we use to have an amazing time in bed, and still do sometimes. but within the last month we have been having some problems with him finishing way too early. 
both him and i agree that it's become a problem. it's gotten to the point where i can't finish, (never a problem before) without him coming first.
is he too excited?
i've recently found this spot on either side of his penis that when i add a little bit of pressure he goes insane! which is great, cause i can hit it with my pelvis bones when i'm on top. and since i'm usually on top this is great 
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but in the last month he has had no control over this, before then he could feel a build up to his climax, but now he says he feels it and then 2 seconds later he's done.
for both him and i, it's very frustrating.
i don't know if anybody can help, but if anybody has any idea what we could do, that would be great!!!!
Sun, 07/06/2003 - 02:32
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B/f finishing WAY too soon
there's a topic about lasting longer in Pleasing Her section. But try the pull out and wait awhile until he calms down and in the meantime he can eat you out and play with you. You can also get desensitising condoms.
gl hf (good luck have fun)
It may or may not be something that he'll really be able to control, but that doesn't mean that it has to end there. If he comes, don't stop the lovemaking session. You can revert back to foreplayand caressing. Give him about 15-20 minutes and then start to manually or orally stimulate him again. He should be able to have another erection around that time, and will last much longer. This can then be your time for him to focus on you.
Another idea is to have him masturbate an hour or so before you have sex! This will help lengthen the time from insertion to orgasm!
Also, if you know WHAT makes him cum fast, then DON"T do it till you're both ready! Change posistions often, bring in some toys, play with ice, maybe some lite bondage!
Don't let his be an obsticle, it should be an opportunity!
There are techniques that can be helpful but you give us little information to go on. With younger men, they are capable of several ejaculations and masturbating him during foreplay may slow him down and get you some more attention.
Positions can make a big difference. With the man supporting himself on top, much muscle tension is created and this will tend to accelerate some men. Roll over. And now that you are rolled over there is the "squeeze technique" that I have found effective when I am on top. As he approaches climax, but before that point of no return, slidde off and place your index and middle fingers around the top of the corona and place your thumb at the bottom where the shaft meets the head. Squeez firmly for about ten seconds. He will likely become slightly softer. Slide up and take him back in.
This is a technique that has long been taught by sex therapists. I am certain that there are sexual functioning (or dysfunction) sites that describe this in greaater detail.