Stamina Issues...

[AsianKid]

I had another post in here which details most of the sexual problems I've been having recently. Check it out/comment if you want:

http://www.sexinfo101.com/cgi-bin....;t=4475

Okay, so here's the update. There was a period where my girl and I were having pretty decent sex. I was lasting longer, bringing her to orgasm, etc. But the last few times I've been coming very quickly again. I haven't been using a condom (because she's been on her period) so that could be a reason, but when we were having unprotected sex during the good sessions, I was lasting noticably longer. One thing I noticed is that if I have to urinate I seem to cum quicker. Anyone know anything about the correlation between urination/ejaculating?

Also, and I asked this before, are there any type of ways to improve stamina, be it exercises, pills, or something else?

AsianKid

[Brandye]

The prostate gland is a switch that opens either the bladder or the vas deferens to the urethra. When you have to pee and are aroused, it can get confused and wants to solve both issues at once. So, yes, urinary pressure can sometimes accelerate ejaculation and sometimes prevent ejaculation. The urine and the semen both exit through the urethra.

Your issues are pretty typical. If you come too soon, she can get you back up and go some more. If you are not getting up, try satisfying her by other means and you will probably get back in the mood.

As a teen, some of my partners would come as I rolled the condom on them or as they started into me. My aunt advised me early on to bring them off by hand at least once so they would last longer. You and your girl can work it out.

[mmparks]

Are you having a lot of foreplay? Ive noticed sometimes with my man that if there is too much or the foreplay is too long, he ejaculates quicker. Justa thought.


I also read your other post.. do you smoke? That can be a significant factor.. I know from personal experience. My husband smoked liek a stack and he has little stamina, more difficult time keeping an erection, and out of breath too easily. He quit smoking and became the super stud. ANOTHER reason to quit if you smoke

[lakers fan]

hey i feel your pain, i have the same problem. My girlfriend and i do not use condoms, and i seem to cum way too fast for her liking. Maybe you should go pee before you do foreplay or mess around? sorry i could not be of much help.

[AsianKid]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]The prostate gland is a switch that opens either the bladder or the vas deferens to the urethra. When you have to pee and are aroused, it can get confused and wants to solve both issues at once. So, yes, urinary pressure can sometimes accelerate ejaculation and sometimes prevent ejaculation. The urine and the semen both exit through the urethra.

Your issues are pretty typical. If you come too soon, she can get you back up and go some more. If you are not getting up, try satisfying her by other means and you will probably get back in the mood.

As a teen, some of my partners would come as I rolled the condom on them or as they started into me. My aunt advised me early on to bring them off by hand at least once so they would last longer. You and your girl can work it out.

The few times that I've tried to get back up using more foreplay, I became erect, but got soft upon re-entry. My erections just don't last long at all. I'm baffled truthfully, and wondering if I always had this problem, or developed it now that I have a steady girlfriend.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]Are you having a lot of foreplay? Ive noticed sometimes with my man that if there is too much or the foreplay is too long, he ejaculates quicker. Justa thought.


I also read your other post.. do you smoke? That can be a significant factor.. I know from personal experience. My husband smoked liek a stack and he has little stamina, more difficult time keeping an erection, and out of breath too easily. He quit smoking and became the super stud. ANOTHER reason to quit if you smoke

Truthfully, we barely even have foreplay. Some quick kissy, touchy, feely, undressy (I'd say it takes about 3 minutes or so) and we're going at it.

I don't smoke. Used to do maijuana, but that was about 3 to 4 years ago.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ] hey i feel your pain, i have the same problem. My girlfriend and i do not use condoms, and i seem to cum way too fast for her liking. Maybe you should go pee before you do foreplay or mess around? sorry i could not be of much help.

Nice to know I'm not alone. The sole reason I came to this board was to figure out how to be the best lover for the girl I adore. I wanna bring our sex life up to par with the other things in our areas. Hopefully all of us experiencing these similar problems can help each other out so we can keep our women (and ourselves) happy...

AsianKid

[lakers fan]

yeah asian kid, i hope we can all work our problems out for our gf's and for us. Atleast your gf is willing to do some foreplay if you cum too fast. You know what my gf did when i cum too fast the last few times? she got up pissed at me and threw like my boxers, and said some pretty mean comments. not good for the confidence. But yeah my gf just gets pissed says i ruined the mood, and goes to sleep mad at me. so im glad your gf is willing to try and make it work, unlike mine.

[girl12]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (lakers fan @ April 07 2005,11:50)]yeah asian kid, i hope we can all work our problems out for our gf's and for us. Atleast your gf is willing to do some foreplay if you cum too fast. You know what my gf did when i cum too fast the last few times? she got up pissed at me and threw like my boxers, and said some pretty mean comments. not good for the confidence. But yeah my gf just gets pissed says i ruined the mood, and goes to sleep mad at me. so im glad your gf is willing to try and make it work, unlike mine.

are u serious? thats horrible! u need a gf who is going to be supportive of problems like this, if she isnt, she is making HERSELF look like an ass and she is lowering UR self esteem. her comments like this may actually be a little part of ur problem. u kno that if u dont get it up long enough, she will yell at u, this makes u nervous which really does affect ur sexual performance.

maybe u should talk to her about this.

hope i helped-mariah

[lakers fan]

girl12 i have tried to talk to her. she has told me that we have been having sex for a long tme now, i should be able to last long enough now.but the thing is at the beginning of our relationship, we would have sex like 2-3 times a day, around 5 days a week. never any complains and she even told me i am the best or was the best sex she ever had. now i might be lucky to have sex once in like 1-2 weeks. if i suggest more sex she say's no, or tells me im way horny. no blowjobs, handjobs anything. just the other day i asked for a handjob. she said ok, i'll give you one if you don't bother me for a month. whats up with that? makes me just feel bad cause i try so hard for her. i take her to school 5 days a week, wait for atleast 1-2 hours a day in the car for her, give her massages, cook her dinner after she gets off work and clean it up. i try and do everything i can to make her life easier, and when it comes to what i want, i get nothing.

[girl12]

are u sure she is right for u? u do all that for her and u get nothing for it? thats a rip off if u ask me and that is no way to live. she sounds like she makes u feel like shit all the time. she obviously cant appreciate wut she is given.
i am very proud of u for taking care of her like that while she has been saying degrading remarks to u, but i think its time that this needs to be addressed.

xo-mariah

[lakers fan]

girl12 im not sure. sometimes when were together i feel like she is the one for me and that i can spend the rest of my life with, and then sometimes it's like dam why are you like this to me? i mean she tells me she loves me all the time, and that she wants to get married. but then something like this, she won't try and work out? and have talked to her about all the stuff i do, and she told me she doesn't ask me to do it which is bs to me. she tells me i get love, and that we should make up her not doing anything for me by being together forever? i mean ok maybe we will be, but thats no reason to not do anything for me. thanks i have been trying to get over the stuff she told me or forget about it, but it is still in the back of my head everyday all day. what am i supposed to do? i mean our relationship is not based on sex, but i mean no sex, or even touching for that matter is not a happy relationship for any guy i assume. i have tried to put up with this for as long as i could, but i am going to have to sit down and really evaluate and think about what she means to me, and if this is what i really want.