other methods work, and condoms (in particular) have some other benefits. However (and I don't mean to be insulting here), but given your track record with this guy (you've done it, what, twice, and already have failed to use a condom consistently?), you should probably go with something you're not going to throw aside in the heat of the moment (plus a condom, if you can manage it). Unfortunately, all the barrier methods require some degree of attention and commitment.

it has only been twice... and we both think he was having problems getting off cause hes taking prozac and it just took him a long time to get an orgasm. yeah i do feel lucky. i just dont wanna risk it again or jinx it or something lol. but both times hes was out of me long before he was able to orgasm so thats why i feel like im over worrying about the pregnancy thing or something.

[sera300]

With condoms; look at a spermicide for now...remember condoms protect from STD's but for BC they can also slip off, leak, or rip. A spermicide will be a back up method for BC.

[hadla]

Originally Posted by sera300

With condoms; look at a spermicide for now...remember condoms protect from STD's but for BC they can also slip off, leak, or rip. A spermicide will be a back up method for BC.

yep i was thinking about that too, but i noticed on the condom package it said something about spermicide so i dont know if there was some on it or what.

[sera300]

Some condoms contain them some don't check the box, but it's not a sufficient amount to cover you. But for now check the Vaginal Contraceptive Films...I think you only need 15 minutes prior to intercourse to insert it and it's not obtrusive, it's a paper thin film. You can insert it as part of the foreplay.

He may be embarrassed BUT if he wants to be an adult he has to realize getting checked is all part of it. Trust me in the medical profession, no one looks at you funny for asking to get checked out...it's part of life.

[hadla]

Originally Posted by sera300

Some condoms contain them some don't check the box, but it's not a sufficient amount to cover you. But for now check the Vaginal Contraceptive Films...I think you only need 15 minutes prior to intercourse to insert it and it's not obtrusive, it's a paper thin film. You can insert it as part of the foreplay.

He may be embarrassed BUT if he wants to be an adult he has to realize getting checked is all part of it. Trust me in the medical profession, no one looks at you funny for asking to get checked out...it's part of life.

yeah im starting to feel that way too. its better to be safe than sorry.

[Brandye]

Get the exam!!!! Consider your options on birth control. The IUD does not get much press any longer but is still an excellent device and is about as effective as hormones - pill, patch, etc. Among the hormonal approaches, the ring puts the lowest level of hormone in your system. Another good choice. But, for god's sake, protect yourself. Pregnancy and zoloft do not mix well.