You may or may not be correct. We have had several bi-curious, teenaged women. Some went one way, some the other, some tried both and some just did not come back. I am likely the most outspokenly bi-active woman on the Board. I am also older than your mother, most likely, and never married.

On to your question: Many women live with bi-sexual curiousity for much of their lives. This is, of course, discouraged to the point of repression in most cases. There are old sociological studies reporting a very high incidence of girl on girl activity in women's boarding schools. More recently, there has been work done among married women reporting almost a third have had at least one encounter with another woman. When a marriage gets stale, what is safer than a girlfriend? Can't get pregnant, usually long time friends, going on trips or frequent evening activities never raise a question.

To the extent you are correct, it could well be long term bi-curiousity finally coming out - after the kids are out of the way and a discovery that we have not been turned on, really turned on, for years.

You have not done much searching or looking around here. Or, if it is simply prurient interest, I am certain there are many sites on the net where women (maybe) "tell my story."

Neither this post nor your other have the ring of an adult woman who is seeking.

[quote=Brandye;195977]You have not done much searching or looking around here. Or, if it is simply prurient interest, I am certain there are many sites on the net where women (maybe) "tell my story."

Neither this post nor your other have the ring of an adult woman who is seeking.[/quote]
Gut is this is a lure....professional opinion as well.

Victim, interesting. Maybe some lady can show HER "the ways" through a descriptive analysis?

Maybe a "him"? Named "Bruno".

very bi curious, just have not found anyone to let me experiment with:(

Ditto - although, I don't know how I would feel about the fantasy actually turning into reality.

When I was younger I wasn't curious at all but now that I'm in my 30s, the last couple of years I've found myself drawn to women although have never actually acted on it or experimented at all. I think I would though if the opportunity was there.

Clare,

You are not alone and, believe me, the opportunity is there. With about one in every three married women giving it a try, you do have opportunity.

In my very small town, I am aware of at least three long term married women who have "tea dates" regularly. With my bi-sexuality generally know, I do get some requests.

A lot of lesbian experiences mine include were little more than mutual masturbation with friends. For myself at a certain time and place I found it easier to find my sexual release with a friend than with a man. And i found it much more pleasant than masturbation. But there wasn't really a sexual attraction.

At the the end of the day Lesbian sex is very much a male preoccupation. I might actually comment here on the poster who began it but anywho... there are a lot of men out there going through the motions of lesbianism just for the attention of some man.

Reread your post after the .... Huh?

And eremember, you are reporting your experience and feelings as we each report ours. I have difficulty that "to find my sexual release" as being devoid of sexual attraction.

[QUOTE=Brandye;203776]Clare,

You are not alone and, believe me, the opportunity is there. With about one in every three married women giving it a try, you do have opportunity.

In my very small town, I am aware of at least three long term married women who have "tea dates" regularly. With my bi-sexuality generally know, I do get some requests.[/QUOTE]

Hi Brandye,

I started bi curious and now am in a FFM threesome with my husband and a very sexy, wonderful female friend and lover. My husband had no problems with me and my female lover. He is very supportive and encouraged my relations with my lover. After a about a 2 or 3 month relationship with her I was the one that wanted to have the threesome. We get together about one time a month and have nude weekends together. We sleep together and have all our sex together in bed together. Yes, the opportunity is there for anybody who is willing to explore their fantasies. Our threesome has been going on for almost 23 months and I still see my lover when ever we can get together. :D

I have a question, if I may.

I am NOT bisexual. This is usually held against me in the swing world where most of the couples have a bisexual wife. Ah well. My question is - when you ladies are off on your 'tea-dates', do you permit your husbands to go off on dates of his own with a straight female FWB? If yes, why and if no, why not?

I am sure you are right Brandye; I think there may be a similar phenomenon reported re 'boy on boy activity in male boarding schools'. I think you are right about the long term friendships between girls. I am straight but think that the few male homosexuals I know are very very kind people. Maybe many of us straight men are just out-and-out bounders???? (that should get the Forum going this New Year's Day!!!!)(Happy New Year to all by the way)
[QUOTE=Brandye;195963]You may or may not be correct. We have had several bi-curious, teenaged women. Some went one way, some the other, some tried both and some just did not come back. I am likely the most outspokenly bi-active woman on the Board. I am also older than your mother, most likely, and never married.

On to your question: Many women live with bi-sexual curiousity for much of their lives. This is, of course, discouraged to the point of repression in most cases. There are old sociological studies reporting a very high incidence of girl on girl activity in women's boarding schools. More recently, there has been work done among married women reporting almost a third have had at least one encounter with another woman. When a marriage gets stale, what is safer than a girlfriend? Can't get pregnant, usually long time friends, going on trips or frequent evening activities never raise a question.

To the extent you are correct, it could well be long term bi-curiousity finally coming out - after the kids are out of the way and a discovery that we have not been turned on, really turned on, for years.[/QUOTE]

Evil,

That is an important question and I do not know the answer. Never having been married, I have not faced that issue. During the two long "straight" periods of my life, I was living with a man and did not stray. I, too, would like to see the input from married women who have a g/f with respect to allowing their man some freedom. I do know whose husbands have g/f. An acquaintance of mine is married to a rather prominent German politician. The German press reports (tongue in cheek, a bit) that the only they have in common is that they both date female movie stars.

[QUOTE=Brandye;204067]Evil,

That is an important question and I do not know the answer. Never having been married, I have not faced that issue. During the two long "straight" periods of my life, I was living with a man and did not stray. I, too, would like to see the input from married women who have a g/f with respect to allowing their man some freedom. I do know whose husbands have g/f. An acquaintance of mine is married to a rather prominent German politician. The German press reports (tongue in cheek, a bit) that the only they have in common is that they both date female movie stars.[/QUOTE]

Mine is a very different situation having been monogamous and hence true. I admire the openness of most folks on here and the admission that sex is like a sponge and one has to squeeze as much out of it as one can. I have learned of people in a lesbian situation who happily give 'booty calls' and have a sex-life a bit like a box of chocolates (Tom Hanks ref!!). I struggle at times, but am pleased that a situation outside my marriage would do me so much good.
Meanwhile, follow your heart folks!!

I'd LOVE to have sex with a woman...
The thought of it really turns me on,
I'm 35 and I've only ever been with men,
but i have always been bi curious..
I have a beautiful pussy...

Well, Sassy, I'm glad you like your cat. Did you gethe/she from the 'pound'? All the best cats come from the animal shelters, you know.

Being serious now - did or did not Sassy's last line sound somewhat narcisstic?

[QUOTE=virginchick;195959]How come we mostly see bicurious married women talking about Bi-curiousity online instead of bicurious single women?I never see alot of bicurious single women on froums talking about this issue only married women.hmm[/QUOTE]

Althought I am only 17, I am bisexual. I do have experiences in this topic, as my boyfriend and I are very experimental with women, men, sex parties etc. You'll see a lot of my experiences and stories on here in the future.

At 17, perhaps you should read around a bit before giving us all your wisdom.

I must admit for these last few years, I have been feeling very,very curious.

I feel the same way I have noticed that I have been attracted to girls lately. I have not tried experimenting to see if it is just attraction (meaning that I only see their beauty) or if I am actually bi
So am guessing am bi curios for now

Most of us do have that curiosity and nearly one in three of us acts on it. I have lived parts of my life straight, other parts lesbian and am actively bi-.

I have a boyfriend at the moment things are going good but I would like to experiment an really see if am bi or if it is just curiosity.

How would I come about this? What would I say to my boyfriend? Do I just tell him how it is that I been having this feelings and attractions and would like to explore, and ask him how he feels about this?

Most bi- women I know never discuss this with their partners. Consider older women in stale marriages. What could be safer than taking tea with a woman friend?

Men seem to have difficulty accepting their wives having affairs with women. With no mess left behind, why worry about reaction? No need to douche between encounters.

Like I said before I think most people are naturally bi-sexual and its just social norms that restrict them.

Men attach a lot more stigma to homosexual sex so they don't act on any bi sexual impulses they have. Whereas with women it's all the rage.

One thing that does really annoy me is loser skanks that make a show of snogging each other at clubs, just to get blokes attention.

Not relevant I know but its just a pet hate of mine.

i think all women are BI. i am one and am known for it now! being with another women is amazing for sex because there are not many guys that know everything about a womans body like 90% of women do! so i think all women should try it with a woman at least once in there life!!

now on the guys side i will ask my bf to answer that! here he is

ok guys when you are younger you are experimental about another guy!! trust me all of us do it yall not alone! when you grow up you think it of being gay! and you turn away from the thoughts you had when you were younger! but though i have not done it with another man but i am not pointing you away from doing it with another man im just saying dont point away from it

Maybe married women are bored in their relationships and that's why they are talking about it.

same as the two ladies above. i don't want to ask my bi friends because it would be weird for them. i've always been the straight girl of the group, so i might go out with them to a gay club and see what happens

Ashley - bite your tongue!!
NOT ALL women are anything!!!

Jeez! Pay attention!!

MEN ONLY, BABY!

and only certain 'suitable' men at that.

I agree EEK... kinda pisses me off when i see "all woman are bi" crap.. grrr fools
lol

Human beings, regardless of gender, are far too variable for any such statements to be totally true.

All one can say is that SOME are and SOME aren't.

imvery Bi curious...and i have found someone to experiment with...cut lately i feel that shes not into it anymore...it was hard enough starting...but now ill have to start with another? any suggestions?

I am not married nor a teenager and I have curiosities about being with a woman all the time. I have never acted on the urges but I love watching girls so I would guess I would love being part of it as well.

I'm bi curious, love women & men. I have found one sexy ass woman to fulfill my fantasy but could only bring myself to kiss her & this is after I had a few drinks. I'm gonna see her in a few months how do I hit it off with her, I know she is interested.......I'm such a chicken. ANY SUGGESTIONS

you only live once, you may not get this opening again just shoot for it and hope its the best!

Im very bi-curious just havent found a women to share my fantasy with. I've been looking for a female some say there down and back out last minute.. But I'm still looking for a lady...

im curious about exploring my options with other women. ive hooked up with a few but never had sex with a women.. been thinking about a threesome .. but thats a big step.

my advice - just make sure your comfortable
but its awsome to explore your sexuality.

I am a bi woman. When I was in the curious stage it was difficult for me to "branch out" and see where the curiosity took me. Like it or not, rejection from another woman or a bad experience with "one of our own" is so much worse than it could ever be with a man. That is a constant on a bi curious woman's mind. I was fortunate enough to have a very patient and understanding woman in my life to guide me without fear of rejection or pressure to go farther than I was ready to go. Two bi curious women will most likely not have a great first experience. In my personal opinion and from my experience, a bi curious woman needs the kind of woman I had. And have become. Being with another woman is the most amazing experience. There is nothing like it in the sexual world. I believe more married women are bi curious than single women because married women after a while look for ways to spice up their sex life. The thought of being with another woman is very sensual. Single women focus more on either career or future family. Family for a non lesbian does not involve sleeping with another woman.

[COLOR="Magenta">I am a bi woman and I can not find a bi/lez woman anywhere near my town. I kinda gave up.[/COLOR]

I am 39 and single. I've always dated men but have been turned on by women for a long time. I've had two experiences with woman. I have gone down on one woman and I've fingered and sucked another woman's tits. What I haven't done yet is have a woman go down on me which I am DYING to do. I just have no clue where to find one who will do this!

1. Start walking the streets
2. Visit a bar
3. Call an escort service

-or-
4. Begin dating and establishing a relationship.

i think i am bi-curious i do know a few lesbian,bi-sexual women and have fantasised about being with a woman sexually.I would probably not get involved with any of my friends/accquaintances but it would be interesting to go down on a woman and be pleased in the same way.My boyfriends have mostly pleased me but i always seem to be left wanting for more.Could it be that a womans touch is what i need?They seem to be more sensual and erotic which is what i crave in a lover.A womans soft tender hands,soft sensual lips and understanding of what a womans wants and needs are might be what i need at this stage of my life.Have been burned by men and am a little wary of getting into another relationship with a man after what i have just recently experienced

I was Bi-Curious and I found my friend was aswell and we both satisfied our curiosity and it was amazing i think its something everyone should do if they have any interest in doing so cos i would again as it was very fun.

Do not be too quick to recommend that an older helper is necessary. Many young women (including myself) discover mutual attraction through friendship and traversing puberty together.

Married women with women friends are much more common than most believe. Do a search or read this entire thread and you will find more insight.

Here is what I think about the married being more curious..............

Like men, after you become mature, you have done almost everything and anything with your wife/Gf or husband/BF. We only go around once and most of us want to try everything. After a years of marriage there are no surprises so perhaps we just want to try something different............

hey Im newly single after being married for 6 years and im bi-sexual which I found out after the divorce

I just recently discovered i'm bi-sexual.I did cyber sex with a woman i met on the net who was also bi-curious like me,we both orgasmed and enjoyed talking sexy thoughts with each other.She was busy and wasn't able to chat for a while and i found that i missed hearing from her and started to fall in love with her.I did an experiment with a lesbian friend to see if my feelings for my internet friend were real.I asked her to stay overnight and sleep in my bed and she agreed.She has a partner so there was no sex,touching or kissing.We just lay together and i thought of my cyber lover.When my friends leg accidentally touched mine i orgasmed,and i had my other friend on my mind.I knew then that i definitely was bi-sexual and wanted to be with my cyber friend so i told her how i felt.Unfortunately she didn't feel the same.We are still frieds but things have cooled alot we don't talk sex anymore.I think i scared her off,but i respect her decision.