worried! please help!

[thomoson]

Hi!
I am new to this, i am 18 and i had sex with my girlfriend about 3 months ago, it was both our first times. Since then i have been unable to orgasm through fellatio or intercourse! I can only orgasm through self masterbation. I have showed her how i masterbate by guiding her hand with mine but it still does not work! She tries so hard to get me to orgasm, but nothing works! She tries deepthroat, her on top, me on top. I try thinking about the things i think about when i masterbate during sex and fellatio, nothing works! I have been for the past three months faking orgasms so she doesnt get offended! I am at the stage now where i dont know what to do! Please help! Thankyou.

[Brandye]

Well, if she cannot tell you are faking, neither of you know what is going on. I do not know upur background but it is likely that you have a healthy guilt trip going and your body is telling you something that you are not accepting. Are you really ready to be sexually active?

[thomoson]

Yes i am ready, i know that for sure. could it be something medical?

[sexy_angel]

could it be you are worrying and trying too much to 'finish the job'?? If you're thinking too much about it it could be stopping it from happening. maybe you should try relax abit. Don't make it the 'end deal of the job'....enjoy it and if it happens it happens if not ...just try again....no stress.

just an opinion!

[Brandye]

Not likely to be a physical problem; more likely psychological.

[happywifey]

Just try relaxing and enjoying being with eachother. Don't think about the "big finish" just enjoy knowing that what she's doing at that moment feels great. Focus more on just pleasing eachother and what feels good.

[thomoson]

well i took your advice! and i did it! thanks!