95+% of all vaginas can comfortably accommodate 95+% of all penis' available. It is possible that you will stretch a bit over time and you should be using an adequate amount of lubrication. I suspect that his delayed ejaculation is adding to this problem because we all get sore, regardless of penis size, when going on for too long.

Simple solution is to reduce the roughness of the sex and work vaginally alternate nights and use other techniques when not taking him in. This may even speed him up a bit with practice.

Here is a reply to someone from several months ago that is typical:

"Try doing some stretching. Sit in a bathtub partially filled with warm water and no soap or bubble bath. Insert a finger and tug against the vaginal opening holding the pressure for several moments. Then, move on to the next quadrant repeating, and work your way around. Spend about twenty minutes on the exercise. Do this ever day or two and over the course of a couple of weeks you should be able to insert two fingers. When you can, insert one from each hand and pull in opposite directions, holding the tension, and eventually working your way around. This is no quick fix although if you devote a month or so to it, you should be able to comfortably accept a penis.

Also, make sure the opening is well lubricated, either using your vaginal mucus or a commercial lubricant. Just because a person is wet does not mean the fluid is evenly distributed. You can also lubricate his penis."

> also, he has problems ejaculating and blames it on too much porn

Watching X-rated videos may be a contributing factor IF he is masturbating more than once a day in response.

Depending upon age, sex drive, and "wiring", a fella can masturbate perhaps as much as three times a day (post pubescent boys--more.) If he is frequently watching stimulating videos and masturbating, it is very likely that when the time comes to "perform" with you that he has simply exhausted or nearly run out of energy and product for the time being, so to speak.

It is not unusual for guys to masturbate daily and sometimes more than once, either during a session (multiple orgasms) and/or every few hours.

Boys and Masturbation / Got questions?

> but I am skeptical.

Very likely there is another contributing factor: Communication, or the lack thereof. We all masturbate in the same basic way for our respective genders; however, there are individual variations to each theme.

Boys right out of puberty and learning to masturbate quickly settle into a unique and specific routine that works for them. We benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate or make tiny mid course corrections to what we are doing along the way to a climax and this feedback is missing when we turn the reins over to a partner.

Girls learn about the requirement to stroke a penis (or clitoris) yet generally do not have the proper technique and rhythm required for her particular man. While arbitrary movements can bring about a climax, it is often frustrating for him and sometimes the "handling" is uncomfortable. So, what is a couple to do? Answer: COMMUNICATE. First, give each other feedback (verbal and non-verbal) on how you are responding to your partner's kisses and caresses and for what you need now/next; second, take his/her hand and move it in the manner to which you have become accustomed and what is needed to trigger an orgasm. Do this over several sessions until each of you learns how to mimic what your partner does when home alone.

There is an article listed in the Index that discusses communication and feedback.

Duplicating each other's technique for stimulating the penis and clitoris is not particularly difficult, although, it does take practice. Providing feedback along the way is critically important because the information must replace the internal information we get when masturbating. Making love is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home page, you will find even more information.

I recommend that the two of you read all of the articles more than once and then discuss the information you have learned. Knowledge is empowering.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?