Sure, just add a facial at the end and a pizza delivery guy or two and you've got the perfect love-making session...

Ideas from porn? No sir, that's not the way to go. Sex is about doing what comes naturally, not following some preplanned course of "this, then that, and finally this.." And just what were you planning on doing - bringing out the egg timer? Forget about how long each activity should last - honestly, seeing as this will probably be your first time having sex with anyone, your estimates might be a bit too optimistic to say the least. Just go with the flow, and if it feels right, do it. Try not to think too much and let yourself enjoy it.

> is this right format? pl. advise...
> the only ideas i have is from the porn...

[COLOR="Red">No, not even close, not even for a Quicky![/COLOR]

> foreplay: 15 min?
oral on him: 15 min?
oral on her: 30 min?
sex 30 min?

Although you are new to the SI101 Board and Forums, I would have hoped you had read through the Index and Board Notices. The Index directs you to various articles that answer your questions and concerns. At least a couple of recent threads do, also.

Now, here's the game plan, or at least one of many:

Devote no less that half an hour to making out, longer within reason if possible. Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, all precede FOREPLAY.

There are three things wrong with your time frames: first, do not be a clock watcher; second, the times however long, are what they are. Do not block them out; three, making out in all of its various forms should be inclusive which means beginning with A, moving to B, adding C then revisiting A&B, etc. This blending, mixing, and progression of caresses, adds variety (and spice! ), and eliminates the need for blocking out so much time for this and that. What matters is how each of you respond and react to each other's kisses and caresses. This determines when to move on and by what path.

X-rated videos can be helpful for providing ideas, so what you have been doing is OK as far as you have gone. Now, please go and read the articles and learn how to be a great lover. In addition, go pick up a copy of "The Joy of Sex" from your local bookseller. Make sure it is the latest edition as the book has been rewritten several times over the years in order to maintain its being up to date.

I hope this is of help. If you have questions or concerns, please feel free to ask--after you do some reading on here.

-doc

for my first time the foreplay lasted nearly 2 hours, and that was before oral. just take your time and do what feels good.

take your time...and dont expect anything....dont expect oral.....dont expect to do or recieve anything....just go with the flow....I mean we do kinda have a couple thousand (if not million) years of instinct fueling us. do you think cave men planned out sex? NO

[QUOTE=tommy_tucker;192809]for my first time the foreplay lasted nearly 2 hours, and that was before oral. just take your time and do what feels good.[/QUOTE]

Hey Tommy,
What went on for two hours w/o oral? A continuous hand job? Man, talk about staying power!

it wasnt just one hand job it was hugging and kissing. if i could last 2 hours with out cumming i think she would leave me. but take your time, espically if you are both virgins because you will want it to be special.

Making out for 30 minutes? I have always been worried that maybe my girlfriend was growing board with making out after awhile (she never said so or really showed signs of it) Do most girls really want to make out this long before moving further?

there isnt a recipe. you dont have foreplay for fifteen minutes then go oh its time to have sex now.

> Making out for 30 minutes? I have always been worried that maybe my girlfriend was growing board with making out after awhile

> Do most girls really want to make out this long before moving further?

Once again, please read the Posting Guidelines and the Index in the Board Notices that is placed right at the top of your Main screen when you log in. It's right up top and in plain view for a reason--to give answers quickly and completely without having to post questions and wait for replies.

> (she never said so or really showed signs of it)

More than likely if she is enjoying this as much as you are. Yes, because it takes the female of the species much longer to become aroused and ready for an orgasm than the typical male. For more on all this, and much more, please read the Index. Several of us have devoted a lot of time to prepare the Sticky articles found at the top of most of the Forums. They are there for a purpose, one of which is for the convenience of you and others.

LOL Damn, I had never really thought of it in terms of breaking it down to some kind of formula. Now I feel kind of bad, I'd say that we make-out for 10 minutes tops, before moving on to oral. It's usually;

0-5 minutes kissing and touching

15-45 minute oral (for her)

5-15 bj (when I do get one)

5-30 minutes sex

5-15 oral for her (sometimes)

Actually I feel really bad:( Hmmm, I was complaining in a thread that I posted that the sex wasn't as great as I know that it could be. Maybe "0-5 minutes kissing and touching" has a little something to do with that. But we do make-out during everything else, does that count? Somehow I doubt it does:D Oh well, obviously the formula in this post of mine is NOT necessarily a good one. That being said, she always gets off at least once, usually 3 or 4 times, and I get mine, so I don't know. 5kiss + 60oral + 30sex = 5orgasms

> I'd say that we make-out for 10 minutes tops, before moving on to oral.
> I was complaining in a thread that I posted that the sex wasn't as great as I know that it could be. Maybe "0-5 minutes kissing and touching" has a little something to do with that.

Not "maybe". You hear the message, yet do you believe it?

Try fooling around or making out for at least a half hour, or more if convenient before moving on to foreplay.

> 5-30 minutes sex

If you've been reading much of what is discussed on this site, then you have probably learned that most women complain that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired.

This is not to say that sex itself cannot last longer, obviously there are times when a couple opt to make love for two or three hours. They just break up intercourse into short segments in between all the kisses and caresses.

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;192961]> I'd say that we make-out for 10 minutes tops, before moving on to oral.
> I was complaining in a thread that I posted that the sex wasn't as great as I know that it could be. Maybe "0-5 minutes kissing and touching" has a little something to do with that.

Not "maybe". You hear the message, yet do you believe it?

Try fooling around or making out for at least a half hour, or more if convenient before moving on to foreplay.[/QUOTE]

LOL, yea Doc I believe it. As someone else said, I'm not sure that she doesn't get bored of just kissing. I'm not saying that she does, but asking someone if they are bored of something can be a bit of a mood killer. I'll stretch it out from 5 to 30 or 45 minutes, and see if that helps or hurts the situation.

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;192961]> 5-30 minutes sex

If you've been reading much of what is discussed on this site, then you have probably learned that most women complain that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired.

This is not to say that sex itself cannot last longer, obviously there are times when a couple opt to make love for two or three hours. They just break up intercourse into short segments in between all the kisses and caresses.[/QUOTE]

Yea Doc, I've read. But i also know that women aren't all the same, as is also pointed out quite regularly around here. The last woman that I was sleeping with, was very happy with anywhere from 20 minutes to 1 1/2 hours of intercourse.That being said, my current girlfriend won't tell me how long she wants to have sex, so I tend to lean more toward 5-15 minutes. With 30 being about the max.

0-5 minutes of kissing/touching? Damn, man, talk about the absolute minimum... You're right about that having something to do with your problems. Show her you appreciate her. Turn her on. Earn it.

Ever see that movie The Meaning Of Life? Remember the part about turning a woman on? No, you don't do it by licking her nipples or rubbing her clitoris - You give her a kiss!

[QUOTE=cjb1981;192978]I'm not sure that she doesn't get bored of just kissing. I'm not saying that she does, but asking someone if they are bored of something can be a bit of a mood killer[/QUOTE]

Does she get bored with just kissing? Do YOU? If that's really a concern, then why wouldn't you also be worried that she gets bored of oral and penetration as well? Apparently you spend a lot longer on those activities...

Anyway - It's highly doubtful. When I'm with a girl, we can spend 4 hours together just making out. I've never heard any complaints...

If a girl only made out with me for 5 minutes before moving on to oral, I'd be disappointed and maybe even a little angry.

OK, we've covered kissing, yet I'm not convinced the message is clear about fooling around and making out and the importance of this. There used to be a saying that I have not seen used recently:

"Roman hands and Russian fingers". Thinkaboutit and put the three together for that 30-45 minutes, and then move onto foreplay yet do not stop with the R&R&K.

Huu? Doc, you might as well be speaking German. I will say this in my defense, I have never been like this with other girls. Usually, I go with kissing for much longer. Oedipussy, I too have made out with girls for hours on end before moving beyond. The thing is, they seemed to enjoy it a lot! It really got them worked up. I knew that making-out for hours was doing something for them. That isn't so much the case with this girl. Sure, she enjoys kissing, which is why we kiss while doing everything else. When I said that we only kiss for 5 minutes, I meant kissing exclusively. However, during breast-play...I get nothing. No real response what so ever. She's a D cup and says that she doesn't have much feeling in them, and that it doesn't do anything for her. So, I don't include them as much as I usually do, and therefore don't spend as much time on foreplay. I promise you that I'm not a selfish lover, if anything, it's the opposite. I do what I know the other person wants done. My girlfriend is somewhat responsive when we kiss, so we kiss while doing everything. She orgasms when I go down on her, so I go down on her for as long as it takes. I go with what has been shown to work. The formula that I wrote a few post up works, (and no, I don't just do that constantly) I do try other things. Oh, and my original point was that, yes Doc, I promise, it has sunk in and I will be sure to makeout with my girlfriend for a long long time before I throw anything else into the mix.

the easiest w ay for me to pick up on when my boyfriends really appreciating is just with a hug or a kiss

I really don't mind making out for such a long time.
Gets me kinda idk I guess you can say ready for sex.
You can't just jump into and pressure her into this and that.
Just go slow.