Needing time to recover

[Brandon_m25]

I have a question that I can't figure out. I'm 17 and I have been sexually active for a year now and have had no problem till now. During sex after I have ejaculated (while using a condom) I immediatly take the condom off, wipe off my penis, and apply a new one, I have always done this but lately the problem is that I will be erect but not enough to go completly into the vagina after I ejaculate. Don't get me wrong I'm very aroused by my girlfriend I just don't know what's wrong. If some one could help please do tell me what is wrong and what I can do to fix the problem.

[demonbuttercup]

there isn't really a problem.
most guys go soft after they ejaculate its just how things work. then it might take 10 min to an hour depending on the guy to get hard again. so dont worry about it

[Junocozmos]

Every man I have ever slept with needed some recoup time before they could go again. Its nothing to worry about. My advise would be this; after you are done slow it down and maybe work on her for a while...a little foreplay. She'll love it and it'll give you time to regain your erection.
Live life.
Good luck.

[Rawbob]

Well Brandon, welcome to your first taste of "aging."

I call it "re-loading" - the time between my orgasm and when i'm fully hard and ready for sex again. That time depends on a few things:
1) Lenght of time between my prior ejaculation. If i haven't had sex or masturbated for a week, then have sex, i find i can "reload" quicker than if i had masturbated earlier in the day and then had sex.

2) The quality/type of sex i just had. If i just had a 2 hour lovemaking session with my partner - we're talking relaxed, slow passionate love making with extended foreplay and multi-position sex - i will take a bit longer to "reload."

3) Environment: Sometimes spontaneous sex - tho usualy quick in duration - also has me NOT losing my erection. From having sex in a semi-public place to being watched - i find i usually stay almost fully erect after sex.

So...there are alot of factors - don't vex!

[Vixen916]

we females go through that to.. atleast i do. it took me a while to orgasm but now my man has me figured out when it comes to how to get me off in a big way. so when i do get off, its a biggie and it takes me a while to 'recover'

[sexykittymaster]

The quote about the "first taste of aging" is so appropriate. I remember being 16 and and cumming 3 times, never stopping in between. God, now I'm lucky to still be able to go for 3 minutes after the first shot. Welcome to the wonderful world of your body confusing and annoying the crap out of you!

[lonely19yrold]

Refractory periods change with age. You 'youngins' go through less of a refractory period than older men. Right now (being only 20) I bet it'd take at least 5-10 minutes after ejaculating for me to be able to go again. But then again, I'm not sexually active right now. So it could be less. There's no problem. You're just worrying too much.

[Ruri Hoshino]

as I discovered with my boyfriend the other day he has great stamina! granted, I guess the fact that 99% of the time he's hard dosn't help *laughs*

anyway as I discovered the other day, he had just cum but we still wanted to keep going, but he had started to go soft, so he gave himself a quick hand job and literally a minute later he was hard as a rock and ready to go again!

so I guess it just depends on the person, how turned on they are... but I dunno about age since my boyfriend is older than you are...

[nodoubt16pb]

Yeah... after you ejaculate your penis has baiscally all it's juices gone so you have to wait a while like 10 or 15 minutes and then go again... In this time you could be pleasing your girlfriend ...just wait and it is perfectly natural... it happens to everyone...