My GF insists on a condom yet she is on the pill

[Ryan48]

My girl and I recently started having sex, and she's been on the pill for non-sexual reasons, for a chemical imbalance I beleive. I asked her if she'd consider going on the pill and she said she was already on it, which I took as good news

However, she believes it's too much of a risk not to use a condom. She told me that her friend's mother was told by a doctor that she was incapable of concieving a child, was on the pill, and still became pregnant. Sounds crazy but that's an example she uses to justify her concern.

I'm not going to pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do. We're both quite young and having a child to take care of would be disastrous, but as far as I know the risk of pregnancy is minimal when on the pill... I've heard it's almost impossible when used correctly, though this site only says 99% because it takes into account human error.
How can I make her more comfortable with only using birth control?

[Ryan48]

I'll also add that if somehow she did become pregnant, I would be open to an abortion as long as it was fairly early in the development of the fetus. I believe it would be worth the very small risk, though of course I wouldn't feel extremely good about doing it if it happened.

She, on the other hand, says that she's "kinda against it" in most cases.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

ok, so what really is the problem? she wants a condom because she doesnt want to chance having a baby. and believe you me huny, it really isnt your choice if she has an abortion or not, its her choice, and if she is against it.. you will have a baby on your hands. and the pill you can still get preg on it, so i don't see why your so COMFY with not using a condom... i would be rather worried if i was you. Also abortion isnt that "small" of a risk, if something is done "wrongly" it can acctually become infected and blah b lah and she might not even be able to have children when she is older.and no that doesn't sound crazy, becaus eit happens..
but meh.


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[mike]

She's the one taking the risk of pregnancy, it's her call. With the kind of attitude you seem to have, I hope she stands firm. Abortion isn't just a magic switch you throw that gets rid of a baby. It is possible for the woman to be injured by it, preventing her from ever having children. Infections can result, possibly endangering her life. And then you have the emotional trauma that usually results when a woman goes against every mothering instinct that nature gave her and kills her child. I suggest you look around this site and read some of the posts by women who have had abortions.

She's taking the risk, you aren't. And lets be frank, if she did get pregnant you'll most likely be running the other way as fast as you can.

[ebony21]

dont forget not only will using a condom mean she is less likely to get pregnant, but it also protects u both from STDs!!! you said u are both young, then there is a high chance u will go on to have other partners in your lives!! keep clean!!

[Nurse Naddy]

Hey Ryan,

Unfortunately, I agree with everyone else. I don't know if your comment around abortion was just badly placed or if you lack information around abortions, but I would suggest doing some research on them. Besides the risks of infection, they are horrible procedures to go through emotionally and physically. And what happens to the baby inside be it large or small is still horrific!

And ultimately it is your girlfriends choice to use or not use a condom and what to do about pregnancy.

Also, the risks are always there of getting pregnant. I got pregnant on the pill for seven years methodically while using a condom. And believe me! It is hard being a single mother at 24 let alone in the teens!

Why is it that you are so keen to have sex without a condom?

[Ryan48]

I just find it much more enjoyable without a condom.

Basicly what I'm saying is that the chances of getting pregnant while on the pill are low enough to ignore, as far as I know, and if they're low enough then it's a bit paranoid to use a condom as well. It's possible that there could be a nuclear explosion and you could have survived with a radiation suit, but that doesn't make it logical to wear one during sex. Obviously this is a very extreme example but I hope you see my point.

Also we've both been tested and STD's are not a problem.

[mike]

Don't give me any of that "the chances are so low" bs. Nurse Naddy now makes 3 women that I know of just on this site who got pregnant while on the pill. Maybe it might not happen, but what if it does? Sounds like you're a lot more for the abortion option than your g/f. You do know that if she decides not to get an abortion, you can't do jack squat about it? So are you ready to be a daddy? Ready to fork over child support for the next 18 years?

Maybe you should try playing russian roulette. After all, you only have a 13% chance of blowing your brains out.

[Rawbob]

Why don't you just come out and tell the truth! YOU WANT TO FEEL YOUR RAW COCK IN HER! You are thinking about how YOU feel. You should feel lucky that you have a GF who's that attentive to the reality of sex. And that IF you want sex it WILL be safe! Hey, you could have her say NO to sex all togther!

Stop blowing smoke up our butts - be honest!

[LittleFury]

You should consider yourself lucky. She is a very smart girl. Just because she's on the pill doesn't mean that you don't have to stop using a condom. Pill is safe, but not completely. It does not protect you from STD's either. Why do you have to even attempt to push her to go without a condom?
And I'm sorry, but do you even care a bit about her? IF youi did, you would honour her wishes. And what is it about abortion? Do you realise that it is a surgary on a girl. Meaning it does put her health and even her life at risk. What about her emotional health? HOw do you think she would feel if it did happen? DId you think about her?
She is being smart to have an extra protection, why can't you be as smart about that?
You find it more enjoyable without it? Fine, go masturbate. BUt also what about her? Do you want her constantly being worried and scared while you're having sex that she mgiht get pregnant. I am sure it wouldn't be as enjoyable to her.
Think about her for a moment, with your brains, not your dick.
And be greatful that you got a girl like her. Cause any guy who would try something like that on me again (my ex-fiance did that) his ass would have a very nice date with my boot.