STD

[Hottie-why-nottie?]

I know that my sexual partner has had Chlamydia, and whilst he hasn't told me, I have heard that he has "something SO incurable" which i assume is herpes.
I have noticed lumps on my vagina, about 7 in a cluster, but apart from that cluster there is no others. They are not sore or itchy or anything and i haven't noticed any other symptoms except the lumps.
I have read in info pamphlets etc that normally a herpes outbreak would dissapear after 4 or so weeks. I have had them for probably 2 months now!!!
I can't see a doctor about them anytime soon, i live in an isolated area and know the doctors personally - plus confidentiality is virtually non-existant and i dont want the whole town to hear about it!!!
If it is possibly herpes, is it bad to leave them untreated for a long time?
ANd - if my partner has herpes and so do i - is it still a risk to have unprotected sex? (Besides the factor of other STIs and pregnancy)