please help, need info

[ratio]

So about 5 days ago I slept with this girl. I think I now have a little red bump on my penis that looks a lot like, and could possibly be, a pimple, not sure if it makes a difference but It's on the foreskin not under it. Anyway I am scared ****less and was wondering if somebody could tell me if I'm overreacting or if this is something. If so, what could it be and would be it be something permanant? Please respond asap especially so I know whether or not to go near her again.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ratio - go see a doctor. We are not trained and licensed medical professionals here and even if we were, we'd still need to examine you.

Why weren't you wearing a condom???

[ratio]

Yes the whole condom thing was about the stupidest thing I've ever done. I checked again today and you can barely see anything there, just a very small red spot that may have a little white tip. But I'd really appreciate any help I can get on this. What could show up this early? What could it be that has this symptom? Another thing I'd like to address on a kind of side note would be, how do I go about asking the girl if she's clean? I have been trying to think of a way to bring it up without being insulting but I don't know what to say. Any help on these questions would be greatly appreciated, so again please respond asap.

[Caitlain]

If you two are having sex, you should be comfortable enough to ask her if she's clean and/or would mind getting tested (has she had any sex partners before you, or do you know?).

[ratio]

Yes I know she has been with other guys before me, she is kind of the type I might be worried about catching something from. But on the flip side I feel like I would know if she had something since nobody has ever said anythign about it and where I live if she had something everyone would probably know. Plus one of my best friends is really good friends with her ex and he never said she had anything. I checked again today and couldn't even really see anything wrong down there. Are the chances of that being just a pimple or something good? I don't know much about stds so I don't really know what would cause something that looked like a pimple to show up a few days after sex than just kind of die down to nothing over about a day and a half. But I feel like asking a girl if she has anything is like calling her a slut, I'm pretty sure the situation of us doing it again will come up soon so I was thinking of maybe stopping before and asking. Again any help on this or what that red spot oculd have been would be very helpful.

[EvilEvilKitten]

We can only repeat - go see a doctor, dammit! Or don't you recall the symptoms of sphyllis? what are they teaching kids these days?? I had better hurry up and get my book for teens done.

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by ratio

I'm pretty sure the situation of us doing it again will come up soon so I was thinking of maybe stopping before and asking. Again any help on this or what that red spot oculd have been would be very helpful.

You can't trust "hearsay" no matter how small the town is... I lived in a town like that...
Plus, this isn't realy a topic you bring up in the heat of the moment... it should be discussed before hand.. definitly a buzzkill.

And you don't have to make it all about her, just say you'd like for both of you to get tested... makes it less accusatory.

[ratio]

I actually haven't talked to her in a little bit so I doubt i'm going to be asking her anything. But anyway I was still kind of hoping someone could shed some light on whether what i've said could be anything. I still haven't seen anything other than what i've said, so based on that one little thing should I be worried?

[dancingdoc2]

How many ways can you spell "yes"?

1. Absolutely
2. Positively
3. Indupidably
4. Unquestionably

> I checked again today and you can barely see anything there

Utilize GOOGLE or Ask.com and do a search of venereal diseases. It only takes one and at least one remains hidden and dormant sometimes for years before waking up and unleashing devistation on a human life. Better to be uncomfortable for five minutes letting someone look and and touch your penis than a (shortened?) lifetime of misery, later. Besides, if you had gone to the doctor or a health clinic a week ago, this thread and its present set of concerns would have ended by now--or at least sooner considering that it takes a few days for lab reports to come back.

[ratio]

I understand I probably seem very ignorant based on my posts so far. I realize that stds can stay dormant and everything for a while, but I am curious as to whether this one symptom would be a sign of an std of just bad timing of something else. I probably already know the answer to this but I don't have enough knowledge of this stuff to know whether that one thing means much or not. Everything looks fine and is working fine and I figured if something like that showed up it would be accompanied by more sympoms or problems.I realize that I should just go get tested but i'm having a hard time with the thought of going to doctors I know with this problem. I'll probably just end up going somewhere to get tested but I definately don't plan on unleashing devastation on human life cause I won't do anything with anyone else until I know for sure what's going on.