Desensitized penis

[bighog]

I think my penis is desensitized. I have a new GF and she masterbated me last night and I couldnt cum. I felt so bad because she kept working it for about 10-15 min and I couldnt orgasm, yet I could maintain an erection and produced pre-cum. Before I met her I masterbated all the time(once a day before bedtime). I was able to cum when masterbating myself, but I havent been able to with her and it is frusterating. I have stopped masterbating for a while, hoping the sensitivity will come back. Is there something I could do to regain sensitivity? Is there such a thing called a 'penis sock', that is worn over the head and helps rejuvinate sensitivity? I thought I read that something like that existed. Im 29 and I do take an anti-depressant, at first when I took the anti-depressant one of the side effects was lack of arousal and I could get an erection. But now its been a while and i can get an erection, I just cant seem to get much feeling out of my penis in order to get an orgasm. HELP!! PLEASE!!

[ItalStall]

If you can come masturbating, then you can come when she does it! The difference is just nerves and her getting used to what you like best.

Communication is key - tell and show her what you like. If you guide her (even help her) she will get you there.

The only cloud on the horizon is your comment about Depression and anti-depression medication, both of which can affect sexual performance. If this is the case for you, visit your doctor to see what can be done. The doc may be able to change your brand or dosage to reduce this effect.

Good luck!

[Brandye]

Anti-depressants, among all drug classes, are the most likely to affect sexual response. There is almost always an alternative. Speak to your doctor and perhaps a change in medication is possible. DO NOT MESS WITH THE DRUG DOSAGE YOURSELF!!!!

[bighog]

We tried again 2 nights ago and I can maintain an erection for a limited time. We did foreplay for a while and I was hard most of the time. After awhile my penis goes soft and Im not even able to penetrate her. This is SOOOO frusterating. I firmly beleive its the medication. Im so pissed off!!

[Shorty43]

My boyfriend takes medicine, not anti-depressents, but similar, that effect erection. *It isn't too much of a problem being that he hardly ever takes his medicine by choice, but it has been. *Anyway, if we'd give it a little time his erection would come back if I'd rub his penis in a certain way. *As for ejaculating, if there is pre-ejaculate, just give it more time.

[bighog]

Thanks for the tips. I do produce pre-ejaculate and plenty of it. In fact there was so much of it, my GF thought I already came. But I just coulldnt reach orgasm. Its sooo frusterating because weve done just about everything except intercourse. Everytime I think Im ready, by the time I put my condom on, Im not hard enough to penetrate her. And Im starting a new anti-depressant today so Im sure I can expect more of the same. AARRRRGGHHH! Its really too bad because my GF is so tight in the vagina. Its difficult getting 2 fingers in her. I know if I was good and hard I would love intercourse with her. Any other tips?

[Rawbob]

It's an unfortunate irony that most anti-depressant med's have strong sexual side effects, which, as in your case, can seem to cause even MORE depression with the sexual side effects!

That said, go to GNC, and buy STAMINA-RX! It's an herbal replacement to Viagra, and trust me, this stuff works! Even better, the side effects are almost non-existant, and theyshould not impact your medication (tho, check with him/her first). Try Stamina-RX before you ahve your DR. give you Viagra, since Viagra is a very strong medicine.

By taking this supplement, you'll find you'll be not only to get and maintain an erection, but you'll be able to "re-load" much quicker.

Second, go to your local adult bookstore and purchase a COCK RING! They come in many styles and sizes, but for your first purchase, get one that's adjustable and easy to take off.

Cock rings are designed to help keep the blood IN the erect penis longer. Don't be shy about asking for help either! You want it to fit snugly, but not so tight as it will be painful! YOu'll find yourself VERY happy with the combination of the Stamina-RX and cock ring!

Hang in there buddy!

[mspersia82]

It's probably the drugs, like you are suspecting. Any drug that messes with your hormones can throw your whole system out of whack. Birth control pills did the same thing to me. Even when I tried to masturbate myself I did not feel a thing! I think your problem also may be that you have specific needs when it comes to your penis. It likes a certain kind of touch that only you give it when you touch yourself. You should try to show your gf exactly how you touch yourself so she can do the same thing. Also, 10-15 minutes is nothing. My boyfriend on average takes 30 min when I give him a handjob. I wish he would cum in only 10-15 minutes!