Pre-sex problems...

[izolde]

Hello to everyone!
I need your help on something... Me and my boyfriend are lond enough together and we want to have sex for the first time. We have already tried once but with no success because of a problem we have. When he pulls back the foreskin of his penis, the "inner" side of the penis (under the foreskin) hurts him very nuch when someone touches it. Even the condom is a pain in the neck for him because of that problem. Is that normal because we haven't had sex yet and it will go away time after time or is it something serious? Please help me out! (especially the boys!)

[shugotenshi]

I had heard a lot of stuff like that about uncircumsized guys.. I personally can't help you out though, as I was circumsized upon birth..

From what I'd heard though, it seems to be pretty common amongst uncircumsized men..the whole foreskin-pain thing, anyway.

[Guido]

The pain your b/f is experiencing is NOT normal, but that doesn't necessarily mean it is very serious either! However, he does need to get it checked out by a doctor who will be able to diagnose the problem and advise. You don't say whether he is circumcised or not. Circumcision does NOT usually involve removal of the whole foreskin, so this is not an obvious "given". It MAY be that his foreskin is too tight; this can usually be overcome by gentle stretching, but maybe not.

Talk about coincidence - I just posted a long rant in this forum about circumcision. You/he might want to check it out to be better informed BEFORE you see the doctor. It will at least give you some food for thought.

shugotenshi - I don't know where you heard those things, but I know a number of uncircumcised guys and and problems/pain from being uncircumcised are certainly NOT common amongst us - and in my reading on this subject, I have not come across any evidence of that either. I suspect that what you have heard is just more of the "misinformation" that I refer to in my rant.

[shugotenshi]

Guido - I suspect you're right. Most of what I said was just from hear/say.. I suppose it would be best for me to study topics before I post about them, when the response requires factual evidence rather than personal opinion. Unfortunately, I don't really read up on sexual organs, problems, etc.. I know what was taught in health class, and that's about it.

[Guido]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (shugotenshi @ Jan. 24 2003,12:19)]Most of what I said was *just from hear/say.. I suppose it would be best for me to study topics before I post about them, when the response requires factual evidence rather than personal opinion.

Hey shugotenshi,

I hope you don't think I was putting you down - far from it! I think it is great to hear what EVERYONE thinks.

As long as the reader is clear about whether it is an opinion or (to the best of the poster's knowledge) fact, then it's all good.

Anyway, we all learn by communicating. Sometimes we THINK we know something, only to find out we were wrong. Well, that's ok too! I learn new stuff here all the time.

I believe that's what this place is for - so don't sweat it. If I only ever spoke up when I was absolutely sure about something, I probably wouldn't say much at all! *

[izolde]

Hello once again and thank you very much for answering!
Guido, by the time I posted the first message, I ha already printed your post because I found it very very intersting! As for your question, my boyfriend is uncircumsized. Your post made me think and worry a little! At first, when the problem appeared for the first time I thought that his problem was of no great importance and that it would go away. His mother is a doctor after all, and she would have seen any problem, I guess. But now, I am very worried! Could a piss-infection that he had when he was about 5 years old (but they dealed with it successfully, he never had any other problem) be of any importance?

Thanks!

[Guido]

Izolde,

I am glad you found my post interesting (and that you are now armed with the facts), but am perturbed by why it worries you if (as you say) he is presently uncircumcised!? Can you explain please?

Also, if he had a urinary problem at 5 which was dealt with, I would be amazed if he was still having a problem with it now. But I couldn't say for sure.

If my suggestion of "gentle stretching" doesn't work, he should see a doctor.

[Brandye]

Young men do not go to their woman doctor mothers saying, "I have a penis problem." He should see a doctor soon because that is unusual.

[izolde]

Well, Guido, when I said your post worried me a little, I didn't mean the post about circumsizion, I meant your answer to me!

[Guido]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (izolde @ Jan. 28 2003,09:01)]Well, Guido, when I said your post worried me a little, I didn't mean the post about circumsizion, I meant your answer to me! *

Oh - ok.

As I said in my post, I don't think his problem is necessarily anything to "worry about" - just something he should get checked out by a doctor.