hey guys, first let me say , awesome site, really .. full of actually usefull content..
now to my question , my gf has been on the pill (logynon) for about a month now , her doctor told her not to have unprotected sex for 3 months.
this sounds a bit odd to me , searched the net and couldnt find any info about that except info for missing a pill or two..
it sounds like one can have sex after the first month. is this assumption right?
i just get a feeling that her doctor is, well, either try to make certain she doesnt have unprotected sex untill she's certain about us /lack std (which she is) or is trying to make sure she takes the pill regularly before taking it..
my second question involves the use of condoms.. several months ago i read a book about sexual behaviour and development and one thing stressed was the phycological reaction of women who have their partner ejaculate in them.
The idea the book was trying to explain was the fact that women who do not experiance this process untill a late age (23+) experiance emotional problems when it comes to effection towards partners and even their children. apparently women experiance a emotional reward each time it happens .. not only that but also form psychological assosiations with the act.
i found this interesting so i searched the net somemore and found some information about the physiological effects..
for example :
[url="http://www.ucsdguardian.org/cgi-bin/print?param=head_2002_12_02_03"]http://www.ucsdguardian.org/cgi-bin/print?param=head_2002_12_02_03
now the big question is , how does this really effect us..
could we by using condoms be really effecting the female gender as a norm ? could there be greater consequences for the use of condoms ? maybe this could be one of those things were in 50 years times we end up regretting .. like morphine etc.. any thoughts?
I waited a month when I started the pill but yes I was on a different brand and you can never be too safe about waiting for it to regulate your periods b/c that can take awhile.
I don't think the whole ejaculating inside a girl creates a "healthy sexual relationship". I mean my b/f and I had sex 2 years before I finally got on the pill. Before that, he would usually cum on my stomach or tits. I remember I was excited the first time he was going to be able to cum inside me after I had been on the pill for awhile. After it happened I really didn't feel much. It just felt good feeling him kind of twitch while still inside me. I hadn't felt that before. I remember getting up off of him and I was all drippy down there. I was like ewww, lol. It was running down my leg and it wasn't really a turn on. Now everytime he cums inside me, I have to put on a pad or pantyliner. Otherwise my panties or thighs would be wet for hours.
Actually last night I asked him not to cum inside me, I missed him cumming ON me. There was a similar thread to this somewhere on here. Where women said how they felt. I think if I was married and trying to have a child, then yes, feeling his "seed" inside me would be wonderful and emotional and spiritual. Now, for me, its not really any of that. Sometimes I feel closer to him for it, but not so much that it would make a difference otherwise. I don't think condoms create some sort of "barrier" between you so that you can't be intimate. There is so much more to sex than a penis in a vagina. Your whole bodies touching and being close, kissing, etc is what makes it special to me.
Now a days, people can't afford not to be careful. Im taking a HIV class at school and the statistics are scary. I don't think it scares girls or boys out of having healthy sexual relationships. It just makes them responsible in protecting themselves.
Same could be asked of men. Do you feel less manly when your "seed" isn't sown. Or is cum just a byproduct of sex? I usually feel it is the latter.
thanks for your swift reply, i will take your advice about the 3months wait..
i see your point of view in regards to condoms being around for 70+ years, but surely its only been taken seriously since the mid to late 80s, a) women have become more empowerd in the choice of contraceptive , b) all the social stressing of use of condoms ..
aids, being the main reason , socially a change has occurd in that regard, more and more people are taking it seriously.
surely , if its been noted in small studies , then on a larger scale it could lead to complications..
not just that you mentioned :
" ...but based on the statistics of the number of people who use condoms every day for birth control...."
i've had talks with a lot of kids and adults about sex and i noticed one thing.. (i'm considered the big brother type) a large number of girls who've had sex for several years have yet to experiance the actuall ejaculation..
in my social group alone only one girl has had it happen and that was an accident...
all this talk about stds and aids and pregancy seems to reallly scare alot of girls out of having healthy sexual relations ..
what is your oppinion about possibly this being a contributing factor for people swap partners etc at a high rate? could women be becoming less and less emotionally attached to men because of something like this ? it could be a subtle change..
a combination between social "threat" and biological reaction to the proposed "cure"..
hope you dont mind discussing this futher ,i find the topic quite interesting..
Hi:
As far as the 3-month issue, i'd follow the Doctor's orders to the letter..he may have alot more information about the drugs effectiveness then you do..so, just be patient!
As far as the impact of condoms on the mental health of women, i think it DOES happen, but based on the statistics of the number of people who use condoms every day for birth control, and given the fact that condoms have been around for more than 70 years, its safe to say that this psychological problem is very very rare.
The real issue in my opinion is not about birth control, but conception obsession. Many younger couples have heated discussions about conception. Many women feel the need to concieve, while their lovers are not. This becomes a big issue with them, but often not fully communicated.
It's a complex issue.