NOW what?

[neverdiplomatic]

This is my first visit back to this forum in a few months, and I have to say, I NEVER thought I would behere again for this purpose.
A few months ago I found out my husband had cheated on me and given me chlamydia. We were both treated and broke up. Shortly before I relocated, we reconciled and began a long-distance relationship. Whenever he visited, we used condoms, with the exception of two times. Yes, it was stupid, I know.
This is what has been going on: about 3 weeks ago I began to have a copiour discharge. Not smelly, not itchy, just a whole ton of white discharge. THEN I started to have spotting to go along with it. Since I began taking ortho-tricylen on a constant basis (with my doctor's approval; he said I could use it like seasonale), I assumed it may have something to do with that.
THEN, about a week ago, I noticed vaginal itching. A LOT of it. I took a look and noticed a lot of redness in my inner and outer labia (from what I could see). I FINALLY was able to get in to see my doctor (had been waiting for about two weeks for my appointment), and requested swabs for chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc. Forgot to mention herpes, as for some stupid reason I wasn't concerned about it.
So, after the exam, he mentioned that he had taken swabs for herpes and vaginitis as well. The vaginitis didn't surprise me, but the herpes scared the HECK out of me. I mean, would he have taken a SWAB for herpes rather than a blood test if it didn't LOOK like I had it? I know I need to just chill and wait for my results to come back, but I am trying to steel myself for the worst.
The discharge settled down, btw, after I used a yeast infection treatment, which I tried because I had a yeast infection a number of years ago, and this seemed like it could be the problem. However, the spotting has continued. I am in my 2nd month of being on the pill.
I guess what has me confused about the herpes is that I was under the impression that herpes causes sores; wouldn't sores have erupted within this week? Or is the redness and swelling what people are actually talking about when they discuss the sores? And yes, I have been 'rubbing' a bit; I know it's bad, but I typically wake up to find myself trying to relieve the itch.
Am I tweaking out for no reason, or should I prepare myself for the herpes worst?
I've been tested twice now since January for HIV and Hep, btw, and both are still negative. I KNOW herpes isn't the end of the world, but it feels like it could be for me.
I just feel so dirty, you know? The possibility of two stds in 6 months makes me ill. I haven't had any sexual contact with anyone other than my husband (although from the way things are going, I'm going to be ending it for GOOD very quickly), so at least I know that whatever I have, it hasn't been passed on to anyone else.
Help? Brandye? Anyone?

[sweetiez]

Oh my.. you have been going through alot. im wondering why you went back to hem? Hmm.. do u think he is still "messing around?". Hmm. i just can hope for the best. im not sure about the bumps im sorry. ask the doc about it.
I hope you feel better!

[neverdiplomatic]

Well...I was an insecure fool who believed the lies he told me. I actually broke up with him for the FINAL time two hours ago.
I totally think he was still messing around. We only had sex twice without a condom since we reconciled, but that is enough.
No bumps, that's why I'm wierded out. Just redness.

[Brandye]

I recall your original post. You are a glutton for punishmen! Given the adaptation to the pill and the unknow sexual sharing, it is difficult to separate what matters from what does not. You can be infected with herpes and have an outbreak. It will sometimes yield other irritations either prior to or part of an outbreak. The little bumps are genrally associated with herpes but the virus can be detected in vaginal fluids as well. I am sorry that I cannot give any great reassurance but you have to await the test results. Do not conclude that the doctor KNOWS you have herpes; I would have tested as well and you do not have the classic symptoms.

We are seeing increasing multiple infections; that is more than one STD being passed at one time. I guess I should say do not necessarily blame your "husband" but indications are not good.

I know that some doctors are using other pills the same as Seasonale and women like that in the short term. If you want Seasonale, why not get the real thing?

[neverdiplomatic]

Hi Brandye! THANK YOU for responding to my post. I ditched the slime for good today and did so in such a way that there will be NO going back. His true colours have been revealed. I've been tested for herpes per MY request several times, so I know if that IS what I have, then he is the one who gave it to me. Not that it really matters, but it's nice to know, right?
I'm glad that you would've done the same as my doctor; that was my initial thought, that he was just being thorough, which is a GREAT quality in a doctor. But then, of course, the fear set in, and I began to think that perhaps I am woefully ignorant in terms of the symptoms of herpes. My mind is put a little at ease, especially since I looked up countless pictures online of vaginosis, herpes, HPV, basically, everything I could get my hands on. Honestly, in my unprofessional opinion, what I see is vaginosis. Not going to count on it, though.
I chose the Ortho because I used it prior to my first pregnancy and suffered virtually no side effects. Of course, my body and hormones have undergone a lot of changes since then and I won't be surprised if it's not the right pill for me anymore.
One thing which is great is that I went through with the big move and am NOT in a position where I absolutely MUST see the ex on a regular basis. He pretty much ignores the children and me anyway, so I doubt if that will change now that I've given him the boot for good.
I'll let y'all know when the diagnosis comes in.

[neverdiplomatic]

It was a yeast infection LOL! I get to try the prescription treatment this time, hooray! Everything else was negative, thank heavens!

[Brandye]

Good. Do not repeat!!!

[neverdiplomatic]

LOL, no repetitions for me. The ex is out of my life for good and I have no intention of dating or ANYTHING for the next 6 months at least. And I'll be using condoms for the rest of my life, no matter how 'monogamous' a relationship may be in the future.
The meds seem to have worked this time; almost all my symptoms are gone now, thank heavens.