lump on shaft of penis

[missyh]

my boyfriend showed me a lump midway on the shaft of his penis, on discovering it he made him self ejaculte to see was it any different, when he dod so, he "blacked out" and could not see properly for a while he said. his heart was thumping very fast also he said. i am very worried he wont see a doctor what is it any one know what it is?? is it very serious!?!? please help

[Brandye]

Without seeing, no one can really help you. I would wonder about the loss of consciousness more than the lump. One thing I can say is that it is time for him to see a doctor about both situations.

[missyh]

thats the thing he wont he'd rather forget about it. i really am worried . is there any clue to what it could be???

[Trivium]

(Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor)
he blacked out after he ejaculated(spelling, sorry)? If this was the first time he has blacked out from ejaculating, i would think you would want to convince him to go to the doctor. I'm sure if you really wanted to, you could convince him to go.

[demonbuttercup]

Agreed,
anytime one loses consciousness, that can't be healthy
my guess was that he had like zero blood to the brain =\

[missyh]

hes soo aginst doctors i cant convince him. its hard to. ill keep tryin ne other help??

[Brandye]

Any doctor reading your original post will have several things running through the mind. Some are pretty simple and not so serious and some are really bad news. No one can conscientiously say anything beyond he needs to see a doctor and get both parts of this situation - bump and vascular situation - looked into.

[missyh]

thanks, any ideas on how to persure him??? scare him in to it??

[moose_hd]

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Quote[/b] (missyh @ Jan. 01 2006,11:28)]hes soo aginst doctors i cant convince him. its hard to. ill keep tryin ne other help??

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I used to be a lot like him in that respect, but eventually realised that it's not a good way of thinking:

From the day they are born, men are taught by society to be iron walls and always be strong, impervious and show no weakness. We're never supposed to cry, complain about being injured or ask for help. This is why men don't stop and ask for directions. It goes against everything we've been taught since birth. I think it's also why he doesn't want to see a doctor: Describing a problem with his penis and male functions is like admitting the ultimate weakness as a man (if he thinks based on this perspective.)

The fact is that society teaches us things that aren't ideal in this day and age and men have to overcome this social programming. Being flexible and adjusting to the situation is what is optimal, as it gives you the most options in how to solve problems and deal with life. This is why many men think women are smarter: It is women who learn to be flexible with their lives and in how they do things, so they learn to be more effective problem solvers in social situations. Only the men that recognize and unlearn the social programming understand that being a woman does not make you smarter: Questioning the norms of society and how we are taught to think and behave is what makes a person smarter.

So how does this relate to your bf? I think you should convince him that if he's stuck on following his social programming, he's perpetuating the reasons why people think women are smarter than men. He should evolve beyond obsolete social programming and think about why he believes what he believes, and realise that asking for assistance can be the right course of action in some situations.

The pefect analogy is the armor used by tanks in the military: Why aren't tanks outfitted with iron armor? Because it's so unyeilding and stolid that it cracks under stress. Abrams tanks now have layers of steel in the armor. Steel is more flexible, and therefore can withstand a lot more blows than iron.

Society trains men to be like iron. Inflexible and easily snapped. Tell your boyfriend that he should be like steel: More evolved, and a smarter choice overall.

Sorry for the long post/rant.

[dancingdoc2]

It is too bad that doctors no longer make house calls. I rather doubt there is anything you can physically do to persuade him to go. &quot;You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink,&quot; so even if you hog-tied him and drove him to the office, you probalbly could not get him to get out of the car.

Try leaving him, if only to get his attention.