Oral sex and stds

[Cheech3398]

I have a friend that lives down the street from me. We like to give each other special surprises but we arent bf/gf. My question is with swallowing. Does the same STD risks come into play if she were to swallow my semen? Does the risk change if she swallowed someone else soon after she did me? Is there no risk as long as she hasnt had sex with any other guy within a set perios of time? I really have no idea and want to know about what the risks are before I continue with her. Thanks

[Brandye]

Look around the site. This has been discussed in various ways. Any disease that can be transmitted genitally can also be transmitted orally. If she takes a mouthful of gonorrhea, she will end up with gonorrhea of the throat - not a pretty site. If she does another guy, he will end up with clap.

The only risk eliminated with oral sex is pregnancy; all the other risks are the same.

[Cheech3398]

If her and I are the only two currently interracting, however, are we at no risk of an STD. Assuming we are both clean, not doing anyone else, and she is swallowing.

[girlygirl]

"Does the same STD risks come into play if she were to swallow my semen?"

As Brandye said, you can get virtually any STD from oral sex. *There are many STDs that can be spread on contact alone without any fluid exchange. *I would guess that swallowing would not change the danger for you, but may put her at greater risk.

"Does the risk change if she swallowed someone else soon after she did me?"

She will be at greater risk of picking up a disease. *If you have oral, vaginal or anal sex with her later, you will get any disease that guy had.

"Is there no risk as long as she hasnt had sex with any other guy within a set perios of time?"

NO! If she has ever contracted herpes, HIV, or any other incurable STD, she will have that disease for the rest of her life and will be able to transmit it to you. *If you have any one of those diseases, you will have it for the rest of your life and will be able to transmit it to her or any other partner.

"If her and I are the only two currently interracting, however, are we at no risk of an STD. Assuming we are both clean, not doing anyone else, and she is swallowing. "

Yes, in this scenerio there is no risk. *But if I were you, I would not assume that you are both clean. *Or that she is not doing anyone else.

Whenever you have oral sex you should use a condom and a dental dam. *However, keep in mind that these methods do not garentee that you--or she--are safe from STDs.

I am not just saying all this because I heard it in a sex ed class. *I got herpes from oral sex when I was 17, and I am stuck with it for the rest of my life. *You are participating in a very dangerous activity. *Please try to learn more about it before you continue. *This website is a good place to start. *You may find the following parts of the site helpful: *

STDs

male condom

I could not find a place on this site that went into detail about dental dams, but here is some info from another site:

dental dam

[Cheech3398]

I appreciate your reply greatly, but I would like to extend my one question. When I said is there a set period of time before she is clean of having semen of another person, I meant this in that she had swallowed CLEAN, then waited a while, then swallowed me. If she did have an STD, would using a condom protect me from them all together? Also what diseases can be spread without fluid transition? Is there actually such a thing as SAFE (ORAL) SEX? Thanks again.

[Tjdude]

It is the same thing as vaginal intercourse, you can get any std and give any std.

[SexGoddess27]

Oral sex and intercourse are sort of the same thing.
If you or she has an STD it can be transmitted through the sharing of bodily fluids.

She can contract an STD from you,if you have one through oral sex. Such as herpes or aids or any of the other hundreds of std's out there. You can contract one from her (if she has one) just by her giving you oral sex. You're sharing body fluids.

There's ALWAYS a risk with everything. Especially sex.
You may want to look for a website that offers more on the issue. or ask your doctor.

[Brandye]

Cheech, I do not know why you are trying to get some specific but unknowable answer. You put a penis in a mouth, both are at risk. How clear can girly and I make it. All the risks of genital sex are there. Stop trying to look for an out. Herpes is forever. So are many of the other HPVs.

Practice safe sex,

[Cheech3398]

Ok Im glad you are sex guru and know everything about it. Safe Sex is good yes. Im just trying to figure out what I can do to protect myself, and make some good descisions here. Theres no need for you to turn into a brat just because im young and unexperienced. How the hell am I supposed to leard by conversation If you think everyone should know everything the moment the question arises. Thanks for all the help.

[Guido]

hi Cheech,

Yup, it is all very confusing! Sorting out all the information in your own mind isn't easy, there is so much to know. So, it's no surprise you have a lot of questions, we ALL do at some time or another.

However, from the point of view of those giving advice (out of their own kindness), it is sometimes frustrating when someone appears to not be listening or as Brandye put it "looking for an out".

Brandye and girlygirl are giving you very good advice! There is NO such thing as swallowing clean. If someone has unprotected oral sex with an infected person, they can contract the disease and (if they then have sex with you) pass it on to you - end of story!

The ONLY safe oral sex is with a condom on him or dental dam on her. EVEN THEN, it is POSSIBLE to contract a disease from the surrounding area - but your chances are a lot better!

Only when you are in a long-term relationship with someone whom you are completely secure with, and who has tested negative to STD's, can you with any certainty be sure of not catching an STD from sexual contact.

It is a fact of life! One of the reasons you should be SURE before you engage in a sexual act, that you feel mature enough to handle that risk! Be safe - be sure!