Going limp while having sex...

[AsianKid]

And my problems just keep on piling up. *Sigh*

Anyway, two nights ago my girlfriend and I were doing it and I just went limp for some reason. We weren't at it for that long and we weren't doing anything out of the ordinary (me on top, her on the bottom) so I was pretty shocked that my soldier would just die out on me. I lay there, on top her, and she asked me if I came already, and I told her that I didn't and that for some reason I just went soft. I believe we layed there for a bit and she kissed me for awhile and whispered something in my ear, which got me hard again, and we finished. I went a little faster, explaining to her after that I didn't want to "lose it." I didn't say anything but this was a huge blow to my confidence.

Yesterday afternoon my girlfriend and I were at it again (and my girl seemed like she was horny all day, talking dirty and teasing me) and I went limp on her, twice. After the first time, she took off the condom and gave me head to rejuvenate me. After the second time I forced myself into her (while I was limp) and got myself hard again, and then completed, going through three condoms in the process.

Tonight, I didn't even feel like doing it, but I hate wasting opportunities/haven't grasped the idea of not being in the mood and my girl and I were going to do it in my car. I have an SUV, so we put the seats down and had plenty of room. So we're going at it, and not a few minutes into it, I die again, for the fourth time in three days. I just lay on her as she asked me what's wrong and told me that it was okay and that we shouldn't have done it anyway if I wasn't in the mood. She gave me head and I returned the favor afterwards.

Now I realize how tolerant my girlfriend is being and I know that she shouldn't have to put up with this. I reasoned that maybe because we were doing it without a condom for awhile, I got kind of spoiled and used to the sensations, and that the condoms densensitized me to the point of turning me limp. I have no idea if that's rational at all, but it made sense as I said it, and it makes sense to me now as I'm typing it. We decided that we'd wait till she's on her period now so we can do it without a condom...

Anyone ever had/have the same problem? Stories? More importantly, solutions???

AsianKid

[sweetascandy]

Sorry to hear about your problem asianguy. My boyfriend went throught the same sort of stage, going soft for no apparent reason (we were doing everything the same as always) But after about a week, this returned to normal. I still have no idea what caused it, or why things returned to normal! I shouldn't worry too much about it, things should be back to normal soon hopefully

[AsianKid]

Thanks for the sympathy sweetascandy. Unfortunately, if you have followed any of my previous threads you would know that this type of inadequacy is indeed, normalcy for me.

I'm about to write another thread, a little more in depth about my life and current situation, probably in the Married & Long Term Relationships Forum...

AsianKid