Help me I'm so screwed!

[Oleander]

My life sucks.. I just need something to vent to cause I can't really tell anyone. I Think i'm pregnate... and I need to get an abortion! But i'm not 100% sure that if actually pregnate yet! Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex, but he didn't cum inside me.. But there's still a chance that i'm pregnate!.. I'm so scared. 15 with a baby. That would rouin everything i've worked for. Everything I want to do. I need to get an abortion. I'm just a little uneasy about it. I mean I'm commiting murder. And it's my child. But we're not ready for this. It rouins everything. Mainly his life. He keeps telling me how this would f*** up everything and I know it would! I can't have a kid at 15. It's a discrase to my family name! I'm so lost, So confused. And I can't tell my parents.. Cause my boyfriends parents can't find out! Not at all!... I can't be a mother at 15! No way in hell! I want to be a real Mom. I don't want my baby to have a life like mine. A messed up one!! I wana be there for my baby! Be a real Mom. One who cared more about the title of parent than the one on her buisness card! I want to be financtually ready.. And emotionaly ready! I can't even do my homework on time, or do chores! How can I be responsible for a child! It's not like it matters anyway.. I'm getting an abortion for my boyfriend? Do you think that's the right thing to do?! We already named them! If it was a boy or girl... Drake Anderson Moroney or Kimberly Ann Moroney!! Isn't that so cute... Now that I think about it even more. I want to have this baby! But my biggest problem is my parents and Mike. and school. I need to finish high school, and I have 4-6 years of college to deal with. I have high goals for myself!.. And I want to furfill them, But I can't with a kid! I want a be a real Mommy! And I need my teenage years to have fun. I already lost my childhood to raising 2 kids!! I already was a mother! My mom was never there. And then lose my teenage years to being a Mom. again.. Raising a kid! I'm so lost, confused!... I need help serious help!

[demonbuttercup]

Oleander,
Im sorry to hear about your situation. But first things first, you should find out 100% whether or not you should be freaking out, getting abortions, or picking baby names!?!

I know how you feel, Ive been there. Not when I was 15 tho. But I knew the consequences I might be getting myself into, so I was kinda prepared. Luckily, I wasn't prego, but some people aren't that lucky.

Just find out for sure and get back to us... ok?

[finewine]

There is a book you might want to read. It is called Two Choices by Sarah V. Richard. It is available online at BarnesandNoble.com and Amazon.com

I know the author personally. She was in a very similar situation as you are, just a couple of years later.

It talks about two best friends in highschool who got pregnant. One chose abortion and one chose to keep the baby. You are making very difficult decisions. The higher road is to have the baby. I will tell you that your parents will be disappointed in you, they will be angry and probably yell at you but at the same time want to hug you and protect their baby and be so sad at the choice you made for a moment of pleasure, but they will still love you. and they will go through a period of blaming themselves but they will support you.

Life is a beautiful thing. It takes alot of courage to bring it into the world and take care of it. It is the most wonderful thing a person can do but it will require you to not be selfish in many areas of your life. that will be the hardest part for you.
but then perfect love is not selfish and perfect love casts out all fear. If you were seeking love in that moment of passion, you will find it in greater and better abundance and really understand what love is if you have the baby. Take a look at the information about abortion from both sides not just the side that says have an abortion. It will be your choice. You will live with it the rest of your life either way and both will be difficult in their own way. Talk to your parents. You can talk to me PM or post if you want you can talk to Sarah too.

Having been in your situation, knowing all the information I do, I would say without hesitation, have the baby no matter what pressure you have put on you to have the abortion. I say that for your sake not the baby's.

[demonbuttercup]

I just still think before we start delving out advice, we need to know the "real" situation, or if there even is a situation.
She knows there is a possibility she could be pregnant. She has unprotected sex, which she should have known better, but that is beside the point.
Unprotected sex doesn't always equal baby. If I was her I'd want to know for sure before I pulled all my hair out.

[Rawbob]

I agree with Deamonbuttercup!

1st things first..find out IF u ARE pregnant!

From purchasing inhome pregnancy tests to going to your local free clinic for a pregnancy test, you first need to find out the facts!

Getting overwhelmed with the "what if's" will stress u out beyond belief!

Find out if you're pregnant first!

If you're afraid of buying an over-the-counter test or going to the clinic, you can always wait till your period is due and see if you're late.....then if you are 2 or 3 weeks late..then get the test.

That means u may have to wait, and by the sounds of your post, you're not going to be able to handle not knowing!

So, i say, buy the test at the drugstore ASAP!

Let us know after the test....then we can talk about "options" if you are!

[Oleander]

Thank you guys so much... I'm adding a nother toppic with all of the results here... so please feel free to reply there!

[unknown]

well first of all.. if you are pregnant by the sounds of it... i think u are kind of excited about it... you already have it named... and NO its not right to get an abortion just because of your boyfriend... You DO NOT need a man to raise a child ... and just because you are 15 doesnt mean that you are ruining your life... it could actually make your life better.. you can always finish school and go on with your life... sure it will be hard but think of what you will be going thru knowing that you had an abortion just to please your boyfriend...
PS ... if you arent pregnant.. i think it is time for birth control...

[sirbardcat]

It's called "adoption", dear.

You're dillemma is all too familiar.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

LOL yeah, i found it odd.. the option of adoption didnt come up in ones mind.

[Rawbob]

Actually Lady, i did not metion any options because we dont even know IF she's pregnant!

I hope she comes back on here and gives us an update!