There is a huge [URL=http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/10870-hand_jobs_101.html]hand jobs thread with lots of discussion of techniques and such that you'd probably benefit from reading.

The glans (a.k.a. knob) gets really sensitive as he gets closer to orgasm. Touching it directly could actually be more painful than pleasurable, though it depends on the guy and whether or not he's circumcised. Stroking the shaft provides indirect stimulation and causes more "build-up" before the orgasm. Some of the best male mastrubation techniques involve totally ignoring the glans and stimulating everything else because of the amazing build-up before orgasm.

I suppose it is like a woman's clitoris. Many women do NOT want direct clitoral stimulation because it hurts too much. Me, if I touch my glans when I'm close to orgasm, it is SO painful, and feels like it's being stabbed with a needle. Then again I am uncircumcised so I'm more sensitive than most. I stroke the shaft only and let the foreskin rub the glans indirectly ... those circumcised guys are really missing out, heh. Though I know some other guys do actually rub the glans directly. I guess they are just less sensitive.

Make no mistake ... drawing out the period of pre-orgasm arousal and making it longer greatly increases the overall pleasure and makes the orgasm a lot better, most likely increasing the quantity of semen he shoots as well.

It makes sense that your guy gets a lot more into it when you give him a hand job... it is SO much more intense when someone else does it. If you want him to shoot more semen, you've got to draw it out, bring him to the edge and then hold back, bring him to the edge again, etc. It will drive him crazy and you might even have to tie him to the bed to prevent him from interfering!

As to how to stimulate a guy's balls ... I really don't know. That sort of thing never turned me on.

Question: Why don't males stimulate the glans during masturbation?
Answer: It's just easier that way.

If you're outside of the shower and you're not using any lubrication, it's a lot less messy (and quicker) to just do the traditional up-and-down motion. If, however, I have some time to spare, then there are a few tricks of the trade, so to speak, that I can use. Moose is right, however - the glans is extremely sensitive, and too much stimulation can be downright painful, especially during orgasm. If you want to try some glans stimulation on your boyfriend, ask him to demonstrate for you first, so you can get a more precise idea of what to do. Remember, if done right, glans stimulation can feel absolutely incredible. Going overboard will really kill the mood.

As for stimulating a guy's balls? Experiment. Start with simple touching and massage, oral stimulation... your boyfriend will have no problem letting you know what he does or doesn't like.

Curious,

Although your clitoris is much more sensitive than the penis, the glans (knob, as you call it) is the most sensitive part of the penis and, just as you can be made uncomfortable from rough clitoris treatment, the glans can, too. All of the male genitals are sensitive and they, naturally, like to get all the treatment.

A trick I have learned is "do not back up." Once you are working on the glans, backing up to the shaft is a letdown. Kind of like your enjoying clitoral stimulation and your partner backs up to licking the labia. To get learning, start with the scrotum, then the shaft and then the head. This seems to give a good progression from the lest likely to cause orgasm to the most.

When I masterbate, I spend MOST of my time on the head or just below it (with lube of course). Without lube, I use the lose skin just below the head, and jerk up and over my head--basically, I spend all my time paying attention to the glands/head.

And for the record, I can't get off to straight-up handjob...at least I've never found a woman that is confident or skilled enough to get me there. Although, if I'm turned on and have been fooling around for a long while, I can reach orgasm by handjob...but if your goal is to only give me a handjob to climax...you better look in the classifieds for a new job. :)

> Why if the knob of the penis is so sensitive why don't guys get off that way but instead want to have the main part rubbed?

Some guys can although most require the assistance of a hand job also, a method I often refer to as the "Dynamic Duo". The reason has much to do with the how of masturbation. Each one of us (male and female) develops a particular way of stroking the penis or fingering the clitoris and environs that is unique and specific to each one of us, and, that we have come to rely upon. So, while the basic mechanics of the action are standard, the "fine art" is defilnitely a personal touch and this must be taught to our partner so s/he can mimic these movements, rhythms, and pressures. If we vary the method too much we will either not have an orgasm or it will not be quite what was hoped for.

> It seems to me that if a bj was so great or when the gf rubs the knob that this would be preferable b/c guys like it so much that way. I just don't get why if sucking or rubbing that part is so great they want it stroked to get off.

There are two sides of an issue here. First, sucking, licking, lapping, rubbing, fiddling, fondling the Glans is definitely "so great" and these actions will definitely intensify what we normally feel. Involving the nerves all over the Glans can curl our toes, make our body stiff, arch our back, and make us tingle and quiver all over! These sensations are exquisite! yet they are not the specific sensations that we rely upon to trigger an orgasm. With the possible exception of swiping the Frenulum at the brink of an orgasm, or rubbing another hotspot, stroking the shaft in a particular manner is what it takes to bring about an orgasm which is the second part. Oral sex and fondling the Glans in and of itself are ways to increas a person's pleasure; stroking the penis is the manner in which we require to cause an orgasm to happen and as pleasant as these sensations are, they are not as intense as the others. Combining the two forms of stimulation will take a man straight to nirvana; how slowly or how rapidly depends upon the technique(s) used.

> What do you do to a guys balls to please him. I have held them and kinda rolled them around but my bf wants more and want me to scratch and squeeze them and when I ask how he wont or doesn't seem to know what to tell me.

I just answered this in another post a day or two ago. Here are some specifics on scratching:
* Brace an area of the scrotum with the thumb and then use one or two fingers to scratch the adjacent skin either using a "come here" action or a "back off" action of the fingers. This can be done anywhere around the scrotal sac.
* Gently pinch an area of the skin between thumb and fingers and knead the skin being held
* Alternate the two actions

These actions work in much the same manner for an older person as a child's pacifier does to an infant. If you do not agree with this assessment, then ask yourself why guys scratch when they don't itch.

* You can also gently pinch the skin of the penis and knead it either when erect or soft.

THERE IS A FINE LINE BETWEEN PAIN AND PLEASURE-

Nowhere is this more apparent than with squeezing a testicle. Gently squeezing one of the testicles when a man is at the brink of an orgasm will do one or two things for him: first, it will greatly intensify the sensations he is feeling from other forms of caresses happening at the same time; second, it will help jumpstart an orgasm that is being illusive and hard to trigger, such as a second or third in a multiple string. Now, having said all this, there is a method to doing this.

The testicles are most sensitive to impact pressure rather than squeezing. Taking one in hand and gently applying pressure when he is not aroused will at some point cause him to experience an annoying little ache. This same pressure applied when he is at the brink of an orgasm will be interpreted by the pleasure center of the brain and intensly pleasurable.

To determine just how much pressure to apply, I suggest the two of you experiment when not planning on being intimate for the time being. Apply a little pressure and then increase the amount until he reacts and informs you that the pain is a bit more than an annoying little ache. Back off slightly and then note just how much pressure was applied. Next, when you do want to include this as part of your foreplay, that same pressure will be interpreted as extremely pleasurable--but only when he is at the brink of an orgasm and you are ready to trigger it.

> Are there other ways to drive a guy insane with his genitals or other places and how? I want very much to drive him crazy.

Here is a link to some techniques from the foremost website devoted to male masturbation:

http://jackinworld.com/expert/01basica.html

The above page depicts variations to the theme that can be used either when masturbating or when making love with your partner.

* Experiment together
* Learn together
* Explore
* Teach each other

I hope this is of help. Got questions?