Hormone troubles with injection.

[sparco]

My girlfriend has tried both the injection, and a few variations of the pill but she still has a very low sex drive. She very rarely feels like having sex and when we do it feels like its such an effort for her.

She says she is fine once we get going, but never makes moves on me, and gets moody if I try it on too much. Currently we dont have sex much monday too friday, and weekends she gets tired and sleeps. Its only mornings that we have sex.

She is fine when we use condoms, she especially gets horny on her period, but where she has been on the pill/ injection for a while its messed up her cycle, and even when not on the pill/injection she has a low sex drive. However I am allergic too condoms as they bring out a rash. We do use specail ones, but they are thinner and break easily.

Any ideas on how too boost her sex drive? Ive suggested coming fully off the pill/injection for a long period of time, like a year plus so she gets into her natural cycle. I also give her lots of non sexual massages, lots of huggs/kisses and show her alot of affection.

Thanks

[sparco]

oh and too add, when we first got togeather over 2 years ago she was very horny, and some days we used too have 5 lots of sex a day! And she was up for anything! These days she doesn't want too do much more than missionary.

Surely our sex life hasn't fizzled out at only 20 years old

[Newwife]

FONT="Verdana"]Well you sound like a very supportive boyfriend.
Sometimes as a woman gets older her sex drive decreases. You have some good ideas about getting of the pills and injections to see if her body can sort of reboot naturally. Then, that runs the risk of pregnancy. You are both still pretty young to be getting pregnant. Trust me on that one. LOL
If you do decide to go that route I suggest that you research other ways of birth control like a diaphragm and spermicidal. There are many more. Or abstinence always works but I bet that is out of the question.

Also you may want to get her checked out by her gyno. She may have a hormonal imbalance or may have something wrong. (Not to scare you) I have just had many friends that had the same thing happen and when they went to the doctor it was actually there bodies reacting to something or other aspects.
Also be careful at how much hormone you put in her body at one time. You should look at what Brandye has said about that. It might be a factor.

If it isn’t any of these things try being more romantic and understanding. (Not that you aren’t already) Take a special interest in pleasing her and try new things. If she will let you experiment. I think the massage thing is a great idea. Keep your chin up. [/FONT]

[sparco]

The problem is, the only reason she wants too have sex most of the time is too keep me happy. But for me there is nothing worse, or more of a turnoff that having sex with someone who isn't horny. So most of the time I say no, and just stick too cuddling instead.

But when I dont have sex with her, she feels unnatractive and gets upset, then I try too explain its not her fault and I dont mind! But she always feels fat, she is only a uk size 10! I dont know American, but about 9 1/2 stone (133lb). Thing is she is getting self confidence problems over it, and she is always moody and just wants too sleep constantly. We havent had a proper sex life in 18 months, and i am a very patient and understanding person but it does get too you.

As for trying things and being advernerous, I tried too find her g-spot (see other thread) after giving her a maggage, and oral and she was not interested. She doesnt want too try anything, its only missionary.

[dancingdoc2]

Here is a recent thread that may be of help. Please read Brandye's reply.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_...ight=sex+drive

...and, please read her second response in this thread:

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/birt...ight=sex+drive

Here is a partial quote from her that may also help the two of you:
"The balance is between men controlling their large desire and women learning that giving joy is more important than receiving joy."

Cutting to the chase, then, my recommendation is for your girlfriend to visit her doctor and get checked out and perhaps dry yet another formulation of the pill. Second, that she adopt and practice the quoted information knowing that the contraceptive is at the root of the problem. Knowing this, she can use other contraceptives. The diaphragm/spermacide duo is good and as a barrier method, will not disrupt her chemistry.

[MeliMel]

The pill has never given me a problem, but I can speak on the injection...

I spent time on Depo Provera, and it was TERRIBLE. I only tried on recommendation of other girls I went to school with, but I should never have given it a shot. The Depo caused serious depression (which is EXTREMELY out of character for me -- I tend to be the consummate optimist), squashed my sex drive and my just plain drive for life, caused hair loss, sallowed my conmplexion... well, you get the idea. And when I finally got off the stuff (it took a long time to realize it was that which was causing all this) the first period was the most painful thing I'd ever experienced. So. That said, I can understand her shutting you out while in the injections.

Just a thought.

- MM -

[justify]

I have the injection but i still have all my horn lol worse thing with the pill is spotting

[dancingdoc2]

As for alergic reactions, try the natural condoms or plastic.

As for her low drive, perhaps she should switch to a diaphragm and spermacide.