Menstrual cycle

[victory_hog]

Hello all,

Here's my situation: My period has just ended, as in, I've stopped "bleeding" lol- what a crude term- and I was wondering what my chances were of getting pregnant were.. because I have just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time without protection, I am 17, and from what my friends have told me, straight after te period is the time where it is like "ordinary", i know there was a chance even tho the egg has gone, and a possibility his sperm could still ahve reached... something?!- but .. yeah, could anyone please tell me my chances and the good/bad times to ahve sex? i will not continue to have unprotected sex unless I am entirely sure about my menstrual cycle so if someone could also help me there? We've been going out for about a year now and are very very dedicated to each other.

[demonbuttercup]

There really is no "safe" time....I mean some are better than others but to absolutely say, it's hard.
Here is a link to Planned Parenthood.
This tells you how complex it is to chart your fertility and all the things involved in doing it. I personally don't have the time do to all that temperature taking, etc.
If you don't plan on having unprotected sex again, then why are you curious? I know if your cycle is completely accurate all the time, you are most fertile on day 13-15 of your cycle. Day one being the first day you start bleeding. It of course is very difficult to have a perfect cylce, esp when you are younger.
I'd suggest to just use condoms or some other form of BC.

[victory_hog]

Well I am curious now because when I went to the toilet last night the urine was strangely a very strong colour and I have not had that before, but it could be because it was a hot day and the climate change was quite dramatic, I'm also curious because when I woke up this morning there was no discharge on my underwear, where there would be just the tiniest bit..

But am i right in saying, after the lining if the uterus lining is gone, the egg has nothing to cling to hence may be a less fertile time?

[soulmates82]

ditto the advice above. another suggestion yu might want to think about is start "charting" yourself. just a simple boxchart where yu make notice of changes in your vaginal fluid ie thickness, color, increase of amount.... also mood changes, any cramping, breast tederness, bloating, food cravings..... then note when the bleeding starts, heaviness of bleeding, color, when flow tapers off, the "after discharge" (what i call the part whenit looksmore brown in color and yu only need a panty liner ..).... keep this going month by month by month and it will help YOU understand your body cycle signals and not that i recommend using this as anything otherthan for your own use to help comprehend how to read what your body is telling you.
you have to use barrier protection when having intimate sexual conduct with others. next to nt having sex, this is the only way to protect yourself from stds and also useful to protect against getting pg.
ask your dr for information regarding stds and what signs to look for in both you and our partners, what the harms of stds are, risks, side affects, long term and short term out comes. have yurself tested on a regular basis as your dr recommends and make certain you ae ceertain about the results of yur partners test.
educate yourself to learn as much as you can about all the health risks involved with sexual contact, contact with body fluids of infected partners puts your health at risk, if you catch an std, you put your partners health at risk, and their partners and so on and on and on....
educate yourself, protect yourself, practice safe sex and save your health to help save your life.

[thetease13]

Actually, one of your most fertile times is after your period. Most people ovulate between 9 and like 15 days or so of their cycle (day 1 being the first day of your period).

Logically, the "safest" time would be like the day before you start your period, as logically, you "shouldn't" be producing another egg while one is fixing to be released.

However, that being said, there really is no safe time as periods tend to vary from month to month and you can ovulate at any given time, even while on your period.

[thetease13]

Here's another site that gives you a bit more info about your cycle.

http://www.kotex.com/na/info/period/yrcycle.asp

[victory_hog]

but how can it be the most fertile time after the period if there is no egg to be fertilised? I am considering taking the morning after pill tomorrow to be safe, all teh advice i have heard from my friends is that it isn't likely- I am aware that there is a chance, and we aren't exactly rabbits having taken each others virginity til now.

[thetease13]

As I said, you can ovulate during your period. You can ovulate right after your period. The "average" is like 9 to 15 days.

Sperm can live inside of you for a few days. So if you ovulate during your period or right after, and you had sex right after your period, pregnancy is possible.
All it takes is one little sperm to find that egg.

[demonbuttercup]

Its complicated...lol.
The egg isn't fertilized in the uterus tho, its fertilized in the fallopian tube, right after its released. It hangs out there a few days then makes its way to the uterus.

When did all this occur? Has the 72 hrs for the morning after pill already passed??

[victory_hog]

no I got the pill today, I have yet to take these cond pill, it was about 35 hours when i took teh first one, and i take the second one in a few hours, I'm relived to have it now, but again half sad that if anything had happened inside me I'd be murdering my first child...

well its for the best ...