I've Tryed everything except Anti-depress medicine and talking to my DR.
when i was 16 handjobs and blowjobs used to take me quite a while to climax, but once started having sex at 18, everything went down hill. it now takes me on average 30 seconds to reach the point. I masturbate Regularly, i've "unloaded" up to 2 times before she's come over and still the same problem. When i put on a condom i have trouble keeping my erection and when i finally penetrate i figure it took me longer to put my condom on then it did to orgasm.
I've tried all the things this sight has offered but still no results. i've also tryed those 2 doller pills they sell at 711 just for the hell of it, it still did not work.
any suggestions.
There are some condoms produced by trojan i belive. (accidently bought them a long time ago) they have a little numbing stuff in them. should help make you last longer.
If your g/f is cooperative, try the "squeeze technique." There are several sites and Dancing Doc has written it up here. It can be fun just learning. That is a woman's point of view.
I've tryed the squeese technique for about 3 weeks now, and it's not effecting.. she is very understanding and says it doesnt matter (wich is why iminlove with her:p ) but it still bothers me. i want it to be enjoyable for her, i don't care if i climax at all at this point. and the condom is goin to be a problem for a few reasons, when ever i put on a condom now i have trouble keeping my errection. so if there was numbing stuff in it, wouldnt it make it worse? and she is now on the pill. making condom wearing kind of useless, considdering we were both virgins when we started having sex.
Skip the condom. Very few women on the pill and in stable relationships use any backup to the pill. Clearly, the anticipation is taking you all the way. Try some other positions and make sure you bring her off first. Then your lasting does not matter nearly so much.
well i want to bring her to finish durring sex.. i can do it with oral, but i would like to share the sensation of finishing together, or having her finish before me.
This seems like a distant dream at this point :-(
At this point you are so preoccupied with pleasing her you are taking the enjoyment out of sex for yourself; try relaxing. When you are feeling like you are at the point of cumming, pull out you can then give her oral or do some other type of forplay. My fiancee has this same problem. It takes patience and practice it won't happen over night but it can and will get better with practice, and believe me getting her there first does help alot!
Well thanks you guys.. i realised it was just my nerves and over thinking it..
I went for a solid hour before she had to stop because it was too much for her. Very enjoyable on both parts. even though i didn't finish. she did several times and thats all that matters right now.
Thanks all :_)
Well, without pointing out the obvious . . . . but if you've tried everything else what's wrong with talking to your doctor? I know it's embarrassing, but it sounds like this is causing you so much grief it would be worth the temporary discomfort.
I'm not recommending it, but antidepressants like Zoloft definitely have a delaying effect on some people . . . . like me. Hated it. I could go for . . ever and not cum. The opposite isn't fun either. But I remember my doc saying they do occasionally prescribe it for premature ejaculation. I would think it's the last ditch solution, though.
There are also some numbing creams and gels (probably the same stuff that's in the condoms) you could try.
Good luck!
Oops! I evidently prematurely ejaculated this post! LOL! Glad to hear it worked out.