lack of sensitivity

[boywithmonkey]

Howdy folks. I'm completely new here but I finally decided i had to turn to someone to figure some of this out. My girlfriend and I have been having sex for about a year now, and dating for a good 2 before that. In all that time I have never, ever been able to make her orgasm. Now i know that isn't entirely uncommon. The strange thing is she says she feels absolutely no pleasure from penetration. She also has never had any feeling in her breasts, atleast not in an erogenous manner. It's been causing a lot of problems lately. She's lost almost all interest in sex, and I think a big part of it is she doesn't get much out of it. Bring us to our question. Does anyone know of any reasons for such decreased sensitivity and lack of sex drive? Also any means of remedying such a problem. This is absolutely ruining things between us! Thank you all very much in advance for your help.

[Cornelius111]

Well I know when my girlfriend started taking birth control her sex drive decreased(it's one of the side effects, kind of ironic.) So that could be it. Also, I've heard that many women simply do not get much please during penetration. More information on your sexual experiences would help. Have you tried stimulating her clitories during sex(just reach your hand down between you and gently massage)? Have you tried other position, such as her on top(try missionary, but have her put her legs together with yours either over or around her legs. She could also reach down and stimulate her clitoris fairly easily in this position, and it should feel great for both of you)? Have you tried to make her orgasm by oral intercourse?

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Cornelius111 @ Dec. 01 2004,03:20)]Well I know when my girlfriend started taking birth control her sex drive decreased(it's one of the side effects, kind of ironic.)

LOL
yeah I too found that ironic. I was like geez, Im cool to do it now but I usually just don't feel like it.
Also, lots of RX drugs can have effects on you, especially those for depression and anxiety. Do you know if she's started any new medications? Has it always been like this? or just recently? Can she make herself orgasm at all?
I agree w/ the clit thing. Sometimes, I can get a good sensation from penetration. Sometimes, I can hardly feel anything at all. I usuallly have to manually stimulate my clit to have an orgasm. I have a little vibe for when my fingers/hand gets tired lol. Maybe you guys should try that. And no she won't get addicted or like it better than you.
For me, it just enhances it. I can give myself an clit orgasm w/ just my vibe. But if I am experiencing good penetration and then have my vibe on my clit.....WOW! double the pleasure

[Cornelius111]

Double the pleasure, double the fun! It's the statement of the great mint in double mint gum. (Sorry I couldn't help myself.) But yeah excellent suggestions, definitely try a variety of new things until you find something that works for you and your partner. Practice makes perfect!

[Makale_83]

Try clit stimulation while having sex with her.

Also, try biting her nipples.. Not hard enough to make them bleed but be rough. I didn't think I had that much feeling in my breasts until one day I was fooling around with a guy and he started to bite my nipples.

Let me just tell you one thing. That was the first time I've EVER moaned that I didn't consciously do it.