Had An Std, Should I Tell Him!!!

[kegel]

Unfortunately, I contracted an STD, from a boyfriend of many years, who was all over the place and I had no idea, guess I was alittle naive.
He gave me sphyllis, I found out and left him, was treated and have since gotten married and have 2 healthy children.
I met a very nice guy and has been dating for a 6 months, he wants to have sex but I am scared, I want to tell him what happened to me, but I am very weary, on one hand I feel I don't need to tell him, since I am healthy and doing good and on the other hand, I feel guilty. Any suggestions?........ Thanks

[FlynSunshine]

Personally, I believe that you should tell him, but I would emphasize that it was part of your past, and that it's well over now. i.e.- I had it, I was treated and I learned my lesson sort of thing.
If you and your new guy have been going out for 6 months, I assume you're working on the honesty and telling each other everything- which in my mind includes your past. That's just IMO, though

[Jaysey]

Some things are better left in the past. What would be gained from your sharing this information? How would he benefit? How would you?

I once contracted a plantar wart. I had it frozen off. It's been gone ever since--has no bearing on my present life whatsoever. My partner doesn't know this tidbit. Why should he? I also had chicken pox once...I haven't told him about that experience either.

[Browser]

Chicken pox is an entirely different beast than syphilis. Tell him, but stress that it has been treated.

[LittleFury]

Treated and cured is a different thing. Treated as in it being kept in check, if that is the case, you definatly have to tell him. If you were cured, as in it is gone, you should still tell him. If the tables were turned, wouldn't you like to know?
Thats even besides the idea of kind of legal trouble you could be if you kept it from him and he is the kind that would sue.

[Jaysey]

Originally Posted by Browser

Chicken pox is an entirely different beast than syphilis. Tell him, but stress that it has been treated.

It's not that different if it has no bearing on current health or is cured and no longer transmittable. Syphillis is treated with penecillin (much like the flu), and after treatment, you are cured...not just managing the disease (unlike, say, Herpes). If I could still pass my chicken pox on, I'd tell people. If I can't, what's the point?

[Brandye]

You contracted a disease. You were trated and cured. There is nothing of that disease remaining in your body except your memories.

Each of us has some things in our past that we are not really proud of. The question you are wrestling with is whether or no this needs to be shared with another.

If you were putting someone at risk (herpes, for instance) there would be an imperative to tell. You are not putting anyone at risk and the disclosure could well risk the relationship. Your call.