STDs and oral?

[hal81]

"if you don't want to get an STD then wear a condom during intercourse"
-i can follow that advice thats easy.

"if you don't want to get an STD then don't have oral sex, or if you do use a dental dam or condom"
-thats really hard to follow... it changes too many things that i like about oral.

so what does everybody else do?

do you really need to think about STDs if you only do a little bit of oral foreplay, say 30 secs- then is the risk small enough to ignore?

is the risk even lower if you stick to the clitoris area, or alternatively stop before he comes (if ur a women)?

what if you're young and at uni- is it a lot less likely that you will catch something?

if you do catch something... does it completely screw up your sex life, or can it be ok?

thanks for reading!

[Brandye]

Assume that anything that can be contract with genital to genital contact can also be contracted with orl-genital contact. Ok, there are a couple exceptions but that is generally true.

Time is irrelevant. It takes a virus or bacterium essentially no time to transfer itself. And following any contact with body fluids, they will be present until thoroughly washed.

The female genitals include a main channel in which are located the clitoris, urethral opening, vaginal opening, anusSkene's glands and the Glands of Bartholin. These all excrete into this main channel. It does not matter where along that line you are, you are contacting fluids from all those source. Similarly, the male urethra is constantly exuding whatever is in there, urine and semen with sperm at a minimum. Virus and bacteria as well.

Of the stuff you can catch, a few are incurable and you will live them forever - herpes and aids come to mind. Some are rather easily curable but getting more difficult as chlamydia and gonarrhea are becoming resistant. Especially in women much damage can be done internally while showing no external symptoms.

Some will show in a week, in men, some will show up decades later as cervical cancer in women. You clearly need an education on this beyond what is available on a forum. There are some good teen sex sites, especially Planned Parenthood, that you should visit. Sex is often treated as a child's game but the rules, and consequences, are very adult.

What does everybody else do? Immaterial. If you are smart you are very careful.