Male with trouble orgasming

[vagabondprince]

I have never had trouble orgasming from masturbation. none at all.
I have recently become sexually active, and that's how i encountered my problem. For about the first three months i was not able to orgasm from sexual intercourse or oral stimulation at all. there was one time we were going at it for two hours without orgasming.

I was finally able to orgasm with great effort (a lot of fast pumping) in january or so. Now that's what it takes to have an orgasm still almost every time i have sex. And since she's recently started to perform oral, i haven't yet been able to have an orgasm from oral stimulation. It is starting to cause a lot of tension between her and myself.

Please let me know what i might be able to do to improve my situation. I am considering talking to a doctor, but would like to know if there's anything else i can do.

[demonbuttercup]

I remember all the trouble you had w/ RE.
Ok, so before, it was just trouble w/ sex but you could orgasm find when you masturbated? but now you can't even do that easily?
hmmm, anything else going on? new meds? more stress than usual? beside this....
I know you have been dealing w/ this for a long time and it might be good for you to talk to a DR. If anything, he can tell you its nothing serious and just go w/ it. Just knowing that might subconsciously make it better.
I know how frustrating not being able to climax is. It only happens to me on occasion. I can't imagine dealing w/ it every time.
good luck!

[Ringo]

I'd try not to fixate on the problem - I'm not saying ignore it, but someone's signature on this forum says something along the lines of "enjoy the ride, not just the destination."

Think about this and try to discuss with your GF why this is causing tension. You need to explain to her that it's nothing she's doing wrong, otherwise she may start to have some doubts.

Cheers,

Ringo

[SanRemo0621]

sometimes you just arent used to that method...some guys need a really wet feeling to be able to go

[lilly2279]

I would take a quick trip to the doctor.

I dated a guy that could not cum during sex. And it took him like an hour to cum masterbating. It was very frustrating for both of us. Some of it was very mental with him. I know that was true. But if you have a problem like that, it's usually best to check the physical out first, then see if there are issues that need to be confronted mentally (which, like someone else stated, there very well could be) You may be feeling inadequate because of the summer guy or something along those lines. Feeling the need to "outperform" him.

Check out the physical, then focus on the mental. Good Luck!