Pulling out method

[Vixen916]

In the last 5 years of being sexually active, I have never had sex without a condom. I've had friends of mine tell me sex is so much better without a condom and not only that, but my man has troubles staying hard when he wears one. As soon as he puts one on, I have to 'work' to get him excited again.
Anyway, he says everytime we're together how much he would love to be with me without a condom.
I'm not on any birth control other then condoms which I buy with spermicide..for extra assurance.
Anyway, I was wondering who here practices the 'pull-out method' and how much more 'fun' is sex without a condom?

[?wiseman?]

Vixen, the real question you should be asking is whether 10 minutes of unprotected sex is worth the anxiety of 30 days or so of wondering if you're pregnant.

[Brandye]

The male reproductive system always has sperm running around. I see them under a microscope doing urinalysis; a month ago some guy had a question about intermittently cloudy urine. Likely semen overload with sperm included.

During sexual stimulation the presence of sperm is more likely. In short, withdrawal is similar to unprotected sex. Slightly safer because of the numbers of sperm involved but you will eventually get pregnant that way.

Psychologically, the point at which withdrawal is required is exactly when I want him way in there. I suspect that most men want to puch rather than pull at the point of ejaculation.

Sure. I like sex better without a condom or jelly or anything but it is not so much greater as to justify the risks.

[girlygirl]

The withdrawl method is the least reliable form of birth control. If you really want to have sex without a condom, use another form of birth control, such as depo-provera or the pill. Before you stop using condoms, you should both get tested for STDs, since condoms are the only form of birth control that can protect against them.

[Pink Pony]

Sex with a condom may feel unpleasurable, but nine months of pregnancy is not pleasurable, either.

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Quote[/b] ]Anyway, he says everytime we're together how much he would love to be with me without a condom.

I cannot think of any teenager or young woman who has never heard that line from her mate. You have to prioritize your physical health and happiness over his orgasm. If you want to have sex without a condom, then take a trip over to Planned Parenthood and buy a pack of birth control pills. Make sure the both of you take all the disease tests. I find the more pressing issue, besides pregnancy and STD's, is a lack of communication. Why is his erousal "work" for you? Sex should be fun and affectionate. These are the signals that I am picking up from what you have said:

1.) Pleasing my man is hard work.
2.) He has trouble getting aroused with a condom.
3.) I have never had sex without a condom for personal reasons.
4.) I am willing to alter my established norms to please my man.
5.) Sex is a job.

I may or may not be correct, here, but the bottom line is this: do what is safe and pleasurable for you. Your body is the only one you are given in this life and it is not a man's place to determine, IN ANY MANNER, how you should live. Protect yourself.

[Deltablues83]

If you want to have sex without a condom, why not get on hormonal birth control? Withdrawal shouldn't be your first choice.

[Rawbob]

I echo ALL the other members!

It DOES feel different! I'm not gonna lie. BUT! Pregnancy and some STD's (HIV/HEP C) are FOREVER!

It's not NOT NOT NOT NOT worth it!

Keep wearing the condoms!

[Vixen916]

Thanks for all the concern.. 2 months ago we both got tested. The only concern is pregnancy.. I'm trying to decide which form is best, pills, patch, shot.

[Julie]

Sex without a condom is a million times better than with. I mean, don't get me wrong, I still love it when he wears a condom...but it just drives me wild when he doesn't. It's something about the messiness and how I can actually feel him. Please don't harp on me about STD's and pregnancy. We are both STD free, don't sleep with others, and getting pregnant isn't a worry- I'd actually be thrilled if I was.

[Vixen916]

No harping from this end about all the dangers of not wearing a rubber... you just straight up answered my original question.