The muscles around the entroitus were stretched. No permanent damage but this will take some getting used to.

And, no, we do not all wish we had that problem.

speak for yourself

Brandye's right. I know a bunch of girls who have had big, and average...majority of them liked average the best....why usually they are more skilled (since they dont think they can just make you cum since they are big) and they actually fit snug rather than putting a VW Bus through the front door of your house. Granted some do, but id have to say out of every 10 people, maybe 1.

Dont believe me but hey, thanks for all the gossip from high school and college, I do know a decent amount about some womens likes and dislikes lol

Half large ones and tiny ones. Best? Are the ones who have a skill with an average size. Too small forget it. Too large limits movement...cannot use the big one what good is it?

averadge is best.. no one likes pain! i personally wudnt go anywhere bigger than 8! i know avarage is around 5-6 but thts the max for me!! plus its easier to go down on a guy who isnt huge! :D
I cant fully understand those women who like a 10-11 inch! :confused: wht do u do with that???????? lol

[quote=princessss;197716]averadge is best.. no one likes pain! i personally wudnt go anywhere bigger than 8! i know avarage is around 5-6 but thts the max for me!! plus its easier to go down on a guy who isnt huge! :D
I cant fully understand those women who like a 10-11 inch! :confused: wht do u do with that???????? lol[/quote]Same thing you do with average. Hope for a good user...and have a blast. The size changes nothing the user/owner of the penis does.

Get some perspective, folks. The world record documented length was 13.5 inches and that was recorded in 1905. More than nine inches is very rare; I have never encountered one in personal or professional life. Not many women know whether they like 10 or 11 because they have never encountered one like that.

The pain could just be because of position, did you try any other positions. You could have just stretched something a little too far, just rest yourself..no 'fiddling' and let yourself go back to normal, then try and do another position.

and in response to the 'we all wish we had that problem', my boyfriend is 8" and that is large, I find it very pleasurable.

[QUOTE=KarateGirl;197790]ok, I really didnt mean anything by the "we all wish we had that problem" comment.

I'm not particularly comfortable talking about sex with random people I don't know. There's no need to go all defensive. I was just trying to lighten the mood.

I really love this guy and I'm not going to go find some other guy just because of something like penis size.

So if you guys could cut me a little slack that'd be great.[/QUOTE]

I have had those pains too!...I thought I tore myself inside! I had it about an hour after sex and it lasted more than a day! i went to bed with hotwater bottle on my stomach and took pain killers! the thing if you never one that big before it will have stretched sum muscles out.. good news is tht your vargina is flexiableand the more you do it and will adapt to it eventually!! :p

and i know exactly what you mean how some people on here come across very judgemental and harsh! they think they're the king/queen of this place like they never have problems and make mistakes! xxx

[quote=KarateGirl;197790]ok, I really didnt mean anything by the "we all wish we had that problem" comment.

I'm not particularly comfortable talking about sex with random people I don't know. There's no need to go all defensive. I was just trying to lighten the mood.

I really love this guy and I'm not going to go find some other guy just because of something like penis size.

So if you guys could cut me a little slack that'd be great.[/quote]We are cutting you slack! Been there & done it. Sharing experiences is best...no one is defensive or giving you a tough time, :)

Oooooo...I have also been there and done that.....and I find average size, or even smaller better. I think it all depends on how horney you are, how relaxed you are, how small you are "down there" and how big he is....but I guess the way I think about it is if "down there" can stretch to accommodate a water-mellon sized baby, it can accommodate a big penis too. Try different positions and use a lot of lube. Make sure you are horney and realxed....and make sure he respects your intensity level.
BUT...I am NOT doctor and I think only a doc could properly and SAFELY answer this question and provide advice.

Just getting back on the horse worked for me! My partner is quite big and I'm also very small so it was just a case of getting used to it, after a few times it stops hurting completely. One warning though, if you can't see each other for a while or can't have sex for quite sometime, it goes back to normal and you have to start the whole process all over again.

I know where your coming from completely karategirl. I was with my ex for almost 8 years and in that time dispite loving him to bits I hated sex and in the last 4 years of the relationship hardly did it at all; infact i can probably count on both hands how many times we did. It wasn't his lenght so much just the girth and it used to be agony. Every time we did I would rip and tear internally and it would take weeks to heal... the doctors said it was normal to tear so much so i was made feel a complete freak!
Result being now i have zero skills in the bedroom and total lack of confidence... hope you get things sorted soon :rolleyes:

Okay, I have had more experience than most (I've long since lost count) and yes, this does include with men who are generously endowed and by that I mean his penis was the size of my forearm from fingertips to elbow. His great size meant that he could ONLY do vaginal intercourse and even then had to be careful. At 5' 9" and 150 lb.s I am not a small woman but even I approached him with some caution. A generously endowed male MUST be highly skilled to prevent injury. (Fortunately he was highly skilled) Therefore if you are injured - he is not sufficiently skillful and he requires more education.

One skill all men must learn is knowing where he is in relation to her when he is inside of her. He learns this by paying close attention to her physical reactions to his efforts. Now i am not suggesting that he draw rings round his penis 'this far for her G-Spot and this far for her posterior fornix' but he should know how far for what. He should know to go below the cervix when in the male superior position. He should know how far in he can go before bottoming out and stop short of that limit. As for girth - extended periods of body worship and erotic massage and adequate lubrication generously and frequently applied should help until she's sufficiently aroused to relax.

As to what she can do, she can give clear directions and coaching, "that feels good right there. yes, just like that mmmm", for example. Men do like to receive 'feedback' ladies. They like to do a good job. They like to please their partners. Anything you can do to help them is greatly appreciated. Be willing to try and try again using various position and techniques. She can learn to reach orgasm quickly and easily to limit any possible damage and to increase her enjoyment of sex. She can learn to breathe and relax through the pain (think childbirth - the Lamaze technique) and stress in the hopes of reaching orgasm. If you find something you like - do that. If you think up something you'd like to try - suggest it.

But you have to stop expecting pain - because the expectation alone will destroy any chance of not having any pain.

Of course I am Queen! How else could it be? Dommes do rule you know!

Adding on to Evils info: YOU have to stop fearing size (he is too big or I am too small). If you are getting tears there is something missing form the equation; mainly enough lube, skill, and foreplay. A man who has a "talent" and is "well-endowed" will know what to do with his member...and how to satisfy you and what works for him as well. There are times when too large some positions can be a challenge or less then comfortable---also much depends on your mood too. I am assuming you are younger? Since men at 40 or so better know what they are doing; same for women...Hopefully it's figured out earlier on in life; otherwise, you both are missing a great part of life...great sex & if in a relationship/marriage? You are missing a wonderful bond with your partner & the one you love.;)

I am probably close to EEK's build, about an inch shorter and I might have a bit more weight because I believe my bra is bigger...or maybe my thighs are just a bit thicker ;). My fiancee is 8" and I can take him all the way in, and I quite enjoy it. The way he thrusts and I guess the angle of his cock gives me orgasms, with deep thrusts. I don't find it hurts when he hits my cervix, unless it "bends" it or something (god I had a bad experience masturbating by doing that ouch :()...I do have a tipped/inverted uterus, and I orgasm vaginally, any idea if they're related? Anyways I've been with two men, one was on the small-to-average side, and my partner is big. I usually use something about 6" to masturbate, because for some reason I can't penetrate myself as deep lol. But I must admit I'm a "big cock snob" I like his length. I'd be satisfied by a smaller man if he made up it other ways I assume, but it hasn't really "cum" up so far. :p

Excellent, ghost! Now you see that knowing how a man works in the bedroom is an important factor in mate selection. One does have to roadtest men prior to making one's selection(s).

BTW, you're quite right Dawn. If you can give birth to babies, you should be able to handle the generously endowed male.

EEk thats what i always tried to tell myself but the pain stigma was engrained on me and thats one of the reasons we drifted apart (other reason him not being able to keep it in his own pants)
At least the worry i had about having sex again with any one and it hurting has gone.... my new lover is freaking fantastic!