New to sex. I have some dumb questions. Sorry!

[pencil_pimp]

Hi, I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to this sex stuff, so I have a few questions that might seem kind of dumb. Me and my partner are virgins still, and she wants to have sex but I am hesitant because I don't know much about these diseases and stuff.

If I use a condom, will that prevent any diseases from happening to both of us?

What's the best way to avoid STDs and pregnancy?

Are there any diseases we can get if we perform oral sex on each other?

As I said, both of us are still virgins. I mean, I've masturbated a few times so I dunno if that will have any effect on me being more likely to get any dieases.

Can you get AIDs or other STDs from your partner even though neither partner has any STDs or is a virgin? I mean what kind of diseases should we be concerned the most about if both of us have never engaged in sex before?

Any feedback appreciated.

[SCAR]

don't be sorry we are all here to learn

The likly hood of you catching a disease or AIDs is low if you are both virgins. as long as you wash properly after masterbation you should be ok from getting infections from that.

i think the best type of condoms to use would be spermicide condoms. they can be purchased from most places look in your local pharmacy.
have your girlfreind look at birth control pills and consult her doctor before engageing in sexual activities.

again if you are virgins there is a low possibility of catching a disease from oral but to be sure you can always wear a condom while she is performing oral on you.

and lastly you say you are hesitant to have sex. dont rush in both of you look deep in to yourselfs and decide do you think you are really ready to take this leap together and until you are deadly sure dont do anything.

i hope i was some help, good luck

[dancingdoc2]

It has been said that the only dumb questions are the ones not asked.
The purpose of the Board is to answer questions.

Here is a site you will find helpful:
http://www.teensource.org/pages/3002/STDs.htm

http://www.teensource.org/pages/3015...nformation.htm

> What's the best way to avoid STDs and pregnancy?

Abstinence.

Failing this, then each individual must look out for and protect Number One. This means each of you must be using some form of contraception together. The chances of an unplanned pregnancy are greatest during the teen years mostly due to carelessness.

> If I use a condom, will that prevent any diseases from happening to both of us?

It depends upon the type of condom. Natural condoms will not prevent the transfer of diseases.

> Are there any diseases we can get if we perform oral sex on each other?

If both of you are disease free and remain monogomous, then it is unlikely.

> I've masturbated a few times so I dunno if that will have any effect on me being more likely to get any dieases.

Only a few times?? How young are you?

Seriously, it makes no difference whether the climaxes you enjoy are caused by your hand, someone elses, or by rubbing against a pillow. The number of orgasms a person experiences has no relevance. If it did, the person who regularly masturbates three times a day will be in more danger than the guy who does it once ever couple of days!

> I mean what kind of diseases should we be concerned the most about if both of us have never engaged in sex before?

Those that come from sharing needles or exchanging bodily fluids (saliva) with others, or getting someone elses blood in an open wound.

[pencil_pimp]

Thanks a lot for the tips!

I have a few more questions (if you don't mind!).

What are spermicide condoms? Are those the best for preventing pregnancy? And how do birth control pills work? Do those prevent pregnancy too? Does anybody know the odds of getting a girl pregnant when using contraceptions?

I'm in my late 20's and my girl is in her early 30s...does that make a difference?

Failing this, then each individual must look out for and protect Number One. This means each of you must be using some form of contraception together. The chances of an unplanned pregnancy are greatest during the teen years mostly due to carelessness.

Sorry for sounding so dumb, but what exactly do you mean by this? Number One? And what do you mean by carelessness? How do you guys "be careful" when you have sex?

Those that come from sharing needles or exchanging bodily fluids (saliva) with others, or getting someone elses blood in an open wound.

If neither of us have any diseases or anything like that, is oral sex pretty safe? If either of us, um, swallow each others fluids is that dangerous? Like when she has an orgasm and has fluids come out, is it not a good idea to have that near my mouth? Ummm...again, sorry for all the questions. I just want all the precautions and advice as I can possibly have before we decide to really have sex.

[jemmini6]

your age shouldn't make any difference. and what they mean by carelessness is that some people do not use contraception correctly (ie not following the directions on contraception devices). as for oral sex, if neither of you have any diseases, there is nothing dangerous with fluids from either you or her. in fact, semen is mostly protien, so it's actually good for you (although may not taste so great, which is effected mostly by your diet) just one more precaution for oral sex is contracting genital herpes. if either of you have cold sores(which is a type of herpes) it can actually transfer to the genitals during oral sex (if you either of you do get cold sores, you can easily locate information on how to prevent passing it to the genitals online or by consulting a doctor)

condoms that use spermacide take an extra step in preventing pregnancy because if the condom happens to get dammaged and semen leaks, the spermacide will kill the sperm cells before they reach the uterus so they cannot fertalize the egg.

if both of you remain monogomous, you will not need to worry about preventing std's, only pregnancy. since condoms desensitize the feeling of sex, you may want to consider birth control, and then you don't have to worry about using condoms and will be able to experience the full sensation of sex. oral contraceptives (or the pill) can be over 99% effective if taken correctly which means taking the pill everyday within an hour of eachother (meaning if you set your time for taking it at 6pm, as long as you take it between 5 and 7, you will be doing it correctly) if your girlfriend is not good at remembering to take the pill, there are several other, very effective options that she should discuss with her gynocologist when she goes to get birth control.

i know this is a lot to read, but i hope it answered all your questions completely.

[dancingdoc2]

There is more to discuss and I will try to do so later in the day. Right now I'm about ready to leave for work.

Taking care of "Number One" means looking out for yourself, your interests, and responsibilities.

Being careful? As noted, above. Also, by the correct handling of condoms; and, by not having intercourse without wearing a condom and "pulling out" before ejaculation.

> Does anybody know the odds of getting a girl pregnant when using contraceptions?

This depends upon the time of the month, and, the type and/or types of contraceptives being used--and correctly. If only one person uses a contraceptive, and correctly, then ideally the reliability will be whatever the statistics are for the product. If both parties use a contraceptive together, and correctly, then there is a cumulitive affect that would be greater than either individually.

> is oral sex pretty safe? If either of us, um, swallow each others fluids is that dangerous? Like when she has an orgasm and has fluids come out, is it not a good idea to have that near my mouth? Ummm...again, sorry for all the questions.

As long as the person is healthy and has no infections then the urine, semen, precum, and sperm are all benign substances. (People stranded have been known to drink urine for a short time.)

> > if both of you remain monogomous, you will not need to worry about preventing std's,

In and of itself this is correct; the problem with saying this revolves around a person's "history". The two of you may remain monogomous; although if one of you has had one or more partners, there is a possibility that something got passed along. If you are worried, it is always best to insist that the two of you get a physical, first.

This is all I have time for, now.

[dancingdoc2]

> I'm in my late 20's and my girl is in her early 30s...does that make a difference?

With regard to what?
Actually with regard to drive, the two of you are nearing a period of about two decades when your respective sex drives will be pretty evenly matched. Hers wlll or has peaked, and yours is sufficiently down form the peak at nineteen.

> And how do birth control pills work?

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0663.html

> Does anybody know the odds of getting a girl pregnant when using contraceptions?

http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_he.../bc_chart.html

> Like when she has an orgasm and has fluids come out, is it not a good idea to have that near my mouth?

Asked and answered.
Do not expect that very many women will have fluids come out during an orgasm. It does happen but is a rare happening.

> > but to be sure you can always wear a condom while she is performing oral on you.

I suppose this is an OK thing to do but I sure would not be interested in doing this. Good idea...bad suggestion.

I hope the replies have been helpful. Got more questions?

[pencil_pimp]

if both of you remain monogomous, you will not need to worry about preventing std's, only pregnancy.

Both of us are virgins, never ever had sex before...so is it pretty safe to assume we're all good with the disease concerns?

since condoms desensitize the feeling of sex, you may want to consider birth control, and then you don't have to worry about using condoms and will be able to experience the full sensation of sex.

Really? So should pills be taken before or after sex? Are these pills only for females? Do these pills reduce the desire to have sex? Are pills the only form of birth control?

[Brandye]

Look in Chick Chat for the thread on Which Birth Control for Me? and start your education. Then go to the Planned Parenthood site and read everything there.

[demonbuttercup]

Is it really possible for someone in there late 20s to have never heard of "the pill" or so clueless on so many levels?
Maybe I am the clueless one